Anna not leaving Josh, shouldering some of the blame

[charminglife]

Source Says Anna Duggar Will Likely Not Be Leaving Husband Josh in the Wake of Cheating, Porn Scandal: 'She Is Turning More to Her Faith Than Ever'

BY AURELIE CORINTHIOS 08/20/2015 AT 04:30 PM EDT


Anna Duggar will likely not be leaving her husband Josh despite his admitted infidelity, a source with ties to the family tells PEOPLE.



"Anna will not leave him," says the source. "As with her in-laws, she is turning more to her faith than ever. She and Josh are probably praying around the clock right now, I would assume."



Amid reports Josh had signed up with Ashley Madison, a website that specializes in facilitating extramarital affairs, Josh and his parents Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar broke their silence with a statement on the Duggar family website on Thursday, in which Josh says he has been "the biggest hypocrite ever" and confesses to a secret pornography addiction, as well as being unfaithful to his wife.



The source says that from their knowledge of Josh and Anna and the Duggar family, "no way is she leaving him" – adding that it would not come as a surprise if "on some level" Anna tries to "absorb some of the blame."


"Maybe not publicly, ever, but privately, there will be some suggestion of whether or not she should have been more aware of the pressures Josh was under, of the issues he was facing, and how she could have better counseled him or helped him," says the source.



"She is fully and permanently committed to her marriage and her children. And she'll have the support of Jim Bob and Michelle and everyone else in their circle in terms of staying with him and making this work," continues the source. "Divorce is not even something that will be discussed."




"As for Josh, in this moment, I would assume he feels like his life is ruined," says the source. "It will be such a steep and practically impossible climb to come back from this."



Josh and Anna, both 27, married in 2008 and have four children together: daughter Mackynzie, 5, sons Michael, 4, and Marcus, 2, as well as newborn daughter Meredith Grace, 1 month.



According to the source, in the end, "Josh and Anna will pull through this," and the scandal will be "seen as a test" for which the couple, Jim Bob and Michelle "will be determined not to fail."


www.people.com/article/josh-duggar-cheating-scandal-anna-duggar-will-not-leave-source

[ttt]

Of course she's not because if she did, what the hell else would she do? What kind of skills does she have?

[charminglife]

There isn't a gif to convey my anger/frustration/chagrin over this bullshit spin of making Anna responsible for Josh's behavior, but here are some attempts.

[charminglife]

Aug 20, 2015 16:07:33 GMT -5 ttt said:

Of course she's not because if she did, what the hell else would she do? What kind of skills does she have?

Fight Josh for some of that sweet TLC money, get paid by People for a few stories, and live a quiet life with her kids.

(I know it's a pipe dream but...ugh.)

[heyjude]

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

It's her fault her husband is an entitled prick.


Blech.

[Cicero]

Someone explain to me again why a sex that is seen to be generally helpless and completely unable to control themselves in such a manner that whatever they do is somehow a woman's fault is supposed to be in charge?

[tacosforlife]

Aug 20, 2015 16:15:13 GMT -5 Cicero said:

Someone explain to me again why a sex that is seen to be generally helpless and completely unable to control themselves in such a manner that whatever they do is somehow a woman's fault supposed to be in charge?

Oh, you and your lady logic!

[mbcdefg]

Oh geez. So many people have failed this poor young woman if she truly believes this 

[tres3]

she could write a best selling tell all book and be financially secure

[origami]

I think in a few years when he's not news, she'll leave him. we'll see.

I'm shocked he was so candid in his response. I did not expect that.

[demofea01]

Of course she thinks it's partially her fault. Ugh. That poor woman.

[turboteal]

Any updates from the people (not here, but on FB, etc.) who were sure it was a hoax/ID theft yesterday?

[eclaires]

Aug 20, 2015 16:22:39 GMT -5 tres3 said:

she could write a best selling tell all book and be financially secure

I'd buy it just to help her get out even if I didn't read it.  

[josieposy]

I'm not gonna tell her how to handle her marriage, but I would pay to watch her give him the beatdown of his life.

[emilyj]

"Maybe not publicly, ever, but privately, there will be some suggestion of whether or not she should have been more aware of the pressures Josh was under, of the issues he was facing, and how she could have better counseled him or helped him," says the source.


Worn jeans? 

[eclaires]

God these people are just so foul to me. They set everyone up for failure. IT'S NOT NORMAL to live like this. IT IS NOT NORMAL AND IT FUCKS EVERYONE UP.

People raise their daughters to think things like this are THEIR fault. People raise their sons to think that sex is dirty and women are temptresses. Then they arrange fucked up courtships for them, and they get married. And immediately have kids and start the fucked up cycle all over again, ruining even more lives.

One of the things I dread as a parent is my kids growing up, and having to talk to them about sex. I worry all the time about crazy shit I read in articles that kids do, and the last thing I want to know about my babies doing is having sex. In a lot of ways, I am prudish, because I want them to wait until they are older (i.e., not high school) and I want them to really consider sex as something special, especially at first. When they are older and more experienced, they can do what they want, but when they are young, vulnerable and impressionable, I don't want them to be having sex with whoever because I think it can be damaging.

BUT FOR GOD'S SAKE, I will at least tell them that sex is not dirty, it's wonderful. And I won't make them feel dirty for being curious or wanting it. And even though it's hard for me to think about talking to them about this, and them growing up, above all, my entire goal in talking to them about sex will be to hopefully help them develop a healthy attitude towards sex that will eventually result in them having a fulfilling SAFE sex life. It's difficult to think about that, but that's what I want for them despite how it makes me feel.

I've said for years I hate the Duggars. I've never watched their show, but I've always thought their worst crime is how they are horrible, horrible parents. I remember getting flamed for it on the nest once (parenting board)! Good job, Jim Bob and Michelle. Good job.

[jln]

This poor girl. She's probably under immense pressure to stay married. I would not be surprised if the Duggars have threatened her to be sure she won't leave.

[miniroller]

Aug 20, 2015 16:18:38 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

Oh geez. So many people have failed this poor young woman if she truly believes this 

I know; I have wondered if she has anyone in her life with whom she can speak. Like a real honest conversation about how she really feels (if she's not brainwashed enough to truly fill the role of Uber Submission all the time). It hurts my heart, either way, but in my dream-world she has a rebel cousin from up north who would swoop in & rescue her & the kids.

[iammalcolmx]

Who thought of the name Meredith!!!

[iammalcolmx]

Aug 20, 2015 16:40:33 GMT -5 josieposy said:

I'm not gonna tell her how to handle her marriage, but I would pay to watch her give him the beatdown of his life.

Tiger Tiger Woods y'all!!!

[pinkdutchtulips]

Maybe not publicly, ever, but privately, there will be some suggestion of whether or not she should have been more aware of the pressures Josh was under, of the issues he was facing, and how she could have better counseled him or helped him," says the source.
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When xh and I were in the middle of his merh relapse, I'm sure there were folks in our congregation who thought that I was responsible for the relapse ... Grrrr ... for all of the reasons listed above. Smh

[cattledogkisses]

This is an abusive relationship.

[jillboston]

Anna should sweetly suggest a huuuuuge life insurance policy on ole Josh's life. Cause he's the man and all. Then, in a few months time convince him to go visit a tall building, rock formation, whatevs and shove his ass over the side.

[lilibet]

Aug 20, 2015 17:18:44 GMT -5 miniroller said:

Aug 20, 2015 16:18:38 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

Oh geez. So many people have failed this poor young woman if she truly believes this 

I know; I have wondered if she has anyone in her life with whom she can speak. Like a real honest conversation about how she really feels (if she's not brainwashed enough to truly fill the role of Uber Submission all the time). It hurts my heart, either way, but in my dream-world she has a rebel cousin from up north who would swoop in & rescue her & the kids.

Isn't there a Duggar cousin who wants to be a famous singer or something? New show - she swoops in, picks up Anna and the kids, and they travel the world on a bus making lots of sight seeing stops to show Anna the world (sort of like that TLC show where the Amish kids went out into the world). At the end Anna decides whether to go back to being a doormat, err Duggar wife, or to beat Josh's ass to the ground - literally or just in divorce court.

That'll never happen, of course.

[msmerymac]

Duh, she has to abide by JOY: Jesus first, others second, yourself last. She's a woman. She is meant to serve her husband. She thinks she was too focused on herself and not enough on Jesus and others, so OF COURSE her response isn't what would bring HER happiness.

It's opposite day! Literally everything she has been taught and everything she knows is convincing her to stay with him. She's been well-trained to ignore her basic instinct, which, ideally, would be to grab her babies and run in the opposite direction.

[msmerymac]

Aug 20, 2015 16:58:43 GMT -5 eclaires said:

I've said for years I hate the Duggars. I've never watched their show, but I've always thought their worst crime is how they are horrible, horrible parents. I remember getting flamed for it on the nest once (parenting board)! Good job, Jim Bob and Michelle. Good job.

They ARE horrible parents. They are also horrible parents in a multitude of ways. 

1) They raise their children in a repressive culture in which women are inferior to men, duties are always assigned by gender, and men are taught that women are temptresses, so girls always have to cover their shoulders, collar bones and knees. This sets both the boys and the girls up for extremely unhealthy relationships with the opposite sex and with sexual activity.

2) They are psychologically ill in someway, Michelle especially, and have a need to collect babies. Then, when the baby is about 6 months old, he or she is handed to one of the older girls to raise. Michelle has said that having 5 kids was harder than 19, because there was no one to help. Once the older ones could do the laundry and take care of babies, though... This means Jim Bob and Michelle spend barely any time actually raising their own children or caring about them as individuals at all, and also really messes up the kids - the older ones spend their pre-teen and teen years enslaved as nannies and housekeepers, and the younger ones form attachments to their siblings that they should have with their parents. Siblings who are then ripped away from them when they get married and move out.

[msmerymac]

Aug 20, 2015 17:19:35 GMT -5 iammalcolmx said:

Who thought of the name Meredith!!!

It's the one time I was disappointed to see someone use the name. 

[gpw]

So, let's just say it's bizarro day and Anna does decide to leave him. An early Christmas miracle or something.

What happens to her in the church? Is she shunned? What about the kids? Has divorce NEVER happened in this community?

[iammalcolmx]

Aug 20, 2015 18:06:46 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

Aug 20, 2015 17:19:35 GMT -5 iammalcolmx said:

Who thought of the name Meredith!!!

It's the one time I was disappointed to see someone use the name. 

I want to fucking sue!

[bowies]

3) They engage in blanket training. Babies are placed on a blanket on the floor and if they roll or crawl off, they are punished. Michelle has also admitted to striking the children if chores are not done to her standards.

4) They have an insatiable need for fame. It has nothing to do with spreading the word of God. They are straight up narcissists.