Dh does all the cooking and meal planning. I will happily go to the grocery, and usually do. Basically, he's in charge of dinner and I'm in charge of breakfast, lunch, and snacks.
The last time I let DH "meal plan" he went to Costco and got a bottle of tequila, lemon cake, a rotisserie chicken and two video games. No more meal planning for him.
I should add that he will do the cooking though. I just lay out the recipe, spices and any canned goods for him. He also cannot ever find anything in our cabinets.
Post by irene adler on Aug 24, 2015 16:29:04 GMT -5
We split it pretty evenly. DH enjoys grocery shopping, especially because I can be stingy (ie, I have no self control when it comes to snacks, so I don't buy them.)
I come up with better meal plans.
It keeps things interesting, and we both feel our system is fair.
Nope. I do all the shopping and cooking. This doesn't bother me. What DOES bother me is that some days I am feeling pretty uninspired about what to make. When that happens, I'll ask what my SO what he wants for dinner and he NEVER has an answer. He'll say he doesn't care, or that I always make good stuff, or "whatever you want, babe." Drives me NUTS! Even when I push him for an answer, he'll never have one. Sometimes it's exhausting always coming up with the meals.
Post by SpartanGirl on Aug 24, 2015 16:41:21 GMT -5
I do the meal planning and we split the shopping and cooking. H loves to cook and shop, but doesn't always have time for it. I wish he'd help more with meal planning. I feel like I've completely run out of ideas.
Post by rupertpenny on Aug 24, 2015 16:52:43 GMT -5
This is an ongoing annoyance for me. My H LOVES to do the grocery shopping, but not only does he not meal plan, he doesn't even think of how things can go together to make a meal at all while he's shopping. He's also not home early enough to cook during the week so every week is like a freaking episode of Chopped in my house. It drives me crazy.
He will shop from a list if I make one, but gets pouty if the list isn't ready when he wants to go. He actually got mad at me for ordering groceries online the other day because I robbed him of an opportunity to go to the store.
I guess I'm lucky he is willing to go at all, but OMG his grocery shopping obsession drives me absolutely crazy.
He does all the grocery shopping. Occasionally I'll go along, but I can only think of one time I've gone alone in the past year.
He does at least half the meal planning. I'd be happy eating cereal every night so he has taken control of most things meal wise.
ETA H grew up in a grocery store and was bagging groceries by time he could reach the counter. So he knows his way around a store and what everything is. I can make a big list and send him and everything he brings back is exactly right. The downside of his grocery store background is he hates how everyone else bags groceries. He is that person that hops to the end and asks to do it himself lol. Or rebags everything once he gets to the car haha.
We both grocery shop, neither of us meal plan. At least based on what "meal plan" means to me. And to be honest, if a person isn't a meal planner, it's setting them up for failure to expect them to do it successfully! DH and I have tried so many times to do this and it just.isn't.our.nature at all.
Now, if one of us was a meal planner and could put a list together, the other would have no problem going and doing the shopping.
But. Again. This just doesn't happen in our household.
Post by marylennox on Aug 24, 2015 18:24:16 GMT -5
We don't meal plan. When we were both working full time we would alternate who went grocery shopping or occasionally go together, and he would do 90% of the cooking. Now that I'm part time I usually do the shopping. I'm also trying to cook more, but it's definitely still shared.
Not really. I mean, he can rock a list if I give him one, but he doesn't meal plan or cook. The extent of his meal planning is helping to choose which day to have which meal I've planned for the week, and I'm ok with that. I've never even really thought of asking him to do it. It's just my thing.
I will say that I don't care if he comes home with impulse purchases, though. It's never anything ridiculous or enough to bankrupt us, and if he wants certain foods, I certainly don't mind.
Yes but he used to not. I had one of those " sick of doing it all and you need to step up" moments like 2 years ago.
We'll meal plan and most of the time shop together. He'll go to the market without me sometimes but I anticipate calls/photos verify items I actually want.
He's never really gone "over budget" as we have our groceries & going out food in the same budget. If we go over in groceries we just eat out less. When he used to go alone he would go way over than what I expected to pay and or not notice certain things on prices/double scanning on cashing out. He's way better now.
For those of you who don't meal plan, what do you eat? Do you just pick up stuff as you go?
For me meal planning allows me to get all of the ingredients I need to make certain recipes.
I usually just get some different meats and produce and then look up recipes based on what we have. Occasionally I will have a couple dishes in mind that I'll pick up specific things for. Like I said I don't cook much lol, I like easy and most of what I make is probably boring. H is better at cooking and consequently better at grocery shopping.
Most of the time now we do the shopping as a family, and I have primary charge of the shopping list because I hate DH's handwriting and I do the cooking. In the past, though, he was often in charge of shopping when he had Mondays and Tuesdays off. We still made the list together, though, because he doesn't make the meal plan.
Post by ElizabethBennet on Aug 24, 2015 20:18:29 GMT -5
If H meal planned he'd choose elaborate meals that neither of us would ever have time to cook, so I do most of the planning. I do every once in awhile say "you're in charge of dinner tonight" just to give myself a break. I do most of the shopping but that's more a time factor. He does fine grocery shopping.
Before he left he was cooking more frequently and I hope that continues when he gets back.
H does not shop. Ever. He will cook certain foods, (grilling and deep frying) but has no concept of a balanced meal. Veggies are not his strong point.
When asked what he would like for dinner, he either says, "whatever you want is fine!" Or "it's noon! How do I know ?!?"
I am going back to school this fall while working full time, and the agreement was that if I do this, this responsibility will fall on him. It should be very interesting.
Post by waffletime on Aug 24, 2015 21:25:04 GMT -5
H does the cooking and we plan together. I generally do the shopping because I have the time. He does the majority of the cleaning and all the laundry as well.