I modified it to fit us. As she got to screaming I'd go in and shush her, pat her back, sing. I'd pick her up to rock her and then lay her back down after she had calmed and pat her back until,she got quiet.
I never timed it. First night was two hours of repeating this. Them next night was maybe 30 min, then 10, then just down. So I just had to get through one terrible night
Do what you need to. IF that is get her, get her. IF you've reached the point you know you'll both be crying - the only issue is whether you'll ever sleep as well, then let her cry.
I tried this for one night and couldn't cope, my kid just got more and more hysterical and I gave up. I picked him up after about 20 mins and he fell asleep in my arms about a minute later, exhausted from all the crying. I ended up taking a more drawn out approach without cio but I think he just started sleeping through on his own when he was nearly 1. She'll get there, but I know it's hard on your own! GL!! x
Post by Mrs. ChanandlerBong on Jul 6, 2015 7:02:31 GMT -5
How oldi is she?
We used Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. It really worked well for us. We didn't attempt to get them to go all night until 9 months. Dr. W's theory is that waking once a night to eat until 9 months is ok and isn't habit forming. So we waited till then to pull the last overnight nursing/bottle. The other techniques worked well to get them to go down easier. I highly recommend it to all parents of babies.
Does she whine first before crying? I basically have done whine it out with Ingrid. By the time she's crying, she's losing her shit, but I let her whine on her own for a few mins before going in.
A modified Ferber was the only thing that worked for us. I went in and checked on DS every two minutes for awhile. I would rub his back and say soothing things. Then we went to 5 minutes then 7 minutes until he was calmed down and asleep. I think by the 5th day of doing this he was falling asleep within 10-15 minutes with hardly any crying. It's hard but you have to do what works for you. So many hugs, this was so hard for me.
I didn't read any books. DS was easy to put to sleep until he was 2 and we took the paci. I would set the timer for 5 minutes and then go hug him and tuck him in again. Then 10 minutes. Then 15 minutes. He always stopped before the 15 minute timer was up and then eventually the 10 minute and then back to being easy again.
I'm so sorry, it's hard. Some nights I would cry while waiting for the timer to go off. I tried to keep busy, doing dishes/laundry/cleaning so it made the time pass faster than just watching the clock.
Go in and hug her. You won't regret it. At least with my kid, this is the point where she can't calm herself down.
So I went in and rocked her. She immediately stopped crying and let out this huge sigh. She fell asleep and I put her in her crib. The second I removed my hand, she woke up and started crying. We repeated this cycle for about an hour until I gave up and put her in my bed. By that time, she was awake and wanted to play. It was by far, her worst night of sleep.
((((Hugs))))
I promise it gets better. When this happened with mine it was horrible the first night and then remarkably better each night after. I would pat her back while she was crying so she didn't get to screaming. I like the name "whine it out" mentioned.
And this is when the video monitor saved us. As long as she was laying down we could leave her. The moment she sat up I had to go in because she passing the point of calming herself down. But treat all of this as guidelines, modify to fit your kid. You really do know best. Even when you feel helpless.
And it gets better. Really it does. You can do this.
The problem is, that she isn't laying down unless she's asleep. She immediately stands up and starts crying. It was SO bad and I only let her cry for 12 minutes. I went in when she starting banging her face on the crib rail and biting it.
That's rough. I'm sure one of the other methods will have something that will help. You might have to combine a few?
I'm sorry. I struggled a lot with my son, I did CIO a couple times but sort of half heartedly. Usually what I did was let him cry, then a couple minutes I'd go in and lay him down again (he'd always stand right up) then I'd hold him down for a minute saying soothing things then leave again and repeat.
I never really stuck to anything for long because I kept thinking, he's crying SO much tonight.. maybe a tooth.. etc. and end up holding him in my bed again. Or the odd night he'd only wake once, and that would throw me off. Then the next night he would wake five times again etc.
Anyway now he's 14 months and about a month or so ago I stopped nursing him motn. Then, I stopped nursing him completely almost 2 weeks ago and now he finally STTN! He never did one night his whole life until he was 13.5 months. I really thought it would never happen
don't tell your coworker you're doing CIO, they might call CPS.
Sorry, bad joke but I couldn't help myself.
Anyway, CIO can be really tough. The first two times we tried it I lasted only a few minutes one or two days in a row and had to stop/take a break. Like PPs said, you can modify a method so it works better for your. The biggest thing I found was we needed to stay consistent. Is you H (STBX? sorry, if you've decided what you want to do) doing CIO as well?