I told my family.

[cactuscookie]

I'm very aware that 14dpo is very early to be making any announcements, but because I had to travel for treatment and I stayed with my parents, everyone knows the schedule, and they knew that I knew on Friday.

I was kind of disconcerting, but also refreshing, to be around people who are confident that everything will turn out okay. I kept trying to tamper their excitement, but even my sister, who's had a miscarriage, said she was sure everything will be fine.

I can't be quite that sure of things, but I do feel better for now. It also helps that I haven't had any spotting in days.

[boiler717]

I think this is definitely a TETO thing! So many people knew we did IVF, so it's only natural to let them know how it went. Everyone is different on the type of support they want in beginning pregnancy, there's no right or wrong.

[G22]

I swore I didn't want to tell our families until after the first u/s. But I was so excited, we told our parents after the 2nd beta came back strong. I held out for 2 whole days, but I don't regret it. It wouldn't have been fair to make them wait 3 weeks for our first u/s, since they knew we went through IVF and were awaiting the results semi-patiently.

[pooh8402]

There is no right or wrong way to announce. I called our entire family, both sides, the day of my BFP at 12 dpo equivalent.

[ginkgoleaf]

I only found out 2 days ago and 4 friends and my parents already know. They all knew we were doing IVF, including the exact test date, so it was only fair to tell them. We'll wait to at least 8 weeks for DH's parents and some other friends. It's totally a personal decision and everyone we've told knows about our loss and we would want them to know about another loss, if it were to happen.

[cactuscookie]

It's nice to hear that I'm not the only one! Sometimes treatment is so disruptive of your normal routine that it's impossible to keep it from the people who are close to you - and if they know when you'd find out, it's that much harder to keep the results from them.

[ivy]

That's awesome! I'm glad you are so supported!!

I've only told my sister, who knew about IVF. Our parents and friends have no idea, and right now I don't think we'll tell anyone about the pregnancy until 12 weeks. Our parents are great, but I wouldn't turn to them for support in the case of a miscarriage, and if think I can pretty much count on all of them to say the wrong thing.

I didn't mean to make this about me I'm glad that you're glad you confided in them!!

[belovedbride07]

We told my mom the same day I got my positive HPT. I FaceTimed her, and seeing her reaction was priceless. (I told stepdad and brother, too.) I was going to wait and tell my dad and stepmom this weekend, but I couldn't hold out and told them Monday evening (after my beta). Other than that, DH's work BFF and his wife know, and my boss sort of knows but I haven't explicitly told him. (He knew I was doing IVF, and then knew I had my blood work, and now knows "things are going well.") We're going to tell DH's parents, SIL, GMIL, and our closest friends after the first US, and then the rest of the family around 9 weeks.

We still haven't decided when to tell at work; a bunch of DH's co-workers knew about our IVF, and I wouldn't mind them knowing now except I'm not ready to be public at my job, and there are a lot of social/professional networking overlaps.

[linz]

My parents and bff knew we did IVF. I lied about our beta date so told them all after I got 2nd number. I was happy I did. We didn't tell in laws until 11 weeks but they can't keep a secret and I wasn't ready for everyone to know.

[linz]

I also called my mom after the first u/s when we saw twins. I was a mess so was glad I had someone to tell. Even though we transferred 2 it was still a lot to process.

[azurely]

We told everyone who knew we did IVF right away. My parents, brother and (then future) SIL, and my two BFFs. I wanted their prayers and they were all waiting to hear the news.

We didn't tell anyone else until after the NT scan at 13 weeks though.

[loira]

Two of my good friends, my parents and our vicar know. I need all the support I can get right now, and these are people I would tell if I end up miscarrying again anyway.

[luv2rn4fun]

We told immediate family right away with all three. We told a ton of people right away with our second and C as well. After going through our first loss (and then second) we knew that we wanted all the prayers and support. It was nice to be able to lean on everyone when I was feeling anxious (with our second and C). Also, the support we had through both losses and our pregnancy with C was unbelievable...people shared in our joy and surrounded us with love when we were really struggling in our grief. I wouldn't change a thing of how we did things. I figure I would want the support in the event that we did have another loss.

Congrats! Prayers for a very happy, healthy, and uneventful pregnancy!

[ssg73]

Close friends and dw's parents and sister know and we told them right away. My parents have not been told but they watched dd for the retrieval so they will be expecting something soon. We are going to wait until after the ultrasound to tell them and my sister and dw's brother. I really hope that we get to the point where we can tell dd. My friend who is also a pro photographer has volunteered to do a photo reveal shoot and I think it would be fun to get dd's reaction on camera!