This is ironic.

[MyName]

I'm a tiny bit bummed that when they announce my name at graduation tomorrow it will be my "MarriedName". Huh. I got married in the middle of my MBA, so I really wish I could use both.

I feel like I need to remind my parents that they should listen for that instead of my maiden name, even though they probably totally expect to hear my married name. Maybe I should've hyphenated. Oh well.

On my degree it will say First Maiden Married though, so that's good.

[Deleted]

Can't you contact the school and have them change it?

[MyName]

May 16, 2012 16:41:12 GMT -5 skippingstones said:

Can't you contact the school and have them change it?

I only changed it there in the first place because I went to China for that class and I wanted to make sure my passport matched all my school docs in case I was taken as a political prisoner...or something. lol

I have to hand the speaker a card with my name on it, and there's a place to write my name phonetically. I'm tempted to write it out there, but since my name is easy I think he'll just look at the top line where it's printed as just my married name.

It doesn't really matter. I was just surprised that I felt that way.

[alabasterangel]

You are still you and still have the amazing accomplishments.. No matter what name it is!

But ditto calling and asking for a change if it means a lot to you.

[MissusTexas]

Kind of bittersweet, huh? Maybe you could ask them to change it.

My maiden name is Smith :N:

[MyName]

May 16, 2012 16:43:02 GMT -5 @stellarsailor said:

I wonder if it's weird to miss your maiden name. My married name is ok, a bit generic but it's not like my maiden name was all that exotic to begin with. It just has a huge weight with it. "Oh, that figures. You're a MaidenName." Or "Boardgames and beer, that's what MarriedName's do!"

Now I just made my family sound like a bunch of tools.

Not at all! I totally get this.

[MyName]

May 16, 2012 16:45:45 GMT -5 alabasterangel said:

You are still you and still have the amazing accomplishments.. No matter what name it is!

But ditto calling and asking for a change if it means a lot to you.

Thanks Ala.

[duff]

May 16, 2012 16:43:02 GMT -5 @stellarsailor said:

I wonder if it's weird to miss your maiden name. My married name is ok, a bit generic but it's not like my maiden name was all that exotic to begin with. It just has a huge weight with it. "Oh, that figures. You're a MaidenName." Or "Boardgames and beer, that's what MarriedName's do!"

Now I just made my family sound like a bunch of tools.

I miss my maiden name...hence my online name of Duff. I am not a fan of my married name, but oh well, it's done. I SO want to change it to my MIL's maiden name though...D'Lessio. I think it's so pretty.

[alabasterangel]

I don't miss my maiden name necessarily. I miss people only using my first name though. I use to have an intimidating last name so people wouldn't attempt it. Now it is a short 'easy' name so ppl always use it.. And always fuck it up.

[blondemoment123]

I can't completely part with my maiden name. I have a bunch of work stuff that I haven't (and probably won't) change.

I've only had one person get confused about the name change in the 6 months I've been married, so I see no reason to change it.

[Deleted]

May 16, 2012 16:43:02 GMT -5 @stellarsailor said:

You're a MaidenName." Or "Boardgames and beer, that's what MarriedName's do!"

Now I just made my family sound like a bunch of tools.

Actually, this just made me want to hang out with you even more.

[pilife]

I definitely miss my maiden name. It flowed with my first name much better. So much so that I debated going by my middle name when my last name changed.

[sapphire bou]

May 16, 2012 16:45:45 GMT -5 alabasterangel said:

You are still you and still have the amazing accomplishments.. No matter what name it is!

But ditto calling and asking for a change if it means a lot to you.

:Y:

I was sad to part with my maiden name. Not only because of the attachment to my family and history, but mainly because I was the only Sapphire MaidenName on FB (maybe the only one alive in the world). But now with my MarriedName, I am one of like 8 Sapphire MarriedNames on FB. But I think they're all out from another country.

I don't necessarily think it "flows" better, but it's much easier for people to understand when I introduce myself, which is beneficial in my new career.

[lizo11]

I miss mine for the fact that it was an easy name (that only once in awhile got screwd up) to one that everyone seems to mess up. People seem to have a problem with two i's and they end up a) pronoucning it wrong and b) spelling it wrong.

Though I agree with Ala, you have still made amazing accomplishments!!

[sitnspin]

Aw, at least the degree will have all your names. Congrats again lovah!

[watsonwedding2011]

I was happy to be rid of my maiden name. I now have a vary common last name that people don't miss pronounce.

[watsonwedding2011]

oh duh! congrats on graduating that's awesome!

[MyName]

It's funny, my maiden name is only 4 letters and people pronounced it wrong all the time. I have no idea why (I mean where do they can a long "a" sound?!).

Thanks for the congrats!

[darkling_glory]

Wow. So many people changed their names. I didn't. It really wasn't ever an option for me. My kick-ass feminist husband is totally find with it. Now that all our friends are getting married though they are all changing their names. I only have one other friend that didn't change hers.

[nearmiss]

Aww, that is bittersweet. But this is too big a day to let it get you down!

Congrats again! Have a wonderful graduation day! :beer:

[charitylynne79]

I am glad that I went with married last name because my maiden name always got mispronounced, etc. Married name is easy to pronounce but there is a gazillion ways to spell it so I always have to spell it for people. That gets annoying too at times.

[ILikeSloths]

Aw, I understand the feeling of missing your maiden name. I just had this conversation with MH a few days ago and how sometimes I wish I would've kept it. I went back and forth on whether or not to change it to MH's last name, but now it's a done deal. Sigh.

Regardless of what you're called at graduation, congratulations! That's a big accomplishment.