Do you have to feel to ask your DH to stay home? DH can use sick time if I feel sick but I still feel a little guilty. At the same time I feel like crap...
I've never asked DH to stay home before. I imagine if I had the actual flu/really felt like I needed to be bedridden I'd ask him to stay home but thankfully that's never happened.
Yea, I've only ever done it once. It's more tempting that he can take sick time, but then if he has deadlines he'll just have to work late other days or on the weekend.
Yeah, if I were in your shoes, as much as it would be nice to have him home, I'd probably regret it when he has to work late other days or on the weekend.
I can ask DH to stay home but his job doesn't have deadlines or anything per se...he just works 8 hours, the end. If it meant missed time later, I might not ask him to stay home....I hope you fell better soon so you can enjoy your day!!
Post by Kcthepouchh8r on May 20, 2015 9:02:42 GMT -5
Happy birthday!
I ask dh to stay home for more serious stuff like when I had a stomach virus and fever/chills and couldn't get out of bed. If he had some time he was going to lose if he didn't use soon I probably would ask for something less serious. Usually we just try to save extra sick days for spontaneously going somewhere fun or to do something around the house.
My H stayed home for me exactly twice. The first time I had the worst stomach bug ever and literally couldn't get out of bed. The second time was the day after my dad died and I didn't want to get out of bed.
Anyway, happy birthday and I hope you feel better.
H has stayed home a handful of times, but only when I absolutely felt like death and could not get out of bed. The last time, and most obviously necessary, was during the miscarriage. I think he stayed home a total of 3 days so he could take care of L while I miscarried.
Post by mamaalysson on May 20, 2015 9:20:53 GMT -5
I'm not sure DH has ever taken a full day off because I was sick, but he has gone in late/come home early/left at lunch to help me out a few times. Once when I had a migraine so bad I ended up at the ER and once when I had a bad stomach bug and could hardly stand.
Post by goillini823 on May 20, 2015 9:34:24 GMT -5
I've asked home twice. Once I had the swine flu and DD was 14 months old. I literally couldn't even move I was so weak. Another was for the worst stomach bug ever. I was pregnant with DS2 and end up in the hospital for dehydration.
I've never had to ask but I have my parents in town so last year when I had a stomach thing we just camped out at their place for a few days. DH's work doesn't really keep track of sick days and DH can work from home whenever he wants, but most of his day is meeting people and companies and that's done all over town or out of town so it would seriously mess up his day if I needed him to stay put at home. Sometimes these company meetings are tough to get and its at the whim of the company so we've rescheduled dinners, even vacations because of his job.
Happy birthday! I can only think of 1 time and that was last year when I had food poisoning and felt like I was dying. With his job though, he can work remotely on his laptop and just log in to the network. So he was physically here, but technically still working.
Post by dizzycooks on May 20, 2015 13:05:45 GMT -5
I've never asked him to stay home for me. When I'm working we try to split sick kid days 50/50, but I am the one who gets the call because he can't physically get to them in a reasonable amount of time so I end up dropping everything and going. I've never been so sick I can't handle it I guess. I'm not opposed to playing dead on the floor while the kids wreak havok on the house though, so there's that.
Post by andrewsgal on May 20, 2015 13:20:21 GMT -5
FTR when I start working if he is in town it will be a hindered times easier for him to leave mid day than me. So he will pick up the slack there. He basically sets his own hours. So if a kid needs picked up at 10 am he can do it.
Happy bday! This hasn't happened yet since I stopped working, but I would ask him to stay for high fever or a stomach bug. Problem is that during his busy times he really almost can't stay home, so I might have to try to get his mom or a sitter instead of him.
When DD1 was 6 months old I got mastitis really bad. I was working then but still have some maternity leave days I was using up and there was no sitter that day. No one could help. I told him that if that ever happened again he would just have to find a way to be home.I had a 103 fever and felt like I had a terrible flu. I laid on the floor dangling toys for DD feeling miserable.
MH took two sick days when DS and I had the flu in January. Prior to that, he's only taken one other day off in the three years I've been SAH, and it was for a migraine that left me with temporary vision loss and explosive vomiting.
So, in short, generally something like the flu/strep/bronchitis, a severe, SEVERE migraine, and probably a stomach bug (thankfully I haven't had one of those in years).
Post by iheartthe80s on May 20, 2015 17:55:24 GMT -5
Back in Sept my oldest was getting over a stomach bug, and I became sick within an hour. I called him and he came home early because I couldn't even get out of bed….unless I was over the toilet in a variety of ways. That's it though.
I ask dh to stay home for more serious stuff like when I had a stomach virus and fever/chills and couldn't get out of bed. If he had some time he was going to lose if he didn't use soon I probably would ask for something less serious. Usually we just try to save extra sick days for spontaneously going somewhere fun or to do something around the house.
Does he have sick days and vacation days or just PTO out of one lumped together amount? If he has sick and vacation separate, I judge a bit for using sick for "going somewhere fun"
Post by lindsay9911 on May 20, 2015 20:24:22 GMT -5
Can't move or get out of the bed sick. He's had to do it once when I had a horrible stomach virus and had to take a phenegran which knocked me out! Unfortunately his position makes it hard for him to call in last minute so 99.9% of the time, I have to tough it out! Thankfully I rarely get sick!
I ask dh to stay home for more serious stuff like when I had a stomach virus and fever/chills and couldn't get out of bed. If he had some time he was going to lose if he didn't use soon I probably would ask for something less serious. Usually we just try to save extra sick days for spontaneously going somewhere fun or to do something around the house.
Does he have sick days and vacation days or just PTO out of one lumped together amount? If he has sick and vacation separate, I judge a bit for using sick for "going somewhere fun"
Sick days are separate. This also may be a dumber thing to judge than flip flops.
Does he have sick days and vacation days or just PTO out of one lumped together amount? If he has sick and vacation separate, I judge a bit for using sick for "going somewhere fun"
Sick days are separate. This also may be a dumber thing to judge than flip flops.
Agreed. DH's sick days are use 'em or lose 'em. Since he rarely gets sick often enough to use them, you're darn tootin' he'll use a sick day or two during the year so we can do something fun as a family.
Sick days are separate. This also may be a dumber thing to judge than flip flops.
Agreed. DH's sick days are use 'em or lose 'em. Since he rarely gets sick often enough to use them, you're darn tootin' he'll use a sick day or two during the year so we can do something fun as a family.
i disagree. Sick days are for sickness not a trip to the zoo. Lying to your employer and coworkers is rude.
Post by amynumbers on May 21, 2015 12:45:06 GMT -5
Nope. If sick days are use or lose, use them. I could not give less fucks.
Now, DH's sick time in on an honor system -- take what you want, get your work done, and you are cool. It is separate from other PTO. So in that case he never lies about being sick.
BUt getting X days a year, and not using them AND not being able to be paid out for them if you leave -- yeah, use some. I left my pre-kids job with 45 sick days accumulated that got jack shit for. No thanks.