GoFundMe for Squirrelymom

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Jul 28, 2015 15:51:14 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

I guess I'm wondering what Elsa and Booby are hoping for here?

Well I for one am going to donate MORE. So there. 

[W.T.Faulkner]

Last year, my student was shot, and before he died, he had a GFM set up for medical bills. Squirelly donated to that GFM after I posted it here. I'm willing to take the risk and give her $$$.

[pixy0stix]

I'm loling at the "get a second job" idea. Like jobs are so easy to get.

[elleblue]

@booby - why on earth would you post "you should probably start a GFM. it sounds like there's some interest. good luck." and then come in here today saying that this was a formulaic set up? I mean, you were one of the ones urging her to start a GFM. I know you love to stir the pot and start drama but this is just...ick. Donate, don't donate, I don't care but the warnings that border on chastizement after you were one of the ones to suggest a GFM is pretty duplicitous.

[dowagercountess]

Jul 28, 2015 15:55:35 GMT -5 elleblue said:

@booby - why on earth would you post "you should probably start a GFM. it sounds like there's some interest. good luck." and then come in here today saying that this was a formulaic set up? I mean, you were one of the ones urging her to start a GFM. I know you love to stir the pot and start drama but this is just...ick. Donate, don't donate, I don't care but the warnings that border on chastizement after you were one of the ones to suggest a GFM is pretty duplicitous.

I saw sarcasm in Booby's comment. 

[Elsa]

Eh, it wasn't the only suggestion I posted.

And really, I'm not hoping for anything. Just sharing observations, as stated above.

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Jul 28, 2015 15:53:42 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

I'm loling at the "get a second job" idea. Like jobs are so easy to get.

"Ugh just access your trust fund instead of begging."



"Why don't you just go grab some money off the tree in your back yard?"



"What do you mean people in the street don't just throw cash at you as you walk by?"

[WOUNDTIGHT]

Jul 28, 2015 15:35:42 GMT -5 Elsa said:

I guess I'm kind of confused at why this is the first step. Why is getting a second job (either one or both of them), not the first option? Or maybe posting a budget on MM to see what they can recommend?

I truly do appreciate the generous nature of this board- I've been the recipient (not cash, but meds and lets be honest, with how expensive they are, its almost the same thing!), and I will be forever grateful to the kindness of "strangers". But IDK, I would never set up a gfm. My sister actually offered to set up one for me for this IVF stuff and I shut her down HARD. No way. I'd sooner get a second job, sell stuff, etc.

I don't know. Maybe we've been burned too much, but this just rubs me the wrong way. Sorry

Is this real life? You've been the recipient of MEDICATION from the kind souls here and you have the stones to log on and question why Squirrley doesn't get a second job while she's caring for her son who just had a HEART TRANSPLANT?

I don't know, maybe she would have rather spent time with her GRAVELY ILL SON than go and sling coffee for $7/hr?

I'm actually seeing swirley anger in front of my eyes.

Please, tell us all about the budget you posted and the second jobs that you and your husband got before you sunk so low as to rely on the kindness of strangers on the internet.

Evaluate yourself.

[sunshineluv]

Jul 28, 2015 15:51:51 GMT -5 @fucksticklegit said:

Jul 28, 2015 15:51:14 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

I guess I'm wondering what Elsa and Booby are hoping for here?

Well I for one am going to donate MORE. So there. 

Is it so they she can say "I told you so" later? I don't get it. Is outing a catfish so great that its worth the way it makes a real person with real children with real medical issues feel?

[stephm0188]

Jul 28, 2015 15:53:42 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

I'm loling at the "get a second job" idea. Like jobs are so easy to get.

And a second job that'll pay $4000 in time to stop the foreclosure process at that!

[amberlyrose]

SM sent me an awesome secret santa gift and she has sent things to a number of people here.

I think it's pretty terrible to suggest that someone who almost lost their child is faking it to get money.

[wambam]

eesh

[captainobvious]

Jesus, people. If someone wants to start a GFM for whatever, go ahead and let them. No one is really going to add you to the damn spreadsheet if you don't contribute.

[W.T.Faulkner]

If I'm wrong and it turns out to be a catfish situation, we will have all paid for your entertainment. Which means I can then go into the catfish thread and yell, "ARE YOU NOT ENTERTAINED!?"

[TrickyBob]

I do think squirrelly is real, I can only imagine her bills, but there are programs to help stop foreclosure. I sort of feel like she needs to take those steps instead of GFM right now. If GBCN were not here, she would have to. GBCN is wonderful in helping and I think it is okay to help - I don't think she is a catfish or going to run away with your money but she has options.

[themoneytree]

Jul 28, 2015 15:49:20 GMT -5 Elsa said:

Jul 28, 2015 15:41:11 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

I might be with you except for the cause of all this. I'm frankly surprised she's managed to hold down a job at all with all the trips and time she's had to spend away from work. I can't even imagine how she should manage to hold a second job.

In fact I can't even deal with this way of thinking. It's kind of gross to me.

What is kind of gross? Ok, if the second job isn't realistic, fine. Post your budget. Let us help in other ways that just providing cash. I tried to help yesterday in providing specific things she needed to ask the mortgage company today and it sounds like the news was better. Great, happy I could help.

It sounds like the guy she spoke to yesterday was wrong. She doesn't need the funds immediately. Or maybe she does, I don't think there was a timeline in the latest update.
Regardless. I'm not faulting them for getting behind. It happens to the best of us.
But I am side eying the request for $4K. IDK.

But again, I'm grateful to this board and how many kind souls there are here. If this moves you, then I don't blame you. I just think its fair to have all the cards out on the table. So the above are mine.

What is gross is your so helpful suggestion that she bootstraps it up and gets a second job when her child could have been DYING. And that her posting that she's in trouble rubs you the wrong way. Ugh.

Or perhaps you mean now that he's off the immediate danger list she should rush out and get a second job now? Instead of you know, spending time with her family? Either way. Ugh. UGH.

[Deleted]

I dunno. If my kid had almost died and I was pounded by medical bills as a result, I'd probably take every handout I could to get back on my feet too.

[wambam]

I'm sure squirrelly has been sending homemade gifts to gbcners for years JUST FOR THIS MOMENT

[sparkythelawyer]

Jul 28, 2015 16:03:05 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

I do think squirrelly is real, I can only imagine her bills, but there are programs to help stop foreclosure. I sort of feel like she needs to take those steps instead of GFM right now. If GBCN were not here, she would have to. GBCN is wonderful in helping and I think it is okay to help - I don't think she is a catfish or going to run away with your money but she has options.

So don't donate. Why did anything else need to be said?

[styme46]

Jul 28, 2015 15:49:20 GMT -5 Elsa said:

Jul 28, 2015 15:41:11 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

I might be with you except for the cause of all this. I'm frankly surprised she's managed to hold down a job at all with all the trips and time she's had to spend away from work. I can't even imagine how she should manage to hold a second job.

In fact I can't even deal with this way of thinking. It's kind of gross to me.

What is kind of gross? Ok, if the second job isn't realistic, fine. Post your budget. Let us help in other ways that just providing cash. I tried to help yesterday in providing specific things she needed to ask the mortgage company today and it sounds like the news was better. Great, happy I could help.

It sounds like the guy she spoke to yesterday was wrong. She doesn't need the funds immediately. Or maybe she does, I don't think there was a timeline in the latest update.
Regardless. I'm not faulting them for getting behind. It happens to the best of us.
But I am side eying the request for $4K. IDK.

But again, I'm grateful to this board and how many kind souls there are here. If this moves you, then I don't blame you. I just think its fair to have all the cards out on the table. So the above are mine.

This is all fine and dandy to do, but how is this going to garner $4k by the time she needs it? These solutions are not going to produce $4k worth of extra income over night.

[nursewife]

Honoured to help you squirrelymom

[elleblue]

I also find it laughable that so many are acting like $4000 is a huge windfall. I'm sure it's all part of squirrelly's master plan to swindle the kind people of married life out of $4000 so she can quit her job and lay on the couch eating bon bons all day. Ignorant fools!

[pixy0stix]

Jul 28, 2015 16:05:01 GMT -5 wambam said:

I'm sure squirrelly has been sending homemade gifts to gbcners for years JUST FOR THIS MOMENT

My love can be bought with a quilt. In case anyone is wondering, for future reference.

[elleblue]

Jul 28, 2015 16:05:29 GMT -5 toledo said:

Jul 28, 2015 15:57:54 GMT -5 WOUNDTIGHT said:

Is this real life? You've been the recipient of MEDICATION from the kind souls here and you have the stones to log on and question why Squirrley doesn't get a second job while she's caring for her son who just had a HEART TRANSPLANT?

I don't know, maybe she would have rather spent time with her GRAVELY ILL SON than go and sling coffee for $7/hr?

I'm actually seeing swirley anger in front of my eyes.

Please, tell us all about the budget you posted and the second jobs that you and your husband got before you sunk so low as to rely on the kindness of strangers on the internet.

Evaluate yourself.

Who the fuck are you?

Whoever she is, she is certainly not wound tight. Nope, not at all. 

[themoneytree]

Jul 28, 2015 16:05:29 GMT -5 toledo said:

Jul 28, 2015 15:57:54 GMT -5 WOUNDTIGHT said:

Is this real life? You've been the recipient of MEDICATION from the kind souls here and you have the stones to log on and question why Squirrley doesn't get a second job while she's caring for her son who just had a HEART TRANSPLANT?

I don't know, maybe she would have rather spent time with her GRAVELY ILL SON than go and sling coffee for $7/hr?

I'm actually seeing swirley anger in front of my eyes.

Please, tell us all about the budget you posted and the second jobs that you and your husband got before you sunk so low as to rely on the kindness of strangers on the internet.

Evaluate yourself.

Who the fuck are you?

No idea but they make a good point.

[pistolshrimp]

Jul 28, 2015 15:35:42 GMT -5 Elsa said:

I've been the recipient (not cash, but meds and lets be honest, with how expensive they are, its almost the same thing!)

[br

Um, WTF?

[Deleted]

Jul 28, 2015 16:05:29 GMT -5 toledo said:

Jul 28, 2015 15:57:54 GMT -5 WOUNDTIGHT said:

Is this real life? You've been the recipient of MEDICATION from the kind souls here and you have the stones to log on and question why Squirrley doesn't get a second job while she's caring for her son who just had a HEART TRANSPLANT?

I don't know, maybe she would have rather spent time with her GRAVELY ILL SON than go and sling coffee for $7/hr?

I'm actually seeing swirley anger in front of my eyes.

Please, tell us all about the budget you posted and the second jobs that you and your husband got before you sunk so low as to rely on the kindness of strangers on the internet.

Evaluate yourself.

Who the fuck are you?

That Lorelei chick.

[pixy0stix]

Jul 28, 2015 16:05:03 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Jul 28, 2015 15:58:45 GMT -5 stephm0188 said:

And a second job that'll pay $4000 in time to stop the foreclosure process at that!

Are foreclosures generally a surprise?

It sounds like this one was, as they thought they were on the right track to pay everything back.

[Elsa]

Jul 28, 2015 15:57:54 GMT -5 WOUNDTIGHT said:

Jul 28, 2015 15:35:42 GMT -5 Elsa said:

I guess I'm kind of confused at why this is the first step. Why is getting a second job (either one or both of them), not the first option? Or maybe posting a budget on MM to see what they can recommend?

I truly do appreciate the generous nature of this board- I've been the recipient (not cash, but meds and lets be honest, with how expensive they are, its almost the same thing!), and I will be forever grateful to the kindness of "strangers". But IDK, I would never set up a gfm. My sister actually offered to set up one for me for this IVF stuff and I shut her down HARD. No way. I'd sooner get a second job, sell stuff, etc.

I don't know. Maybe we've been burned too much, but this just rubs me the wrong way. Sorry

Is this real life? You've been the recipient of MEDICATION from the kind souls here and you have the stones to log on and question why Squirrley doesn't get a second job while she's caring for her son who just had a HEART TRANSPLANT?

I don't know, maybe she would have rather spent time with her GRAVELY ILL SON than go and sling coffee for $7/hr?

I'm actually seeing swirley anger in front of my eyes.

Please, tell us all about the budget you posted and the second jobs that you and your husband got before you sunk so low as to rely on the kindness of strangers on the internet.

Evaluate yourself.

lol, ok.
You caught me man! I only logged on to give SM shit!

Oh, by the way....who are YOU? You've been here approx 3 seconds, how do you know anything about anything?


Sure, sure,  you've been lurking forEVER. Cause that makes this better.

[TrickyBob]

Jul 28, 2015 16:05:09 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

Jul 28, 2015 16:03:05 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

I do think squirrelly is real, I can only imagine her bills, but there are programs to help stop foreclosure. I sort of feel like she needs to take those steps instead of GFM right now. If GBCN were not here, she would have to. GBCN is wonderful in helping and I think it is okay to help - I don't think she is a catfish or going to run away with your money but she has options.

So don't donate. Why did anything else need to be said?

To reiterate that she has options through HUD and HAMP and her mortgage company? She needs to explore these avenues as well because in the long run, they could help her more than one lump sum.