Sometimes. Grocery shopping fits into my schedule better so I end up doing most of the shopping. He's perfectly capable and will do it if he has time. He used to cook 98% of our meals but I've being doing about 60% now. Neither of us meal plan. We open the freezer before going to bed and pull a protein out for dinner the next day. We piece together the rest of the meal in the morning.
Post by open24hours on Aug 24, 2015 14:06:12 GMT -5
He does. He's not bad at it. He runs the meal plan by me because I will do all the cooking (he works late shifts). He is pretty good about grocery shopping.
We meal plan and grocery shop together and he does all the cooking (I do the dishes). So we share a mutual understanding and hatred of the daily drudgery of feeding ourselves, lol.
See, this is why I want him to do this! I don't feel like he appreciates the effort I put into it.
Also, I definitely had to give him a budget, or he'd come home with $200 worth of groceries we couldn't make a meal out of, lol.
Right?? Cooking was the first thing I shifted on to him once I got a job and started working full time, lol. But in order to find things that I was willing to eat and he was willing to cook, we had to work together on the planning and shopping. It took a while, but while we both hate it we no longer fight about distribution of labor
I would say meal planning is 90/10, grocery shopping is 80/20, and cooking is 70/30 me/him. Cooking used to be more him before I started SAH. I'm confident if something happened to me DH would be able to plan, shop, and cook real food for our kids.
No. He cooks maybe once every other month. We've had a long-standing agreement that I'll handle the shopping & cooking, while he'll handle the clean-up & dishwashing.
No. I can't even take him with me since my bill would double.
I do the meal planning and the shopping and he cooks it.
This is us, too. If I don't meal plan, we end up eating out every night. So I suck it up and do it and then throw a fit if he criticizes any of my choices. So mature.
Post by jeekerbeeker on Aug 24, 2015 14:13:54 GMT -5
I stay at home full time so I do all the planning, shopping and most of the cooking. I don't mind it; I find it enjoyable and have plenty of time to do it.
Post by penguintamer on Aug 24, 2015 14:16:10 GMT -5
Yup. I'd say it's about 60/40, but only because my schedule is more flexible. He doesn't coupon like I do, but he does read the sale ads first and plan accordingly.
H and I usually grocery shop together. If we need to get an item or two during the week I usually send him because he deals with the crazy going home traffic better than I do.
We take turns cooking or cook together. We don't meal plan although I wish we did. He's super set against it because it takes away from the spontaneity of changing your mind at the last minute or some such weird reasoning.
SO does cook, and fairly well. When I was incapable, he kept me fed for a year. I did eat a lot more canned soup than I'd like, but I really didn't care because nothing tasted good to me. These days, I do most of the shopping and cooking. He's working, I'm not and it just seems fair to make sure that he has something on the table when he gets home from working.
My only bitch at him is that I ask him if there is anything he's interested in having for dinner that I'm not making. Translation: I'm running out of freaking ideas and want some from you. Nope, he trusts me. Grrrrr......last time I explained to him that when I said this, I was looking for ideas of things to cook. I would LOVE for him to make some suggestions, I'm tired of my ideas!
No. But there are a few dishes that he'll cook if I get the ingredients. Some how I manage to find the ingredients for at least one each week. Funny how that works ;-)
Post by Mrs. ChanandlerBong on Aug 24, 2015 14:25:29 GMT -5
Nope. I get so"over" the process, too.
I would love if we had the "I shop/he cooks" or "he cooks, I clean" or vice versa. But the reality is I do all of it. He doesn't get home till after 630 most nights, so if we were waiting for him to cook, we'd starve.
The not helping me clean is 90% on me not pushing it and 10% of how his parents operated when he was growing up. I plan to make this a priority in the fall. I can not be the one shuttling both kids in different directions and also be in charge of cooking and clean up.
Meal plan, no, but if I make him a list he will grocery shop. He also works at a grocery store, so there's that. I mean, he's already there 5 days a week.
I'm jealous of everyone here that is any good at meal planning. I usually just wander around the grocery store picking up whatever looks good that day. I usually don't come home with enough food.
SO does when I'm at his house to eat and I do the same when he's at mine. I'm more picky, so he tries to cater to my needs/wants. If we lived together, I could wholeheartedly trust him with a list, but not with a budget.
Post by lovelyshoes on Aug 24, 2015 14:34:33 GMT -5
He needs a list and even then he will buys random stuff. When he comes along our bill nearly doubles. I cook, he grills and he cleans up. I hate clean up and don't mind shopping and cooking, it works out well.
For the most part, we plan together and whoever can get to the store goes. If he goes, he always spends more - though he has started to be good about getting store brands if possible. He also cooks most of the time - if I cook we have the same like 3 things.
Post by ladystardust on Aug 24, 2015 14:35:06 GMT -5
He has done shopping but I generally meal plan. I'll ask him to throw out dinner ideas sometimes while planning. He has gone shopping with me a lot this summer and it usually causes our bill to be higher.
He offered to do the grocery shopping after work after kid #2 arrives. We might try that for a while. He does a fair amount of shopping for the house. He buys probably 90% of DD's clothes.