does it make you uncomfortable

[bigmamma]

when people lust over other people husbands?

[G22]

Yea a little. I guess it would depend on the degree of lusting going on. A comment about looking good or something of that nature I guess isn't too weird. But more than that, I think is crossing a line. If they feel that way, I don't want to know.

[honeybadger]

Kind of. A comment about someone's H being good looking doesn't make me uncomfortable but if it is carrying on or like referencing sex then yes. And I am not easily made uncomfortable. But this always surprises me.

Especially when I lurk on other boards and see "OMGYOURHISFUCKINGHAWWWT" potst.

[Dumbledork]

I think it depends on how far it goes. I've had people tell me DH is hot, but it ends there. Weirdly, I take it as a compliment on my skills of picking out and holding onto a man that others find attractive.

Come to think of it, the other day he told me that he overheard a coworker saying something about he looked good in and out of uniform and he thanked me for forcing him to update his wardrobe. Now I feel justified in my pride of his hotness, lol.

If they were to flirt or make a pass at him, or if anyone I knew were to do that to another's husband, I'd have a problem. But to just say, "Woah, have you met Sasha's husband? Dude is Channing Tatum without the butter-face." I have no problem with that.

[meltoine]

Ae we talking lineal, regular people? Like if someone thinks MH is hot? Or if someone is all "Oooooo David Beckham!Squeeeeeeee!!!!"

The former is a little weird if it's more than one comment. The latter, meh.

[amaristella]

For people who are friends or acquaintances in real life doing that sort of thing 1) yes it would and 2) I have never seen that happen.
On the internet where there's a degree or two of separation I don't think I would mind it as much but again I can't say for sure that I've ever seen that on this board. I probably still wouldn't care for it, but it wouldn't be as bad to me.

[NomadicMama]

It depends on who and how. On another board that I'm on, one of the women gushes over pictures of DH in his uniform (not that I share many). But, she lives in Canada and I know it is harmless appreciation for my handsome husband looking fabulous in his uniform. If it were an acquaintance who tried to put that lust into action? Hell no.

Message boards can be a different dynamic. I think knowing the board personality and how the members interact is key. For a while, women on other boards would "e-flash" in threads, or "e-squeeze bewbies". Context is important.

[iluvmytxrgr]

I think it depends also. J, I would have no problem with you saying MH is a good looking guy. Your husband is a good looking guy, but you know this. Now if you were all, "Oh, the things I would do to your man!" We'd have an issue.
A few weeks ago, MH and I went to a new country bar in town. We were there for several hours with friends. It was obvious, apart from our wedding rings, that we are a couple. When I was talking to my friends, 10 feet away from him, a chick walked up to him and said, "I've been watching you all night" and handed him a piece of paper with a number, her name and "Call me when she's not around" written on it. He looked at the paper and told her to run away as fast as she could. Then he handed it to me. He wouldn't tell me who she was, but I would have kicked her in the teeth if I'd have seen it.

[amaristella]

Aug 16, 2012 13:02:37 GMT -5 iluvmytxrgr said:

I think it depends also. J, I would have no problem with you saying MH is a good looking guy. Your husband is a good looking guy, but you know this. Now if you were all, "Oh, the things I would do to your man!" We'd have an issue.
A few weeks ago, MH and I went to a new country bar in town. We were there for several hours with friends. It was obvious, apart from our wedding rings, that we are a couple. When I was talking to my friends, 10 feet away from him, a chick walked up to him and said, "I've been watching you all night" and handed him a piece of paper with a number, her name and "Call me when she's not around" written on it. He looked at the paper and told her to run away as fast as she could. Then he handed it to me. He wouldn't tell me who she was, but I would have kicked her in the teeth if I'd have seen it.

oh Hell to the NO!

[bigmamma]

So here is the skinny... I have a friend who cleans houses. She got referral from me for a move out cleaning.

I get a text from friend that says "Thanks for the referral he was some great eye candy"

After I figured out who she was talking about it was an uncomfortable conversation. She went on and on about how hot he is and what she would do... etc.

I just KEPT bringing up HER husband and HER kids and HIS WIFE and HIS KIDS. She didn't pick up on what I was puttin down.

So I put it out there.... "I'm really uncomfortable with this conversation"

She called me a prude and stopped texting.

[bigmamma]

p.s.

TX I would totally tell J to call me... so he can babysit and you can I can have a girls night out!

[brandienee]

Ew, can that be considered sexual harassment? Did she hit on him? I would be really uncomfortable with that.

[bigmamma]

Aug 16, 2012 14:55:01 GMT -5 brandienee said:

Ew, can that be considered sexual harassment? Did she hit on him? I would be really uncomfortable with that.

I don't know I'm not going to ask.


It was weird.


The funniest part is that she is CONSTANTLY accusing her H of cheating. Ummm?

[softspot]

Aug 16, 2012 16:07:28 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

Aug 16, 2012 14:51:43 GMT -5 Smurfette said:

I have only had a problem when one of my "friends" told everyone that she thought I didn't know that she was dating P right after we got engaged. She has a MD and I believe she really thought it was true.

Also, a little 16 year old at Baskin Robins was flirting with P and started giggling when he asked for an extra spoon.

I would only have a problem if it started getting to the point of sexual talk. My ex SIL and SIL (before she was SIL) would talk about who they were seeing and all that good stuff and that they looked good but never beyond that.

Wut?

My thoughts exactly.

[basilosaurus]

I want to say no. I think in general, I'm really easy going, not jealous, accepting of a lot of things that make people around these parts pearl clutch.

And then I remember one incident where I got all pissed off when a woman thought it was ok to put her legs up on H's lap at a booth when I got up to use the bathroom. I was livid (and drunk), so maybe I have my own weird issues.

[bigmamma]

Aug 16, 2012 19:17:42 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

I want to say no. I think in general, I'm really easy going, not jealous, accepting of a lot of things that make people around these parts pearl clutch.

And then I remember one incident where I got all pissed off when a woman thought it was ok to put her legs up on H's lap at a booth when I got up to use the bathroom. I was livid (and drunk), so maybe I have my own weird issues.

I agree with all of that. I have NO problem with someone telling ME my husband is hot. Let me find some chic with her limbs on my man and she will be missing them.

That being said I mean when they are LUSTING not noticing hotness, but actually getting hot and bothered about it... and dwelling on it.

[iluvmytxrgr]

Aug 16, 2012 13:16:12 GMT -5 Stan said:

Aug 16, 2012 13:02:37 GMT -5 iluvmytxrgr said:

I think it depends also. J, I would have no problem with you saying MH is a good looking guy. Your husband is a good looking guy, but you know this. Now if you were all, "Oh, the things I would do to your man!" We'd have an issue.
A few weeks ago, MH and I went to a new country bar in town. We were there for several hours with friends. It was obvious, apart from our wedding rings, that we are a couple. When I was talking to my friends, 10 feet away from him, a chick walked up to him and said, "I've been watching you all night" and handed him a piece of paper with a number, her name and "Call me when she's not around" written on it. He looked at the paper and told her to run away as fast as she could. Then he handed it to me. He wouldn't tell me who she was, but I would have kicked her in the teeth if I'd have seen it.

Ewww. What a tramp. Besides that, how was that bar? I wanted to go when we were in town, but we didn't have a free night.

The bar was great. We had a blast.

[iluvmytxrgr]

Aug 16, 2012 14:37:28 GMT -5 bigmamma said:

p.s.

TX I would totally tell J to call me... so he can babysit and you can I can have a girls night out!

Heck yeah!

[iluvmytxrgr]

Aug 16, 2012 14:36:25 GMT -5 bigmamma said:

So here is the skinny... I have a friend who cleans houses. She got referral from me for a move out cleaning.

I get a text from friend that says "Thanks for the referral he was some great eye candy"

After I figured out who she was talking about it was an uncomfortable conversation. She went on and on about how hot he is and what she would do... etc.

I just KEPT bringing up HER husband and HER kids and HIS WIFE and HIS KIDS. She didn't pick up on what I was puttin down.

So I put it out there.... "I'm really uncomfortable with this conversation"

She called me a prude and stopped texting.

Ew, I would have totally told her she was being oogey.