Creepy or nice? Teachers weigh in please....

[blane12]

So B had his last day of preschool today. He was only in class from the beginning of April, and will be with this same teacher and aide next year.  I am not Facebook friends with either of them, but have seen their pages.  I was thinking about sending each of them a message thanking them for helping Blake this year.  Is that creepy and weird since I am not fb friends with them, or do you think they would appreciate it?  I saw them and talked to them every day at pickup and drop off since I've been on maternity leave.

[TrudyCampbell]

Can you email?

[The Foozzler]

Trying to friend them on Facebook= weird to me. I never accept parents as friends.
Sending a thank you through Facebook messenger= not as weird.

[jg183]

I think a true heartfelt thank you is awesome. Are they still working all summer it is it closed? I'd probably mail a thank you note or fb message if they are off for summer

[steph196]

I wouldn't consider a Facebook to be overly weird. Some teachers don't check work email at all during the summer, so a FB message would be fairly appropriate.

[Regina Philange]

You don't have emails??

I would email, not fb.

[blane12]

May 28, 2015 18:15:54 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Can you email?

No I don't have their emails - just the principals email

[TrudyCampbell]

I'd send a hand written note probably

[blane12]

May 28, 2015 18:17:21 GMT -5 The Foozzler said:

Trying to friend them on Facebook= weird to me. I never accept parents as friends.
Sending a thank you through Facebook messenger= not as weird.

Yeah, I wasn't going to try to friend them because I figure that is too personal.  

Not as as weird means still weird huh?  Lol.  This is why I was hesitating.  It means that I creepily searched for them on fb which is why I am questioning it.  

Maybe be I should just let it go?  I told them both thank you in a rush today because we had their program and it was chaos all around.

[blane12]

May 28, 2015 18:19:16 GMT -5 jg183 said:

I think a true heartfelt thank you is awesome. Are they still working all summer it is it closed? I'd probably mail a thank you note or fb message if they are off for summer

They are off all summer.  So if I mailed, I'm not sure if it would get to them before fall

i mean we we would discuss Blake at every pickup for 5-10min and the day and sometimes other things, but it's not like we're really friends or anything.

[The Foozzler]

May 28, 2015 18:53:53 GMT -5 blane12 said:

May 28, 2015 18:17:21 GMT -5 The Foozzler said:

Trying to friend them on Facebook= weird to me. I never accept parents as friends.
Sending a thank you through Facebook messenger= not as weird.

Yeah, I wasn't going to try to friend them because I figure that is too personal.  

Not as as weird means still weird huh?  Lol.  This is why I was hesitating.  It means that I creepily searched for them on fb which is why I am questioning it.  

Maybe be I should just let it go?  I told them both thank you in a rush today because we had their program and it was chaos all around.

I am pretty easy to find on Facebook because I have a very unique last name. If a parent wanted to thank me and had no other way and sought me out on Facebook I wouldn't think it was weird. But it is a slightly different situation for me because all parents have my work email address and I check it all the time.

[imimahoney]

I think a message is fine. I wouldn't freak out if a parent sent me one.

[lolaburns]

I would send a hand written note.

[kdrake8]

I wouldn't Facebook message. I find the messages slightly unsettling (friend requests much more so, though) and I often block. If you sent a nice message I probably wouldn't block you but I also probably wouldn't reply.

[Beener]

I would do an email or a handwritten note, even if they don't get it until August.

[blane12]

Thanks for the input guys! I think I will hold off on fb'ing.

[jg183]

They might still be there tomorrow closing up maybe call in the morning and drop off notes and coffee or something