If you have a sister in law....

[marriedin05]

Aug 15, 2012 22:39:35 GMT -5 SKP82 said:

I wanted to add that I have a friend who would call me and if I didn't answer, would call H. It was sooooo fucking annoying. I ended up getting tipsy with her one night and told her to knock it off.

I mean, if it was an emergency, yes, call both of us, but she was just calling to chat.

I think your SIL might just be lonely. Maybe you can play Words with Friends or something with her instead?

She is lonely and I already play games with her on here. She is lonely and it makes me sad but I can't fix that.

[mrsjuleshs]

never. We only see each other when they are in town visiting. I hardly know her. It is DH's brother's wife but I have never really been close to BIL either.

[SKP82]

Aug 15, 2012 22:51:51 GMT -5 marriedin05 said:

Aug 15, 2012 22:39:35 GMT -5 SKP82 said:

I wanted to add that I have a friend who would call me and if I didn't answer, would call H. It was sooooo fucking annoying. I ended up getting tipsy with her one night and told her to knock it off.

I mean, if it was an emergency, yes, call both of us, but she was just calling to chat.

I think your SIL might just be lonely. Maybe you can play Words with Friends or something with her instead?

She is lonely and I already play games with her on here. She is lonely and it makes me sad but I can't fix that.

Very true.

[Deleted]

We text once in awhile! I haven't in months. We get along but have nothing common and nothing to talk about,

[Deleted]

I have no sisters. I text my brother basically every day. It takes like 10 seconds. We never talk on the phone though.

I text/email/Facebook with DH's brothers maybe twice/month?

[frauschmindy]

Aug 15, 2012 22:39:35 GMT -5 SKP82 said:

I wanted to add that I have a friend who would call me and if I didn't answer, would call H. It was sooooo fucking annoying. I ended up getting tipsy with her one night and told her to knock it off.

I had a friend like that, except she would call me 3 or 4 times in a row, then MH twice, then me again and leave a voicemail screaming "CALL ME BACK I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHINGGGGGGG" It was the worst.

We don't talk anymore.

[bonquiqui]

Never. I love them, but we don't call each other ever

[birdistheword]

I feel like the odd person out here. I talk to my SIL (DH's sister) all the time and we hang out regularly. More so before she got married a few months ago, but still pretty frequently. She and I even went on a cruise together with 2 other friends a couple years ago without H or her boyfriend at the time. I guess I'm lucky we get along so well!

[statlerwaldorf]

She never calls. We only see her once every few years. I hadn't even met her before our wedding.

[litebright]

Once every month or every couple of months, maybe?

Sometimes she calls me to chat if she took the day off, is running her kids around, etc. because if she's bored, she knows I'm a mostly-SAHM and almost always around. She also sends out reminder emails for birthdays in DH's ginormous family, and did a large amount of the planning for the family vacation we all took together this year. She's very organized!

I like her a lot. I wish we talked a bit more often because we get along really well, but we're both busy.

[SKP82]

Aug 15, 2012 23:28:55 GMT -5 @frauschmindy said:

Aug 15, 2012 22:39:35 GMT -5 SKP82 said:

I wanted to add that I have a friend who would call me and if I didn't answer, would call H. It was sooooo fucking annoying. I ended up getting tipsy with her one night and told her to knock it off.

I had a friend like that, except she would call me 3 or 4 times in a row, then MH twice, then me again and leave a voicemail screaming "CALL ME BACK I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHINGGGGGGG" It was the worst.

We don't talk anymore.

Yeah. It wasn't even like she would just call me once and then H. It was me, then H, then me, then texts to us both. For NOTHING. It was soooo fucking annoying and she got a little butt hurt when I told her to stop.

[SKP82]

Aug 15, 2012 23:30:39 GMT -5 birdistheword said:

I feel like the odd person out here. I talk to my SIL (DH's sister) all the time and we hang out regularly. More so before she got married a few months ago, but still pretty frequently. She and I even went on a cruise together with 2 other friends a couple years ago without H or her boyfriend at the time. I guess I'm lucky we get along so well!

This is nice.

I think if H's family wasn't so close-knit, I might be closer to them. But there are 6 of them and they are all SUPER close, which is great, but I think it'd be hard to wedge myself in there, even if I wanted to.

I feel like I might be closer to a SIL if there wasn't already a biological sister involved, KWIM?

[Deleted]

My husbands sister is 13. We talk on the phone exactly never.

My brothers fiancée? I love her to death. We just skyped tonight actually. We text maybe once a week at least

My husbands brothers wife ( is that even SIL? What is she called?) ...anyway. We get along great. We talk maybe once a month through text and every few days via fb comments. Lol.

[pickel]

My stepbrother's wife, we text or email about once a month. We used to be close before they got married, but since they have gotten married, I have to make the effort to talk to her. Makes me sad because I really like her.
Your SIL would drive me crazy. I have a cousin like that and I've had to start screening my calls. lol

[venice2007]

My sil on my side, one of them we chat on text a few times a week and we are close the other never, she's too earthy and motherly to take time to do that she said ?!? Whhhat?
My sil on my hs side? Never ever. Thank god. Ugh one is nice but boring the other is my worst enemy ever.

[jillybean]

Well, no one from DHs family ever calls me, except for his cousin. I can send MIL a text message and she responds to DH...every.single.time. So, my SIL calling/texting me would require an act of god. Btw, she was one of my bridesmaides and she never called me then either. Not once. Prior to MIL being diagnosed with cancer, DH would call his sister every week to say hi and got her voicemail every single time. We have been together for 11 years and she has stepped foot in my house three times, each by obligation. Now with MILs illness, she and DH speak at least once a week, but its mostly to discuss her condition or to ask for a favor. And FTR, ive never done anything to offend her. We get along when we see each other during holidays, she just keeps to herself. :/

[Jalapeñomel]

Aug 15, 2012 22:15:05 GMT -5 tulip said:

Aug 15, 2012 22:12:15 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Maybe I should also preface that I don't really have much of a relationship with my brother. Which makes me really sad, but I am at a lost as to how to fix it.

Any one reason? Or are you just not close?

He lives far away from me, and although I have reached out to him, he makes no effort. His response is, "even thogh we don't talk, once we do see each other, it's like no time has passed." Except time has passed, and I am a different person then I was the last time I saw him (I saw him last summer for the first time in 6 years). And his wife does not like me, and he does whatever she says; he has no spine.

[ECB]

Aug 15, 2012 22:14:51 GMT -5 marriedin05 said:

DH is just fine to let her call and chat a while. If I don't answer my phone she calls his.

Use this to your advantage. It seems like she calls YOU a lot and you're tired of it and you feel you have to say something. Well... maybe the more you ignore her calls and the more she calls him, he'll actually start to get tired of it too! He hasn't gotten the full brunt of it, but once he does - it might make him finally "get it" why you're annoyed.

OR if it doesn't- then he simply gets to talk to her a whole lot...

[lightbulbsun]

H's sister and I get along, but we don't really call each other. We text every couple of weeks.

I'm really not a huge phone person in general. I really only call my parents and my grandparents, and everyone else I just text or see face to face.

[partiallysunny]

I like H's sisters fine, but they never contact me. One texts H more than the other, but it's not often. They talk on the phone every couple of weeks.

My brother's wife... I use to email and texted her when they were stationed in different places, but she has depression and has cut me off in recent years. We are friendly on the rare occasions we see each other, but nothing more. Makes me kind of sad, because I thought we would be friends when they moved to Hometown.

[miss1991]

M I guess I am in the minority. We do not talk daily. Sometimes I send her a pic of the baby,kids or we text each other and we try an get together on the weekend at least once. This does not always happen we go sometimes a month or so without seeing each other but it is usually due to schedules. Don't get me wrong sometimes she makes me see red but it goes both ways. Eta: This is my husband sister. My brother and I don't talk his wife is not right.

[papie]

I have two SILs on DH's side. One is a doctor, so I call her once every couple of months or so, when I have a question (like, omg, should I bring my baby to the ER? tyoe question). She calls us on our birthdays.

The other one, we call each other every 2-3 months.

Oh and I have another SIL who is married to my brother, we also call each other maybe every 3 months, we chat on FB regularly though.

I love them all. But honestly, the only person I have a "call daily" relationship with is my mom.

[Cayl]

That would drive me nuts. H has 5 sisters and I only talk to them if we need to plan something. He only talks to them for birthdays or holidays. His brother's ex-gf used to text me a lot because she didn't have a lot of friends and thought we were BFFs. I was thrilled when they broke up. His new gf is awesome but we only text to make plans, or check in to see how each other is doing if it's been a few weeks since we've seen/spoken to each other.

I can honestly say that there is no one that I would want calling me multiple times a day. H is going on a trip in November and if he calls a few times a day to check on the girls and I that would be fine, but even when we're both at work if he calls me more then once or twice I get annoyed.

[cleo29]

Never. She might email H once and a while. But to show you where things stand with her, she barely spoke to H when they were both in MN visiting their parents. We think she was annoyed that H was there and therefore her boys had to sleep in the main room in the basement rather than in H's room.

Or she's just a bitch.

[sneetch]

My SIL and I will talk on the phone if necessary (like to figure out who is bringing what for a family get-together or to say happy birthday). We have nothing in common and I find her annoying, and I think she feels the same way about me, so I don't see either of us picking up the phone just to catch up.

[melodramatic26]

Aug 15, 2012 22:09:41 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Never. We don't really care for each other. I have never voluntarily talked to her on the phone.
FYI this is my brother's wife. They've been married for 12 years and we have never phoned each other ever.

ditto all this. We don't have anything in common and she's wierd. Even dh dreads talking to her on the phone b/c she's just awkward. They've been married for about 12 years now, and we've been married for 10 so a long time being "family" and never, not once have we called each other.

eta: it's my husband's brother's wife, so that might make a difference too.

[drrn04]

I talk to my brother's wife every couple weeks.

I never talk w/ H's brother's wife, not from any big falling out, it is just that H and his brother aren't super close, so we don't really see them much. They are both pretty private, and want to keep their distance from H's and his brother's parents. They know that ILs are way up in our business (mostly because of the girls, and H's inability to keep his mouth shut), so I get wanting to keep them at arms length no matter what.
But I really like her, and think we have a lot of common ground i/r/t MIL's craziness, so I do wish we talked more. Oh well.

The talking every day thing seems pretty excessive though. I'd probably just stop answering the phone when I saw it was her.

[awick14]

Sil (DH's sister) an I text daily!

We get along very well.

[mrssavy42112]

Never. We’re only been married a few months, but I’ve known my SIL for many years. We used to be friends, but after her wedding in 2006, I drifted away. I no longer cared for her personality. She doesn’t call me & I don’t call her. We’re perfectly fine like that. I’d be really bothered by someone calling/texting daily. Not even my own mom does that & I just moved out of the house.