went out to fancy bar for work last night

[sigir]

Work colleague arranged dinner at a fancy nyc landmark last night. It was one of those places that has lots of old fashioned alcohol. I got there first and had to sit at the bar and wait. I was thinking about all the fancy drinks I would have gotten in the past but was not tempted. A man tried to pick me up and get me champagne but I told him I don't drink. He asked why and I could not bring myself to say I am an alcoholic but I said I stopped because it doesn't work for me. A little dissapointed at my wishy washy response but oh well. He pushed me to get a drink but I said, ok I will have another diet coke. He moved on to the next blonde.

Later my work colleagues got toasted. It was strange to be the only straight man w them but it was not bad. In fact it was a good feeling! And it was great to not get that sick feeling later and this morning.

No real point to this post besides sharing that this was my first function that I felt good about not drinking and still had a good time. Progress! 118 days today.

[phoenixrising]

That's awesome! You deserve to feel good about that, and I am so glad that you shared it here!

[sigir]

I was excited to share bc I felt pretty proud and happy about it, and my dh who is the only other person who really knows why I am not drinking anymore doesn't understand. I knew you guys would!

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Good for you! What a great update!

Don't ever feel like you need to explain your alcoholism to a stranger. It's sufficient to say I don't drink. If anyone asks why, I say I just don't. Only once has someone pushed beyond that. It's none of their business.

And congrats on doing your first fancy event without drinking. It only gets easier! One tip that has always helped me is to decide in advance what I'm going to drink. So I go into the event with the plan. Maybe it's a Coke, maybe it's a tonic water. Doesn't matter, but it's always good have a plan.

[sigir]

I am on another work trip right now, and really have no urge to drink even though everyone is around me. I have a good time at the pool or at customer dinners even without it. It's amazing bc I never thought it was possible to have a good time at work stuff without drinking. Everyone met for drinks before the customer dinner and when I ordered a soda I just said, "I'm not drinking right now"... and no one turned around to point and stare at me. The world continued to turn.

And it was great not to have the sweats all night last night, and not to wake up this morning sick. I can actually enjoy my nice hotel room and relax with the time away from the kids, instead of trying to recover from a bender beforw I go home.

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Jul 21, 2015 12:09:23 GMT -5 sigir said:

I am on another work trip right now, and really have no urge to drink even though everyone is around me. I have a good time at the pool or at customer dinners even without it. It's amazing bc I never thought it was possible to have a good time at work stuff without drinking. Everyone met for drinks before the customer dinner and when I ordered a soda I just said, "I'm not drinking right now"... and no one turned around to point and stare at me. The world continued to turn.

And it was great not to have the sweats all night last night, and not to wake up this morning sick. I can actually enjoy my nice hotel room and relax with the time away from the kids, instead of trying to recover from a bender beforw I go home.

Good news. Keep it up! Sobriety is SO much better. Remember one day at a time!