Female dogs and female owners..question

[mrsmac]

We got our puppy in June. We're both teachers, so we've both been home with her all summer. We both treat her the same way, have trained her using the same commands and everything. She totally listens to DH and not so much to me. Any and every chance she gets, she bites me - I get the puppies and biting thing, but she goes after me like I'm a chew toy, but not him.

Did anyone find the same thing with their female dog? Am I naive in thinking that it will change after she gets altered?

[riverpestie]

She doesn't respect you. Practice NILIF with her.

[M]

My male dog acts different between H and I too. He listens to me and respects the boundaries I give him, but he completely ignores H because H lets him get away with more and he knows he can.

[ahsweetlee]

Yes. When she used to nip at us, H used to do this thing that the bet showed us to stop her from nipping, especially at our hands. Unfortunately I can't think of anyway to describe it here. At first I didnt do it, and she continued to nip at my hands. Now, you can pretty much stick your hand in her mouth and she will never bite down. But, she is a herding dog, so Her natural instinct is to nip at people and other animals legs. Is your dog a herding dog? It could also be a dominance thing, the pup needs to know your boss too.

[dirtyred]

She sees your DH as the boss and you as her equal, and you get to chew on your equal. It's the same at my house, even though I'm the one doing all the training and DH is the lax softie.

Spaying will not change this.

[kellbell191]

NO, they both listen better to me bc I work on their training with them more. I third the NILF suggestion.

[gbck]

The Mr. would swear we both treat Dawg the same...
she walks better on a leash for me, because she knows I have NO tolerance fore leash shennanagins--she can hurt me if I let her get away w/ crap.

She comes better for me, similar reasons.

She sits better for him, similar reasons.

The tone, the attitude, the firmness the NILF stuff, this comes through.

[mortomo]

We have a male rat terrier puppy. I am consistent with training him and my fiance is not. Our dog listens to me and does what I ask (for the most part, he's still a puppy) and usually ignores my fiance when he tells him to do something.

I'm positive it's because I follow through with what I ask him to do and my fiance does not. When I tell my dog to "sit", I make sure he sits. My fiance will ask him to sit and when he doesn't do it on the first try he just gives him a treat or lets him do whatever and says that the dog is too hyper to train.

One day I sat my FI down and showed him how our dog listens to me and how differently he listens to him. He has been better about following through and our dog is listening to him a lot better. In fact, in the last 2 wks since we started doing this, our dog has really changed in the way he behaves overall. My FI was the 'fun one' and I was the one that disciplined him. Now he hopefully sees both of us as the boss of the house.

My son follows through with things too and the dog respects him as much as he respects me, so my fiance was obviously the problem.