I'm genuinely not trying to start a board war, but holy hell - people have some strong opinions about what other people wear.
Things that are frumpy: boot cut jeans, sneakers (even fashionable non-running type), limited or minimal makeup, limited or no accessories, athletic clothing depending on who you ask, not tucking your shirt into a skirt...The list is endless.
I felt weirdly defensive while reading that thread. I don't feel frumpy at all but I also felt like most of them were describing me.
There are plenty of people on MMM that don't agree with those descriptions. I couldn't even read the whole thread, I found it all so ridiculous and tiresome.
I agree, I don't think any of those things themselves are frumpy.
I said it there- and first let me say, I don't give a shit what anyone else wears, ever, but personally properly fitting clothes is what I consider to be the #1 thing to not look frumpy, I am a 12/14, if I try and squeeze myself into my old 8s (sob) or into something too big, I don't look good .
What kind of jeans are you supposed to wear with sneakers? That confuses me.
They don't think anyone should ever wear sneakers. If you are you should be wearing form fitting gym apparel, but you can only be at a gym. Don't even think about stepping into the grocery store in your gym clothes!
Looking at someone's outfit and saying "cute" or "not my style" is one thing but that judging seems extreme. Why would you waste your time analyzing the amount of makeup and accessories someone is wearing to decide if they look frumpy or not - who cares?
I mean, I look like ass 99% of the time when I go out with all 3 kids. It's hard to get them all out the door! I have sofia insisting on putting her shoes on the wrong feet, so I deal with that and then Theo's already taking his clothes off because I'm taking too long, then I have to change the baby because he shat for the 89th time that morning, then Theo's taking his clothes off again. So yeah. I'm frumpy and give no fucks.
At the end of it I sort of settled on "I actually LIKE these things that they're describing as frumpy. So uhhh, I guess I'm embracing my frump."
I was all up in that thread, because I think things like that are fun to discuss as long as people don't end up feeling judged. But really, I agree with you. I end up feeling that way by the end of a bunch of "fashion" posts on gbcn. This is a weird place where it's somehow only "acceptable" to wear like one pair of jeans, one swimsuit and a few Land's End dresses. Where anything a little different gets a chorus of "No. Just no." Dumb.
Im currently in bootcut jeans and teva flip flops. I just ordered a fanny pack diaper bag. I don't feel at all frumpy.
This place has a hard time with shades of gray.
My uniform is bootcut jeans, a fitted tshirt (the same exact one in every color Ann Taylor has to offer), and either Chacos on the weekend or Reebok Nanos.
FRUMPY FRUMP FRUMP *hair flip* (with my long, straight red hair that I do nothing with but straighten lol)
Omg it's amazing to me some of the judginess on the other boards! Wfcares? If I'm happy with what I'm wearing that's all I care about! If you're happy about yourself, great! I only worry about me! :/) Plus I think this board in particular always looks great! Happy, strong women! <3
What kind of jeans are you supposed to wear with sneakers? That confuses me.
Expensive trendy skinny jeans, duh.
Unless you're a fatty and look like a sausage. Fatties shouldn't wear jeans. Fatties should just stay in the house and/or magically lose all that weight so they CAN wear those expensive trendy skinny jeans.
Yeah I started reading it and had to stop because I felt that way too. I wear boot cut jeans, sweatshirts and sneakers a lot of the time when I am not working. I feel frumpy enough on a day to day basis without having it spelled out for me. Honestly though, I wear what is appropriate for what I am doing. I dress nice for work or events but on any random weekend I don't feel like I need to go all out just to hang around the house.
What kind of jeans are you supposed to wear with sneakers? That confuses me.
Expensive trendy skinny jeans, duh.
Unless you're a fatty and look like a sausage. Fatties shouldn't wear jeans. Fatties should just stay in the house and/or magically lose all that weight so they CAN wear those expensive trendy skinny jeans.
OH WAIT I hadn't finished reading. No sneakers at all. Just skinny jeans and ballet flats.
What the fuck? I wear that uniform a lot, but sometimes I just want to wear my chucks.
I had no idea boot cut jeans were "out." I'm going to go put on sweatpants so I never have to leave the house again. Fashion is exhausting.
Post by ladystardust on Jun 4, 2015 11:43:16 GMT -5
boot cut jeans - Check (are only straight cut or skinnies ok? Because I cannot do those) sneakers (even fashionable non-running type) - Check limited or minimal makeup - Check (zero makeup applied at work today) limited or no accessories - Check (only wedding ring 95% of the time) athletic clothing -Check. not tucking your shirt into a skirt - Check