My friend is a compulsive liar

[Deleted]

That's fucked up.

[Deleted]

I did. I dealt by unfriending. I can't handle liars. At all.

[dexteroni]

I did in high school; her lies were mostly in the form of "you won't believe what happened to me" stories. They too were harmless, but so obviously untrue. We ended up drifting apart so the problem solved itself. Years later I heard that she was busted for passing bad checks.

[mrsw101109]

My best friend from high school was a compulsive liar. I dealt by ending the realtionship.

Some of her lies included:
She had ovarian cancer.
She was pregant/had an abortion (keep in mind she was a virgin)
Her mother was beating her.
Random boys at school were beating her meanwhile she never even spoke to them.


Want to be frightened? She is a kindegarten teacher now. She could be teaching your child!

[bunch]

Yes. It's weird. We just assume everything that he says is untrue.

[protozoa]

I would tell a lot of tall tales when I was a kid. Thank goodness I grew out of it. I don't know any adults who do this.

[Rachael070707]

My MOH is this to a T. We were BFFs while living in Florida during college. We worked together, lived together, went to class together. Basically I knew this girl inside and out.

At some point after college and now I realized everything new out of her mouth was a lie or strech. For example, she is a born and raised NOLA girl. During Katrina she was living in Georgia. But if Katrina comes up, she was there and lived through it. I've done my time volunteering on missions to rebuild after Katrina and I know her family escaped with minimal damage. It makes me so mad when she lies about it. At one point her now-DH owned his own business and was uber successful. But then somehow he ended up fired? Now he's supposedly some big honcho at his new company and they're raking in the bucks again. 8-D

She's also one of those Holy-rolling, God-fearing Southern church women who drops slurs out of nowhere. So basically she lies and I don't agree with her on anything politics or religion related and become incredibly offended when she drops some words... I've really kept myself at a distance the last 1-2 years. It hurts because we were so close but I know over time people just drift apart. I wonder how I never picked up on it before but I guess at least it's better I wised up eventually.

[mbcdefg]

I mentioned an ex-friend from college before that turned out to be a freaking nutjob. I was walking through the cafeteria and found a $20 bill on the ground, so when I met up with her later I exclaimed, "Hey, I just found $20!" She popped her eyes opened, clapped her hand to her pocket, and said, "OMG! I just lost $20 earlier today!" And like a fucking idiot, I gave it to her.

She also used to go on and on about how much she knew about medical procedures, for some reason that I forget. We were both friends with my now-husband, before he and I started dating. She started into some lecture about how to draw blood and he suddenly said, "My mom's a nurse. They don't do it that way," and she just said, "Oh" with a sheepish look. I think I fell in love with him that day

And I think she had a crush on MH because when we started dating she started being really nasty to me. Also told me that we'd never last and we were just dating out of "convenience" since we only lived a mile apart, unlike her and her awesome boyfriend who lived a whole 10 miles apart ... the same boyfriend who'd broken up with her a few months earlier but would regularly contact her to get blowjobs and "borrow" $300 at a time. She said that giving him the money would give her "closure" on the relationship. Moron.

[MrsAxilla]

I had a friend who compulsive lied. We called him Mike the Liar. One day he hooked up with my BFF, who also knew him as Mike the Liar. They started dating and he told her lies about me. Ridiculous stuff, like I read her diary and shared it with our friends. She believed him and broke up with me instead. Apparently they are married and have two kids, but I haven't spoken to either of them in ten years. I don't really have a point except that I'm still bitter.

[dr.girlfriend]

Aug 15, 2012 11:02:13 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

I had a friend who compulsive lied. We called him Mike the Liar. One day he hooked up with my BFF, who also knew him as Mike the Liar. They started dating and he told her lies about me. Ridiculous stuff, like I read her diary and shared it with our friends. She believed him and broke up with me instead. Apparently they are married and have two kids, but I haven't spoken to either of them in ten years. I don't really have a point except that I'm still bitter.

Sorry, I know this is hurtful for you and all that, but I'm cracking up about someone choosing to date "Mike the Liar." I imagine the conversation going like this:

Her: "Who's that?"
You: "Mike the Liar."
Her: "Oooh...is he single?"

[WOT?*]

Aug 14, 2012 12:30:41 GMT -5 rex said:

Calling her out on it won't necessarily work.

My sister is a compulsive liar. We have told her. She has been caught in more serious lies. It doesn't matter.

The only thing to do is know that they likely aren't telling the truth about things and then either distance yourself or deal with it.

Switch sister for daughter. I have tried for years (about two decades actually) to get her to understand and realize it's not okay. A great deal of it is wanting to be accepted, and an inferiority complex. In her case it's also CYA, to stay out of trouble and gamesmanship and manipulation to get her way; sometimes there's even a bit of fantasy involved because it's how she *wants* things to be so badly. It's caused a lot of problems and grief in her life (including with all her family), but she can't or won't stop doing it. I've reached the point where I just "uh-huh" and go on with the conversation. I also (sadly) screen calls when I don't feel like dealing with BS or having to muddle through conversations to figure out what is truth and what isn't. When what she tells me actually occurs is when I believe her, pretty much. Sad to say but it's become the reality with those who compulsively lie. People like this have problems other than compulsively lying, problems which need to be sorted out in therapy, imo.

This is the one with two daughters, who are starting to pick up the trait. When they're at my house, I'm teaching them that "if you're about to tell me something that isn't true, you had better stop, close your mouth and think about what you're telling me. If it's not truth, you need to stop and start over with the truth." If they continue the lie then they get in trouble. If they stop, start over and tell me the truth they get thanked. Literally. "Thank you for stopping and telling me the truth." Daughter's tendency, unfortunately, has effects on the next generation and I'm still trying to teach her what is right and what is wrong.

I tried doing that with daughter when she was little but the darling dear ex didn't see the point of it. "It's only a (whatever "little" thing it might be)" rather than seeing my point of "she's lying and she needs to learn to not do that." And seeing her dad with his "check's in the mail" or "I'll be there" on a regular basis didn't help matters. DH's dad was the same way, which is why we are aboth absolutely adamant that if we promise the grands something, we will deliver. They need to know they can count on someone at all times.