Hitting a teeny tiny rough patch

[Bernadine]

Just kind of missing some things from my old life. I was really close to xh's friends and family, and I miss them. I miss my house a lot. I miss the good times with xh and overall, I miss the familiarity of our relationship, and I wonder how long it will take to get to that point with someone else.

On the bright side, I've made a group of really good new friends, my family is awesome, and I like T more and more.

But I still miss some old things.

[hainesherway]

I think these are normal thoughts. Hang in there, you'll get through it and come out a stronger person!

[jade28]

Totally normal. To this day, I still miss so much. I think it's only natural. It's not like our previous lives were all bad, there was good stuff and it's okay to miss it.

When I miss stuff, I let myself think about it and sometimes I even say out loud that I miss so and so. Acknowledging it gives it less power...it just makes it a fact of life versus some huge emotional thing. I miss tons of stuff and I imagine I will always miss it. New beginnings are always bittersweet but I just cherish the good memories and let them be a part of me.

[gozf]

I know how you feel. It is hard sometimes. Sometimes, I get a little pang. But I know I did the right thing, and so do you.

C'mere. Lemme hug you.

[farfalla2011]

Hugs!!

[blackkitty]

I don't really miss anything any more about my marriage. Not sure if everyone gets to this point at some point or not. The last few things I missed were the inside jokes (like "Sofa King" lol). I don't even miss those any more. It's nice to have inside jokes with my new boyfriend.

[emma245]

I feel you as well. Ive been in a total funk lately and keep thinking no one is going to know me or understand me the way EXH did. For as much wrong he did by me, the guy understood me better than I think anyone can. Its been totally depressing me too lately. But I try to just think of the bad times as horrible as that sounds to shake myself out of it.

I do miss the idea of being married, owning a house, having my little fur babies (dogs) especially when I come home to an empty one bedroom each night

[Deleted]

I understand. I'm so depressed lately. I miss certain things too...like the idea of being married, the "comfort" of a relationship (not having to teach someone new everything), even wearing a wedding ring. Not him, just what came along with him. I mean I'm hurt over what he did to me and how things didn't turn out as planned. I guess we all go through this.

[Bernadine]

Ah, thanks for the support guys. It's nice to have people to vent to who understand.

[Lauren88]

I am feeling the same exact way. I haven't even signed the divorce paperwork yet but the grieving my old life and future I had with him has begun.

I've know him since I was 17 so he knows tons about me and we had big plans for the future. I am dreading starting over with someone new. I hope that changes in the future though.

[emma245]

Aug 21, 2012 12:45:09 GMT -5 inara said:

I randomly have been missing wearing a wedding ring lately, too. It's been a couple years since I wore it on a regular basis, but lately I find myself reaching to play with it. No idea where that came from.

So weird. This is happening to me too and Im ultra conscious of others with wedding rings. I never used to be like that.....

[roselis]

Aug 21, 2012 12:58:54 GMT -5 emma245 said:

Aug 21, 2012 12:45:09 GMT -5 inara said:

I randomly have been missing wearing a wedding ring lately, too. It's been a couple years since I wore it on a regular basis, but lately I find myself reaching to play with it. No idea where that came from.

So weird. This is happening to me too and Im ultra conscious of others with wedding rings. I never used to be like that.....

Right after I separated from XH, I bought myself a ring. It is silver and malachite and perfect for me. I wear it on my right hand. It just felt too weird to not have a ring on and it was nice to have that "safety blanket"

[explorer2001]

Hugs!

[hobs209]

I'm sorry, B I also miss the familiarity sometimes and wonder how long it'll take to get there with someone new. At the same time though, I do look forward to new experiences and having a fresh start.