Well good for her I guess As for me, I have never looked good in a bikini pre or post kids (too flat chested). Womp womp. I've actually never even worn one out in public, lol.
Of course it's a thing when all women are good for is looking pretty.
I don't believe that, but it seems most of society does. I don't find this new "trend" surprising at all.
I don't really think this is true of general society. How many of us know regular people posing in their bikinis one week (or even six weeks) pp? It's a celebrity/social media thing. It's a characteristic of living in a post Paris Hilton/Kim Kardashian world where you can be famous for no discernible reason. This woman and the other one posted here (the one with the pregnant six pack) post pictures of themselves because that's basically their job and how they make their living.
Fuck that shit. I didn't leave my bedroom for 3 days or the house for a week after delivery.
I hate that at a time when women should be taking care of themselves and child society tells us we need to be thinking about how we look. That was the LAST thing on my mind.
This makes me angry because it further sets up completely unrealistic expectation in men. It's bad enough normally, but now I'm sure some poor woman will have that expectation put on her by a husband, boyfriend, hell an employer. I'm over it.
Part of me is saying good for her, and part of me has been trying to put into words the issue I have with the whole thing. I think @this's description of the double standard summed it up perfectly though.
We should do a within a week PP thread. I took a pic of myself in the hospital thinking, "Oh man, I'm so much smaller!" Now I look at it, and I'm look, "Holy crap! I do not look as good as I thought I did!" But meh. I was always fat, and I just had a baby. NBD.
I have a few pics of me while I was still in the hospital, but no more for the next few weeks. Looking back, that makes me sad
My husband looked at my stomach the yesterday and smiled. Then he told me I looked good. I mean, he's full of shit but it was lovely to hear nonetheless. I am lucky to have him.
I would post a headless pic here if it would make you all feel better.
I have a problem saying, "Well, good for her...?" This is wider reaching than that. This perspective (?) "Yay for you for bouncing back!" does not need to be celebrated and embraced. That's what's expected of us as women and mothers even though it is so so so far from realistic. And that's setting aside the fact that all it does it perpetuate the obsession with women's bodies.
The more I think about this, the angrier I get. Yay Dad-bod! They're so funny and cute and attractive! But you are fat and lazy and just don't work hard enough or have enough willpower if you're a pudgy mom. Such a fucking double standard.
And the moms are the ones who actually had a major body altering experience. I mean even if she lookalike she "bounced back"...her vag & hormones sure haven't.
I don't know, I think it is really normal for women to want to look and feel like their pre pregnant selves and part of that involves losing the baby weight. I don't find that desire to be problematic. What is more of problem imo is the pressure people put on themselves, and the pressure the media puts on celebrities in particular, to bounce back right away. So she's not helping with that. But otoh, she is apparently pushing some type of pregnancy fitness routine so I guess she can argue that this is part of her job. At least she admits that she worked really hard for that body. A lot of celebrities think it is more aspiration to have you think they are eating cheeseburgers every night and still look like they do, that they're just extra "lucky" that way.
I don't know how to feel about this. I don't think photos like this mean that we all have to look like this 6 days or even 6 weeks postpartum. But I see how some (both men and women) might view it as the "ideal". We're just all built differently and carry babies differently and deliver them differently and recover differently. One way isn't better than another. Some may seem more natural (um, vegging out in yoga pants with undie sundaes was my recovery) but better?
And no, I can't see myself in a bikini 6 days PP, but why does that mean she can't wear one?
Post by runblondie26 on May 26, 2015 12:24:18 GMT -5
I don't even care what she looks like, I can't get past the bleeing situation and wearing a white bikini. How is she not bleeding like a dying animal at 6 days PP?
Lol, I just put on a bikini top and took a picture. I look more pregnant at 7 days PP than she does in her pregnant shot! That is probably why I don't look like her. That and big macs. And milkshakes. And anything salted caramel.
I don't even care what she looks like, I can't get past the bleeing situation and wearing a white bikini. How is she not bleeding like a dying animal at 6 days PP?
The photo is strategically cropped. I'm sure she has a giant pad and an ice pack tucked in her crotch. Genetics and hard work can help with the stomach, but I'm sure she's still bleeding.
On top of everything above, I'm disgusted that her husband made a point of posting these pics online with comments about his wife. Why not focus more on your new child than the current state of your wife's body? Fucking gross, man.
Post by badtzmaru22 on May 26, 2015 12:31:23 GMT -5
Well, my baby came out twice that big, sooo.... Lol.
I think stuff like this is annoying and unrealistic, but I also just don't care. I think I looked ok postpartum, just like I think I look ok the rest of the time, just different. I don't care what someone else looks like.
I also don't think anyone can really do anything to ensure they look a certain way right after giving birth, so who cares? I think the majority of society is aware of how most women look immediately postpartum. There's always going to be an idiot in the comments section.
I totally looked like this 6 days after I gave birth to TWO babies that looked to be about the size of her one baby. Oh wait, just kiddinG. 14 mos later I still look pregnant
But really, I'm just glad I'm not famous so I didn't have to try and pretend my 3 children in 21 mos didnt destroy my body! My career would have been over!
people who are all "good for her!" "I'd do it if I could!" "yeah you go girl" and such crap- STAAAAAAAHHHHPPPP it
do people really not see why this is an issue? really? Like we ourselves haven't lived a full life already of societal pressure to look good, media telling us no matter HOW good we look it's still not that good actually.
Now that I have a daughter this crap enrages me all the more. I don't want my daughter growing up in a world where this behavior is "Revered". If there was EVER a time a woman should be able to just.. relax and eat and look like shit, it's 6 days after birthing a baby you just carried for nine months.
I mean, really it sounds like a very sad life to me but it's glamorized. It sends a bad message to women, young girls.
I mean, not that I feel strongly about it or anything lol
you are doing nothing to help the progression of women! shit like this is why people think women should have no problem going back to work at 6 weeks pp.
you just had a baby, ffs. it's a traumatic event. go home and HEAL.
And no, I can't see myself in a bikini 6 days PP, but why does that mean she can't wear one?
No one is saying she can't wear a bikini.
What she doesn't have to do is go blasting to the media about how she got there by taking a class that involves the word "sculpt" in the title the entire time she was pregnant. Again, not realistic for most women while they're pregnant. (Nor should it be?)
She knew the comments that would follow. She knew that this particular picture especially would bring on a wave of "Good for yous!" and "That's how you do it!" and "Way to bounce back!"
Also her husband is also blabbing to media outlets about her body. Which, in itself, is enough for me to abhor posting the picture.
I'll admit to skimming the post, but did she post it or did her husband? And I have no idea what the media outlets are doing. I was simply talking about this photo.
Would you be more upset (irate? annoyed? I don't know the right word here!) if she had good genetics and didn't have to work her ass off for her pregnant and postpartum body? I am trying to understand your position on her working out during pregnancy. That's not a bad thing and a lot of people do it. They're just not famous and therefor don't have the same platform she does.
I don't know. Maybe I should be more upset but I am also hopeful this won't make people think 6 days after you have a kid that you should look like this. I think people know better and hence the fascination with this "anomaly".
I don't know, I think it is really normal for women to want to look and feel like their pre pregnant selves and part of that involves losing the baby weight. I don't find that desire to be problematic. What is more of problem imo is the pressure people put on themselves, and the pressure the media puts on celebrities in particular, to bounce back right away. So she's not helping with that. But otoh, she is apparently pushing some type of pregnancy fitness routine so I guess she can argue that this is part of her job. At least she admits that she worked really hard for that body. A lot of celebrities think it is more aspiration to have you think they are eating cheeseburgers every night and still look like they do, that they're just extra "lucky" that way.
Eh. I don't really care why she's doing it or that she's a celebrity. She's encouraging an ideal that's unrealistic for 99.9% of women. She has a platform and how she's using it is damaging to the majority of women IMO.
I see what you mean. I can go either way about it. Mostly because I don't know anything about her, so I guess I am giving her the benefit of the doubt. She might be an obnoxious person who does obnoxious, braggy things all the time. The only thing I know about her is that she is married to someone famous (I don't even know who he is, lol) and that she apparently has a fitness blog and she's trying to attract more followers to it. If you are pregnant and looking for a blog to give advice on staying in shape, aren't you going to be intrigued by someone who looks like that one week pp? It's good promotional material for her.
I guess it's an UO but I HATED being pregnant with a passion. I even disliked all the kicking and rolling around in there. I just didn't feel like myself at all and couldn't wait to have the baby and to feel "alone" in my body again. So I understand and sympathize with people who want to lose the weight right away as part of feeling like their old selves again. But I don't think it's good for women to feel pressured to do it right away, which is why I'm kind of iffy on her one week photo. And then again on the other hand, I feel like she has a right to be proud of her body. You have to work really hard and dedicate a lot of time and energy to look like that. So I'm conflicted.