Whose thinking about another kid right now?

[auberge]

Were thinking about a second...timing, money, stress, etc. I will be 35 in August and I feel like for me the clock is ticking but IM NOT SURE IM READY awwwwwwww

Anyone else thinking about it?

[ijack]

I think about it every day, but I know another child isn't in the cards for us.
What makes you think you aren't ready?

[barefootcontessa]

35 is not old. I have had four kids since turning 35!

[Deleted]

I predict the advent of the MM Moms board will cause a MM population boom! Bring on the babies!

[vanillacourage]

Me. Don't think DH would be on board though.

[auberge]

May 16, 2012 16:15:43 GMT -5 ijack said:

I think about it every day, but I know another child isn't in the cards for us.
What makes you think you aren't ready?

I think I'm lazy because I'm freakin tired from one kid. Plus, I just stressed about the $$$$. We are trying to buy a house right now and its alot of money to think about that and another kid at the same time.

My H wants them to be close in age and my son is 2 1/2. We certainly aren't going to be on the street money wise but it will be tight for a couple of years.

[mellymel]

I'm getting there. DS is turning 1 in a week and I have always had it in my head that I wanted kids 2 yrs apart from one another. Plus DH is 35 and I'm turning 32. Not old, I know, but for us we feel like it's almost time.

[ijack]

I think it's always hard to imagine making the jump, but it's usually okay once you actually make it. I was worried about finances too before Q was born, but things have worked out. Daycare isn't quite as much as I thought it would be (we changed to a nanny and #1 in preschool part-time) and there aren't a lot of start up costs with the second. I am pretty tired, but things got a lot better after the first couple of months and now that they can entertain each other I feel like I have to do a lot less hands on work.
Obviously there is no perfect time, and we waited longer than I thought we would, but it's worked out pretty well so far

[housegeek]

We're thinking about a 3rd. Working on pros and cons

[Deleted]

DO IT!!!!

[Deleted]

I am unintentionally in the 2 week wait. We had an oops at a time where I was very likely ovulating, so I've been thinking about what that would mean for us...In a way, I am freaking the F out because I'm just not ready and things are still chaotic with V. In another way, if things are going to suck, might as well get all the sucking out of the way at once

[Deleted]

We are thinking about it. I know I want a house before number 2 comes along. I also would like to enjoy my son for a bit that doesn't involve constant preparations for surgery. He's one and already had 2 but now we don't have to worry about a third for at least 4 years.

[auberge]

May 16, 2012 16:30:19 GMT -5 @iheartcosmos said:

DO IT!!!!

Does this response indicate your answer to this question?

[Jem]

May 16, 2012 16:19:37 GMT -5 auberge said:

I think I'm lazy because I'm freakin tired from one kid. Plus, I just stressed about the $$$$. We are trying to buy a house right now and its alot of money to think about that and another kid at the same time.

My H wants them to be close in age and my son is 2 1/2. We certainly aren't going to be on the street money wise but it will be tight for a couple of years.

We are in almost the same place as you and it is SO confusing! We are trying to buy a home, plus I am mid-career change, which is my way of saying that I won't be working for a few more months. Financially it seems like a really bad time to have #2. But, we don't want them too far about and DS will be 2 soon.

And even once I'm working again, it will just cause new problems. It feels wrong to me to take maternity leave during my first year working somewhere.

And I agree, DS wears us out. I don't know if we have the energy for another.

Basically, all the rational signs point to the fact that we should just have 1. But the emotional side has us both wondering if we'll regret not having another.

[dreamgirl]

Our little one is a few months old and if it happened, we would be happy. But if we were to plan it, we'd wait until DD turns 1. We shall see.

[Deleted]

May 16, 2012 16:34:50 GMT -5 auberge said:

May 16, 2012 16:30:19 GMT -5 @iheartcosmos said:

DO IT!!!!

Does this response indicate your answer to this question?

I'm on MM moms. That should be an indication, right? two months ago you couldnt get me to open an @ post.

[bunch]

One day I'm ready, the next I say "forget it.". The plan is June. Dh is ready today.

Maybe ask me when my kid isn't wailing

[ijack]

May 16, 2012 16:41:13 GMT -5 bunch said:

One day I'm ready, the next I say "forget it.". The plan is June. Dh is ready today.

Maybe ask me when my kid isn't wailing

You realize June is in like 2 weeks, right??
And yay cosmos!!!

[Deleted]

May 16, 2012 16:33:50 GMT -5 @lilly said:

I am unintentionally in the 2 week wait. We had an oops at a time where I was very likely ovulating, so I've been thinking about what that would mean for us...In a way, I am freaking the F out because I'm just not ready and things are still chaotic with V. In another way, if things are going to suck, might as well get all the sucking out of the way at once

This was totally our thinking for having our kids 21 months apart. And you know, it actually worked out really well.

[DazeyDee]

We keep talking about it. It's for sure not a great time financially, but we want them not too far apart, and our world will likely be dramatically different in 10-12 months since DH is up for several new jobs with significant pay increases. And honestly, I'd be ok with just DD - DH would be heartbroken.

[oregonpachey]

I want a third like RIGHT NOW but it probably won't happen for us. We need a bigger house first and that isn't happening for at least another year.

I will just live vicariously through you all.

[hannamarin]

I am in the same place as you. Want to buy a house, etc i am35 , want kids close in age....
I want to wait until I am back at work to see how we handle it

[statlerwaldorf]

We have been TTC. I'm not worried about my age, but we wanted our kids close in age. My body doesn't seem to agree.

[Deleted]

May 16, 2012 16:48:04 GMT -5 @lcap said:

May 16, 2012 16:33:50 GMT -5 @lilly said:

I am unintentionally in the 2 week wait. We had an oops at a time where I was very likely ovulating, so I've been thinking about what that would mean for us...In a way, I am freaking the F out because I'm just not ready and things are still chaotic with V. In another way, if things are going to suck, might as well get all the sucking out of the way at once

This was totally our thinking for having our kids 21 months apart. And you know, it actually worked out really well.

haha, good to know in case I get a BFP in another week I feel like #2 is going to be a lot harder to pull the trigger on than #1 was-- now I know all the work that is involved! I'd almost rather it just be an oops!

[hannamarin]

We had an oops in December. Have to admit, I was a little sad when the Plan B worked.

[Deleted]

I am...but we've been trying for a while (for #4).

[teacherjulie]

We are 98% sure we will try in July have one now a 2 year old

[orchid]

DS is almost 5 months old right now and we would like to either start TTC this summer or next summer...we shall see!

[Deleted]

We hope to start TTC in July when DD is 2.5. I want to start now but too much going on (building a house, then moving, etc).

[bunch]

May 16, 2012 16:44:00 GMT -5 ijack said:

May 16, 2012 16:41:13 GMT -5 bunch said:

One day I'm ready, the next I say "forget it.". The plan is June. Dh is ready today.

Maybe ask me when my kid isn't wailing

You realize June is in like 2 weeks, right??
And yay cosmos!!!

Ughhhh I know. I realized that right after I posted. I still haven't gotten af, so who really knows.