DS Neeeeds to be Nursed to Sleep and Uses My Nipple as Paci

[yourmother]

I currently work from home two days a week. During those days and weekends, my DS goes down for 2-3 naps easily, so long as I nurse him to sleep. I'm going on a work tripSunday  and my schedule will resume to working in my office five days a week.

I'm nervous that my DS and DH will be miserable when all this happens. Also, my DS is waking up and crying/fussing/sometimes screams when I pull my nipple away. He is sometimes (rarely) tricked if I replace my nipple with a paci.

Not sure what I'm looking for. Maybe ideas on how to get past this? Or ideas for my DH to use to be able to get DS down for his naps while I'm away? 

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[Deleted]

Honestly, you just have to bite the bullet and go. Your H and baby may be a bit miserable for a couple days but they will eventually find their rhythm. When I have watched other people's kids and had these type of problems we have tried swings, rockers, pacifiers, white noise machines, holding different ways, and swaddling. There was always more crying than when mom was there but eventually the baby got tired enough to sleep or we found something he or she liked.

It is a frustrating but unavoidable issue that won't be the end of the world. You baby will continue to grow and adjust and will ultimately be fine.

[heygrey]

H would cuddle, rock, and sing to R when he had to put him to bed without me. honestly, it wasn't that bad. Dad doesn't have milk so there really isn't much to wine about. He accepted the cuddles and would fall asleep in his arms.

[yourmother]

The hanks for the responses. I'm just frazzled with how my baby is becoming so dependent on nursing to go down for naps or bedtime. I'm just wondering if I'm doing something wrong. I was told by my MIL "he's using you as a paci and that's not good". I have that in the back of my mind and am second-guessing myself.

[DarcyLongfellow]

Aug 27, 2015 15:47:19 GMT -5 yourmother said:

The hanks for the responses. I'm just frazzled with how my baby is becoming so dependent on nursing to go down for naps or bedtime. I'm just wondering if I'm doing something wrong. I was told by my MIL "he's using you as a paci and that's not good". I have that in the back of my mind and am second-guessing myself.

You hear that a lot, but I 100% disagree with that sentiment. It actually IS good. Babies are SUPPOSED to be comforted by nursing -- they're supposed to use it to soothe themselves and to fall asleep. So there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you, your baby, or your nursing relationship!

Now, a baby needing to nurse to soothe and/or to fall asleep can be damn inconvenient, but it's not "wrong."

My oldest was like your DS. She only wanted to fall asleep on the boob. But when DH had to put her down, he could. It took longer and she didn't prefer it, but she would eventually do it. Your DH and DS will figure it out for sure :-) The Happiest Baby on the Block 5 S's were magical for DD1 -- I'm sure you could find the technique on YouTube if you aren't familiar with it. DH actually became the champion baby calmer in our house because he was forced to use methods besides nursing to calm her down :-)

[yourmother]

DarcyLongfellow

Thank you for your post. I actually love nursing my DS to sleep (when he goes DOWN and doesn't linger foreeever). As a matter of fact, I look forward to those special moments together when we are looking into each other's eyes while he's nursing and relaxing.

We watched Happiest Baby on the Block and my DH tries the 5 s's (well, not so much the swaddling anymore). I'll remind him of swaddling for tomorrow's nap. That actually may be the answer!!!