Pru: DH wants me to role play as someone we know

[josieposy]

Now you guys have me reading this stuff!







Q. Husband’s Fantasies: My husband and I have resolved to be more open about our sexual desires after a long “dry spell,” which has really revitalized all aspects of our relationship and made us much happier. We often dress up during sex, which is really fun, but recently he confessed a desire that gave me pause. He wants me to dress up as a casual acquaintance of ours. He wants to call me her name and for me to wear a very particular kind of clothing she wears. I’m not sure what to think. It’s kind of gross, and also suggests he’d rather be sleeping with her. Then again, maybe I should be glad he’s not and he’s making do with what he’s got (me). What should I do?





A: Of course it sounds to you as if he’d rather be sleeping with her. But I don’t think it means that. I think it means that with this new fantasy-play in your marriage, he gets to act out sleeping with other people while sleeping with you. But your letter expresses the downside of making manifest the erotic tapes we run in our own heads. It’s one thing for you two to pretend to, say, meet at a bar as strangers and pick each other up. But it’s a little dangerous for your husband to ask you to be someone else in your social orbit. Unsurprisingly, this has left you disconcerted. You can tell him this bothers you—for the obvious reasons—but you’re going to give it a try. It may be that you surprise yourself at how much fun it is to be “Darlene” for a night. Alternately, you can tell him that his fantasy is crashing into your reality, and you just can’t get into pretending to be someone you both see, and whom you now know he’d like to sleep with.

[aurora]

Ugh, that would really mess with my head. I don't think I could do it.

[sangria]

No fucking way.

[rageragerage]

Fuck Darlene. But not literally.

[mrsukyankee]

Hell no.

[Velar Fricative]

NO WAY

[pixy0stix]

Hard pass on that particular fantasy.

[Deleted]

Nope. There's nothing wrong with having fantasies, there is something wrong with making a partner act out a fantasy that they are not comfortable with doing. And there's no way I could pretend to be someone we actually know and interact with in real life and think it isn't a big deal.

[Deleted]

Nope.

[omgzombies]

Not a snowballs chance in hell.

[iammalcolmx]

He wants to call me her name

[LeggsBenedict]

[StrawberryBlondie]

No.

[underwaterrhymes]

Nope.

And I can pretty much guarantee I would not be surprised by how much fun it is pretending to be someone we know in bed.

[ESF]

Fuck no.

Prudie's advice is often not great, but in this case, it's absolutely terrible.

It absolutely sounds to me like he wants to be sleeping with her, or maybe he already is.

[cookiemdough]

No

[tictac]

[sfy]

This happens just a few months before I end up on ID Channel.

[jillboston]

sure. If he's willing to dress up as his best friend and have me call him by that name.

But. No.

[intentionalsnarkshark]

It's like Prudence is trying to be open and hip like Dan Savage and is totally blowing it.

[sfy]

Sept 1, 2015 11:28:39 GMT -5 @majorwife said:

the face i am making.

i cant even gif it

Quite a range of emotions, am I right?  Let me try to help.  I know I was like:



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before I finally got stuck at

[W.T.Faulkner]

Her husband has quite a brass set of balls.

[laurenpetro]

not fucking happening.

[sushi]

If one is uncomfortable, then it's a no. How hard is that? Even if you're usually ggg, you're allowed to have your lines. This one is an entirely reasonable line to have. Stick to fictional characters ffs

[MrsAxilla]

Why in the world would you need Pru to answer this question for you?!?

[mrshandy]

Holy shit. Hell to the no.

[meshaliuknits]

No thank you. Also, Pru is less good at names than @cse1960.

[taratru]

Ya know, I consider myself pretty open to these kinds of things, but I'd be drawing a hard fucking line at that.

[iammalcolmx]

Sept 1, 2015 11:25:37 GMT -5 sfy said:

This happens just a few months before I end up on ID Channel.

[iammalcolmx]

Because I need the reaction of some funny ass MLers

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