Late talkers, come in

[chia]

DS had the same problem, and finally turned a corner within the past month.

Thank effing god.
We were getting worried, and it was super frustrating.

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[sent]

DD is 3 months younger and doing the same. She has 3 unreliable words, 4 if you count "buh" as a word which she uses for bottle and banana. And she conveninently forgets the few signs I taught her as well. The screaming is insane. I do try to never forget Bear Bear and don't let her take it out of the house so we don't lose it either.

ETA: She also does not say "mama" and I feel like a dumbass whenever people ask me if she does.  Because that was supposed to be her first word or something.  

[ijack]

Yeah, it farking sucks until they can tell you why they're mad (it sucks after too, but at least you know)

[sjh722]

I thought this was "late talkers" referring to people who were still up and looking to chat, lol.

I don't have any great advice for the talking. Isn't there a pretty wide range of normal?

[jloww]

Mine was so involved in her tamtrum at TJs tonight she couldn't talk anyway.  It's the worst.  

[sjh722]

Jun 23, 2015 22:19:00 GMT -5 swizz said:

Jun 23, 2015 22:13:34 GMT -5 sjh722 said:

I thought this was "late talkers" referring to people who were still up and looking to chat, lol.

I don't have any great advice for the talking. Isn't there a pretty wide range of normal?

Yes? Not sure your point.

I was just trying to be reassuring. Sorry it didn't come across that way.

I'm bad at keeping track of things like words. I remember feeling like DD1 was behind compared to the other toddlers we're around, but she's had several big verbal explosions since right around age 2 and then a few more times since then. (She is about 27 months now.)

[Deleted]

Hugs. DS just turned a corner this month with language and I feel like he and C have similar temperaments. He still gets so frustrated when he's angry that he has trouble expressing himself though. Is she throwing a lot of stuff? He seems to do equal amounts of throwing/hitting for entertainment and frustration. That is worrying me now. Always something

[Deleted]

Yes and it was super frustrating (for both of us). We tried to verbalized her feelings for her, because she could say yes or no, but that didn't always work.

[Deleted]

Also don't fee bad about her not saying mama, sent. DS's first 2 word phrase last week? No, no mama. #spiritedkidftw

[hermione]

Jun 23, 2015 22:09:10 GMT -5 sent said:

ETA: She also does not say "mama" and I feel like a dumbass whenever people ask me if she does.  Because that was supposed to be her first word or something.  

C not only refused to say, " Mama." She called me, "Dada." UNTIL SHE WAS TWO!

Shes making up for it now by calling H, "Mamadaddy" every single time now, lol.

[stretchad]

Jun 23, 2015 22:13:34 GMT -5 sjh722 said:

I thought this was "late talkers" referring to people who were still up and looking to chat, lol.

I thought the same thing :-)

On the note of late-ish talkers and yellers, and commiseration, check out this video of my kiddo this weekend. No intelligible words but clearly very passionately yelling about SOMETHING.
Naptime Yelling
ETA: 38 seconds in, he hits a peak.

[lilac05]

Yes, very common.

As an SLP and a mom of a later talker, I've seen this often. The good news? The behavior often improves when their language starts to pick up! Even just getting yes/no helps a ton, especially if their understanding is better than what they can actually say.

DS1 was a very early talker & almost never threw tantrums. I thought I was the best mom ever to figure out how to manage behaviors without tantrums. Then I had DS2...same parenting, late talker, and more typical tantrums. It turns out I just got really lucky the first time around.

[lilac05]

To relate:

When I was still working, I would sometimes tell parents to imagine that they were trying to navigate through a foreign country with a completely unfamiliar language & very different culture. Imagine how insanely frustrating it would be if you *thought* you were learning their language, kept trying to use it, and no one ever understood what you were trying to tell them you wanted/needed. It would be maddening!

Thinking about it this way helps me respond to tantrums that are because of a communication breakdown much differently. I try to give language to his feelings at the time. Tantrums because I clearly understand what he wants, but the answer is no? Different story!

[redpenmama]

I think communication/frustration associated with inability to communicate plays a role, but a lot of it has to do with the kid's personality too. DD had her first tantrum at 14 months. She had one tonight about having to go to bed. She's 4. I'm about to give up that they are ever going to stop with her -- they are just evolving despite my best efforts to curtail them.

DS is 18m and is just more laid back overall. He's not communicating a ton -- has maybe 10 words -- and he's not showing the frustration/tantrums that DD did at the same age. I'm sure he will have some, but they might not be as frequent or insane as DD's (or that is what I am telling myself, at least).

Not sure if that's terrifying or helpful...

[carolinagirl831]

well I wish I could tell you tantrums are because of lack of communication... but DD now at just over 2 can communicate really well... and she throws crazy tantrums all the time and has since she was 14 months.. I guess she just likes being dramatic?

[cricketwife]

Jun 23, 2015 22:33:33 GMT -5 @246baje said:

ETA sent until he was about 18+ months my son would not say mama. He used the sign for "milk" to refer to me. 

[stephm0188]

Argggh, yes.

We used signing and picture cards at home to help cut down on some of the frustration. He'd get pissed when I didn't know what he wanted, so those forms of communication helped a bit.