Thursday Randoms

[pantsoffdanceoff]

I have been so tired this week! I am really ready for it to be over and I can feel myself being internally bitchy to people. Not outwardly, but inside I'm annoyed at everyone for no reason.

I'm getting a haircut this Saturday and I desperately need it. My ends are getting pretty dry.

[glitzyglow]

My cat woke me up at 5:30am because he was licking himself so loudly. I fell back asleep but now I feel tired.

Some stuff I ordered for my trip is coming today. I really hope some of it fits!

[winecat]

I am so sick. I have a really painful cough.

[bg]

Feel better winecat!

I'm also not sleeping well this week. I think most of it stems from a situation with DH. At the last minute he was asked to go to Europe for work for a week. I think he needs to stay put and work on himself/our relationship (he has a history of throwing himself into his work) as we've been in limbo forever, he describes himself as "a mess" and "sucking at life," and he's still dealing with side effects from his new meds. But our couples therapist and his individual therapist think he should go. I don't get it. I would totally be on board if we were in a more normal place, but given this is a continued pattern of behavior with him it may end up being my breaking point. Glad I'm seeing my therapist today to see if I'm being irrational and just not seeing some part of the situation. And headed to yoga... ommmmm.

[pantsoffdanceoff]

I sent Sephora an email regarding my displeasure with their "Epic Rewards" stunt on Monday. I got an email back stating that they are reviewing the complaints and I should hear back in 2 weeks.

[jigsy]

I am at the end of my rope with my job. I got a "promotion" that came with an 11% raise. Maybe that sounds ok, except when I started, I was told if I did XYZ, I would get a 15% raise. I did XYZ, and moved to a new position, and was offered the 11%. When I countered the offer with "I was expecting at least 15% because that was what was promised when I took this position in March. In addition to that, this new role is significantly more responsibility, and market salary for this position is generally around X (higher than I asked for)" I was told that they would review my request, the previosuly promised increase was only a potential offer, not set in stone, and with my lack of experience, they didn't agree with my assessment.

There is a whole lot more I could type, but basically, I heard back yesterday that I would not get the increase I requested, and (following advice on AskAManger) when I asked what I could do to show them that I should be paid that salary, I was just told "well, do a good job!"

At this point, I know that they clearly do not value my contributions, at all, and nothing will change that. I have been applying to job and have heard nothing back. I am so down-trodden over this and I feel absolutely stuck. This, on top of several other things that I have going on has made me feel so defeated. I don't really know what more I can do, which makes it all the worse.

I just don't know what to do anymore.

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bg maybe I'm missing something, but this seems like a great career opportunity (and could potentially stunt his growth if he doesn't go) so I'm not sure why the resentment? This isn't a personal vacation and it's only a week. I know that for me personally I can be a total disaster but still kill it at work. In fact I would guess that having this opportunity at work would be good for him and boost in his work abilities which can at times carry over into other parts of your life.

[redshoejune]

I hate my x so much today. He doesn't seem to care what's best for the kids and keeps lying to me about his girlfriend.

[bg]

Aug 13, 2015 12:21:29 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

bg maybe I'm missing something, but this seems like a great career opportunity (and could potentially stunt his growth if he doesn't go) so I'm not sure why the resentment? This isn't a personal vacation and it's only a week. I know that for me personally I can be a total disaster but still kill it at work. In fact I would guess that having this opportunity at work would be good for him and boost in his work abilities which can at times carry over into other parts of your life.

Thanks for the perspective @pdx18, I need to keep the things you said in mind. There is a lot of history -- but one of the things he does is withdraw into work instead of working on himself/emotional stuff, which he finds hard. He went through a tough time at work (and directed a lot of the fallout at me), but the work situation ended up working out. He's a superstar at work, at the expense of any sort of personal life. After years(!) of limbo (as much my fault as his), it's really important to me that he's focusing on himself as much as he's focusing on work. And in the past I've accommodated behaviors/actions because of his emotional struggles, so even if my reaction is irrational, at this point it would be nice for him to do the same for me this one time. So I know that some of it is totally me being mad at myself too. But in particular I'll focus on your final statement. 

[sweetchix]

I am currently roasting mushrooms over the fire while listening to the Jason Aldean concert. He's performing in the amphitheater and we can hear it from our campsite. Too bad I don't know any of his songs.

[poptart84]

Busy season at work, got tomorrow off thankfully for a doctor's appt. In starting to get excited yet nervous for the upcoming divorce hearing!

[1confused1]

Aug 13, 2015 19:49:35 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I am currently roasting mushrooms over the fire while listening to the Jason Aldean concert. He's performing in the amphitheater and we can hear it from our campsite. Too bad I don't know any of his songs.

OMG, he's one of my favorites  

[sweetchix]

Aug 13, 2015 21:51:36 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Aug 13, 2015 19:49:35 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I am currently roasting mushrooms over the fire while listening to the Jason Aldean concert. He's performing in the amphitheater and we can hear it from our campsite. Too bad I don't know any of his songs.

OMG, he's one of my favorites  

The only song I recognized is when he did a cover of "This is how we roll", lol. But he dos sound pretty good