New to the Military, please help.

[jgoo]

My husband recently left for Basic. I have two small babies, one who is almost 3. Our little girl is 18 months. We're from the Midwest and knew the kids would have a tough time without Daddy, so we decided to come down to Florida. My best friend offered to take us in, she has kids close in age to ours, and it seemed like a great distraction.

But I want to go home.

The kids got sick the second we got down here. They scream and cry allllll day long. Not only asking for Daddy, but asking for numerous family members we left behind who were a large part of their life. They're not having fun, not playing, barely sleeping. They are fighting over me because I am the only one they know who can give them attention.

I've tried to talk to a few people about going home and they're just telling me "Welcome to the Military, suck it up". I'm not complaining about hubby being gone or handling the kids on my own, I just wish we hadn't left home.

I'm not really sure what I'm looking for here. Advice? Support? Someone to tell me it's okay to go home if the kids will be happier?

Everybody keeps saying to suck it up and in a few weeks they'll adjust. But I can't handle another day of them screaming and crying and begging to go home.

[sorry this became so long]

[softspot]

Go home. You will be separated from family long enough that now isn't the time to deal with it.

[verycontrary247]

Aug 15, 2012 14:44:53 GMT -5 softspot said:

Go home. You will be separated from family long enough that now isn't the time to deal with it.

This.

Good luck.

[nsl]

Go home. Your kids are telling you what they need--listen to them.

[pennylane]

Go home. You have to do what you feel is best for yourself and your children.

[bettydraper]

Definitely go home.

[basilosaurus]

Wait, why are you in FL? Is that where he is, but you can't see him? I'm kind of confused about this.

[honeybadger]

I agree with what everyone has said. Go home.

[jgoo]

Aug 15, 2012 17:40:14 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

Aug 15, 2012 17:39:16 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

Wait, why are you in FL? Is that where he is, but you can't see him? I'm kind of confused about this.

What she said. Why Florida?

Go home.

My best friend lives down here and we thought it would be a better distraction. Kids their age in the house, a short drive to the beach, etc.

I appreciate the comments. I feel like going home is the right thing but wanted to hear what other Military women thought. I'm new to this and didn't want to appear weak but going home.

[basilosaurus]

I rarely say this, but go home. I thought you had a stronger reason for moving than just visiting a friend.

My only caveat is if you just got there, and the kids just got sick, and you really think it's a better decision overall to be in FL, stick it out for a bit. Wait for the kids to get better, get used to it, and then reevaluate.

I don't think it's weak to live at home, but I'll admit I don't get the concept. I haven't lived at home since I went to college, by design. I was out on my own years before even dating H, so when people ask if I'll move "back" home when he's gone, I get all confuzzled.

[mom2many2012]

2 words: Go Home. Actually 2 more: Good luck :heart: