Fuck!!! *update in replies*

[jigsy]

I will third Indian the NO MORE CALLS! You work with him, so you will have to see him and talk to him, and that sucks, but you need to keep things strictly about business and in the event that he does come up to try to talk to you about something other than work make sure you give him a vague, quick response. He doesn't deserve a friendship, he doesn't get to have the fun work-friend, do your job in relation to him to the extent that you have to, nothing more.

[sweetchix]

Jul 7, 2015 14:38:42 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Jul 7, 2015 13:45:23 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I'm fucking livid!!! I am done with him!!! 100% done with him. I'm going to call him later tonight and bitch him out some more and tell him we're through. I may even take my one friend up on her offer punch him. Fucking bastard!

No. Do not call him. Do not give him anymore of your time. Do not give him the opportunity to know he hurt you. Do not give him the opportunity to lie to you more/manipulate you again. Every time you talk to him, you come back all, "we joked around on the phone. He's soooo dreamy!" So, NO! DO NOT GIVE HIM THIS CHANCE. HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME OR ENERGY. Stop contacting him. If he contacts you, just tell him you are done. Period.

Go to happy hour with a friend and bitch about him.

Definitely will be doing some of this tonight after bootcamp. And, M and I are hoping to get together for another coworker's summer party this Friday. We agreed that we both needed some fun after all this.

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Don't waste your energy calling this guy. He won't care and you won't feel better. I promise, if he didn't give a fuck about your health and safety by using protection while screwing multiple people, he won't care that you're hurting now. He cares that he got caught and the fun is over.

I'm sorry you are hurting and angry and sad. Feel all the feelings, just don't give into the temptation of acting out.

[katieido]

Here's what you know.

He's a habitual liar.
He's an opportunist
He doesn't practice safe sex.
He's not your boyfriend.
He could jeopardize your career.

Please just write this punk off

[LoveBug]

I'm so late to this, but dude sounds like an ass. I'm so glad you are walking away from it all. And I agree with the others - no more time for this clown, not even to bitch him out.

[Deleted]

I've been trying to think about how to respond to this all day. First off I'm so so sorry. Secondly I think this phase of accepting way less than we are worth is part of the process and it sucks. I've been there and felt like I wanted to hold on to the sliver of hope from someone. But now? I'm like oh you aren't gonna text me back or make plans within a reasonable time? Bye Felicia! You aren't worth my time. Eventually you will realize how much you are worth and look back at this fool and be like how the fuck did I give him this much energy. You will get there.

[spedrunner]

i am sorry you are going through this

I have to agree to let it go and just move on. No use bitching him out, nothing will change and you are better and above that. Save your energy for YOU

[glitzyglow]

How are you doing tonight sweetchix?

[sweetchix]

Jul 7, 2015 19:42:45 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

How are you doing tonight sweetchix?

I'm doing ok. My bootcamp instructor and 2 of the other ladies went out for some food and a drink afterwards. I barely touched anything Now I'm home and will hopefully fall asleep soon.

M and I are texting a bit. She said he texted her and tried to make small talk and made a joke with her. I told her to stay strong and don't let him manipulate himself back in. She, and he, knows she's vulnerable right now and he's already taken advantage of that once. I'm not sure what to think of her yet. I have tried not to give too many details since I don't know her very well. I hate to think like that, but I don't know what her plans are. I think after today I'm going I stop discussing this with her.

He hasn't texted or called me. Not that I expected him to. But I was a little surprised to hear he texted her but not me. I'm assuming it's because he knows her vulnerability and is trying to use that to his advantage. But who knows. Here I thought I knew the guy. Boy was I wrong.

[achase123]

Jul 7, 2015 7:20:08 GMT -5 TR said:

Feelings don't just go away so it's ok to let yourself feel them. But I do think you need to completely cut contact with this guy. Don't let yourself keep getting sucked in because you're only going to keep getting hurt because you two want different things.

This completely. I'm so sorry

[seabitch]

sweetchix, you got this, stay strong he is jerkfacedasshatstupidboytwatwaffledoucecanoe.

How you doing today?

[sweetchix]

Jul 8, 2015 6:36:42 GMT -5 seabitch said:

sweetchix, you got this, stay strong he is jerkfacedasshatstupidboytwatwaffledoucecanoe.

How you doing today?

I'm still doing ok. I actually slept last night. Still under a lot of stress and it's still affecting my eating. I almost threw up again this morning. I'm trying to get it all out of my head, but it's so hard.

[seabitch]

One day at a time, one foot in front of the other. You like to run right? Get out there and pound the pavement squashing his face with ever step!

[sweetchix]

Jul 8, 2015 6:45:30 GMT -5 seabitch said:

One day at a time, one foot in front of the other. You like to run right? Get out there and pound the pavement squashing his face with ever step!

I wouldn't say I *like* it, lol. But I do it. Unfortunately with not eating much my energy is zapped. I can barely run and I'm supposed to be in my 2nd week of half marathon training

[seabitch]

Do I need to come Westward and get you to eat? There will be cocktails involved!

[sweetchix]

Jul 8, 2015 7:11:28 GMT -5 seabitch said:

Do I need to come Westward and get you to eat? There will be cocktails involved!

You might need to. Although I tried last night with some ladies from bootcamp and couldn't do it. I didn't even drink half my beer.

[sweetchix]

Jul 7, 2015 8:46:25 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Big, big hugs. I wondered what was going on with you from your FB post this morning. When the shock of this wears off, I hope you'll see that the feelings you have are for the person you thought/hoped he was and not the lying sack of shit that he is. He doesn't deserve your heart or your friendship.

So true. I am really seeing this now.

[starburst604]

Seriously, use the anger. I trained for my first half marathon after a breakup and the hurt and anger were the best fuel. Load up the playlist with good music and get out there. I never had better running times than I did then, and you'll feel a whole lot better after you pound the hell out of the pavement. Don't let him get the best of you and derail your goals!

[seabitch]

What she said, thanks starburst604 that is what I was trying to say!