What should I tell this guy?

[Bernadine]

I met a guy on my cornhole team- he's really funny, we have the same sense of humor, I love hanging out with him. But there is ZERO physical attraction. He's all but come out and said he likes me. I am not at all interested in dating him.

He keeps texting me. I've ignored the last few, but I know I need to reply. He knows I'm seeing T. I have a feeling that he'll say we can just hang out as friends, which I wouldn't feel comfortable with, knowing that he'd like more.

I should just be an adult and be honest with him, right? Ugh, but I don't want to hurt his feelings. Can I tell him I'm getting back together with xh? lol.

[Deleted]

Haha cornhole.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

a) cornhole, omg hahaha!
b) not the worst problem to have, there, diamond shoes!
c) no one wants to tell someone this, but I'm sure he at least half-knows. Let him down easy.

GO BERN!

[mypunkinpie]

Are you and the other guy exclusive? If so you could just tell him that. IDK, be gentle.

[cleo29]

I would wait until he says or texts something that is clear he wants more, like asking you out. Then, you can say 1) you are seeing a great guy and 2) even without T in the picture, you just don't feel that way about him.

IN the meantime, I would talk up T a lot. I mean, not obnoxiously so, but mention him enough that he gets the picture that there is no chance of something happening.

[Bernadine]

T and I are not exclusive.

This guy texted me and said he wants to hang out. So, not asking me on a date exactly, but I know that's what he wants.

[Deleted]

"that would be so fun to get everyone together. maybe after the next game?"

[Muddled]

I don't know-- blaming it on the fact that you are seeing another guy makes it seem like you might be interested if T wasn't in the picture.

I don't think there's a right answer here, but I would be tempted to say something like, "Sure! Let's invite the rest of the team. It'll be fun!" to show him how I view him. I dunno.

ETA: Great minds, cville.

[flex]

Aug 16, 2012 15:58:55 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

T and I are not exclusive.

This guy texted me and said he wants to hang out. So, not asking me on a date exactly, but I know that's what he wants.

If it was me, I'd say "sure we can hang out" (because he is fun to be around, right?), and if he expressed an interest in me, I'd tell him face-to-face "no, I'm sorry. I just don't see you that way. You're a friend, but that's all."

Most guys appreciate honesty and a women who is upfront so they don't have to guess.

[WOT?*]

Sitting next to Flex.

[LLL]

cornhole makes me laugh.
I like Cville's response.

[OHMBLEEGOHHHHH!]

This is what happens when you hang around cornholes.

[hubes]

I'm getting laid, and it isn't by you.

[SKP82]

I like Flex's response.

[peekay]

What is a corn hole team?? I agree with a breezy "drinks for all!" reply. Then let him hear about this new super dreamy guy you're seeing.