I don't think there's anything wrong with being a SAHW, assuming the spouse takes no issue with it. I don't think there's anything wrong with being a highly-educated SAHM.
I think ADs are over-prescribed, as are meds for children. I think there are a great number of people who need them and do well on them, but there are people like my mom who went to therapy to discuss her divorce and was immediately - without even asking - prescribed an AD. She was all "...wut?" when the doc handed her the Rx.
And my brother was diagnosed as ADD as a kid and prescribed Ritalin. He wasn't. He just had a ton of energy - still does - and being told to sit down and shut up for x amount of hours a day wore on him.
This bothers me a lot.
What kept you? I can't believe it got to five pages without an "overdiagnosis! personal anecdote! sweeping generalization about meds for children!" post.
I love SAH. I'm also 37, partied my ass off and had a fulfilling career. Boring is relative. I'm lazy, so it works for me. Ask me again in a few years though!
I don't find abs all that attractive on a man. I mean, I don't hate them, but I don't understand the fanning oneself and drooling over a man's abdominal muscles. Heck, slightly-underweight teenage boys have cut up abs, too.
Now, a broad set of shoulders? Strong hands? Yeah. I get that. :Y:
Post by ElizabethBennet on Aug 21, 2012 12:34:06 GMT -5
I don't dislike being a SAHM, I love that I have all this time with my daughter, but I do not get those that say it is hard. For me, it's just not, and most days I feel pretty lazy. I have not worked FT as a parent so I can't compare the two but I can not imagine that working full time with kids is easier than being able to stay home. I have A LOT of respect for families where both parents work full time out of the home.
OF COURSE this is different if you have a child with special needs or something else that makes it difficult. But for your typical SAHM, I do not think it's that hard.
I don't like animals. I will probably not talk to you anymore if you try to bring your dog to my house. All of the pet love around here makes me feel like I don't have a soul sometimes.
I'm so excited for summer coming to a close in a few weeks - I always have and always will dislike summer - the heat, the humidity, the bugs, the sweating from said heat and humidity, I hate it all and every year I count the days from June until the beginning of September when it starts to cool down. I think if I lived in a place where it wasn't so freaking humid all the time and I lived within walking distance of a beach I would have a different view of summer, but after living in Virginia my whole life, I hate it. That is why we are looking into places like Seattle and Monterey to move in a couple of years.
Seattle is still humid and it rains for about 9-10 months every year, so I hope you like rain. signed, hates rain and that summer doesn't get warm until July and only moved here because H was here
I don't find abs all that attractive on a man. I mean, I don't hate them, but I don't understand the fanning oneself and drooling over a man's abdominal muscles. Heck, slightly-underweight teenage boys have cut up abs, too.
Now, a broad set of shoulders? Strong hands? Yeah. I get that.
I'm more of a biceps girl myself. Which would explain my ridiculous crush on Vin Diesel.
What kept you? I can't believe it got to five pages without an "overdiagnosis! personal anecdote! sweeping generalization about meds for children!" post.
i didn't say this was everyone's experience and my opinion is its over diagnosed. So fuck off.
Lol! So angry! Maybe you need some antidepressants.
I don't like animals. I will probably not talk to you anymore if you try to bring your dog to my house. All of the pet love around here makes me feel like I don't have a soul sometimes.
If someone brought their dog to my home I'd tell them to leave it outside or come back when they didn't have their dog with them.
I don't find abs all that attractive on a man. I mean, I don't hate them, but I don't understand the fanning oneself and drooling over a man's abdominal muscles. Heck, slightly-underweight teenage boys have cut up abs, too.
Now, a broad set of shoulders? Strong hands? Yeah. I get that.
I'm more of a biceps girl myself. Which would explain my ridiculous crush on Vin Diesel.
Man, I need my anti-anxiety. I fought it for months until I didn't want to get out of bed, eat, take care of my kid or see anyone that I love. People will never truly understand this until you have gone through it, and I'm okay with that. People with think what they want.
Maybe I find SAHM'ing hard because I had such an easy job for the last 5 years. I worked in customer service for a very specific city service. I spent most of my days surfing the internet, drinking coffee and talking to my mom on the phone. It was SO boring.
Now, I still do those things, but I had to add on watching/feeding/playing with a baby. lol. I also lost being able to pay someone else to clean my house.
So, for me... being a SAHM is harder than my job was. I like it 99% of the time, though. It's not like I could go to the zoo or swimming on a random Tuesday when I was working.
The science of it is calories in and calories out, sure. But there are some people with so much emotional stuff tied up in their eating habits that "eat less, work out more" is an overly simplistic answer.
This is a hot button issue for me this week. lol.
I'm an emotional eater as well...but I've kind of learned that calories in vs calories out IS how you lose weight. Unless you have an actual medical condition...it works.
I don't lump my emotional eating into my inability to lose weight. Because I have a choice. And until a few years ago, I always chose food. Now, if I am pissed or sad or feeling meh...I work out instead of eating chocolate.
I think it even more than this though. I saw a statistic a few weeks ago that got me thinking about this.
In the 1950's the average woman ate 2,200-2,400 calories per day and was substantially smaller than the average woman of today who eats, on average, substantially less calories. It doesn't make sense.
I hate the traditional education system, and would home school my kids, but for the simple fact that I don't want them to be weird, and I want them all to go to college, and many of my home schooling friends didn't see the value in a college education.
Also, we are getting a cat, and I don't want to ever bother with the litter box and the hair.