Sunday Randoms/Plans

[glitzyglow]

I had a completely terrible Saturday night, so I have been sluggish this morning. I am going to convince myself to go for a walk later...the weather is too gorgeous to not go outside.

I might go to Red Box and get a movie for tonight. I don't feel like doing much.

[bg]

I swam last night for the first time in forever. Usually my lips react to the chlorine so in the next few days I'll see if they puff up and get all bumpy. Good times.

I'm watching the men's final US Open match with DH today and then I'm getting ready for my trip/writing retreat tomorrow. DH and I were supposed to go on a vacation but he's uncomfortable with me staying in the house so I nixed the idea. He's not 'there' yet and I'm not in the mood to get stood up yet again. So I made my own trip!

[cuddlyevil]

I'm sorry glitzyglow.

I am baking a cake.

We went to church and then came home. Now we're watching Godzilla movies.

[lemons]

I slept til noon, made horrible coffee, and am continuing with cleaning/organizing. Need to also get groceries and do laundry but keep putting both off for later.

[bl]

I am sorry glitzyglow I hope your Sunday is much better.

I spent almost 3 hours organizing my makeup and bathroom yesterday and then cleaning. I woke up early today so I could finish cleaning before football started. I cleaned like a mad woman like bleaching the fan blades and everything and I am so happy it feels great in here.

I am now making beef and veggie soup, drinking a variety of pumpkin beers, and watching football.

I always thought I liked football so much because of my exh and wondered how much I would keep up with it when we split. While I definitely got into it because of him it has become something I absolutely love all on my own and maybe even more because I don't have to deal with his shitty mood when his team loses anymore. My team already played and won this week, but football will be on all day in this place and I wouldn't have it any other way!

[cam13]

Productive weekend; finished painting the master bathroom, got my Halloween back drop finished for mini sessions, and received a bulk order on my jewelry...yay!

Football is on right now as I get ready for a shoot.

Woke up to a $20 on my nightstand and while I know M left it there so I would see it, it made me laugh so much!

[poptart84]

Spent all of yesterday driving to pick up a hood for the bfs pulling tractor, so got nothing done but a bonfire when we got home after the 11 hours.

Today is the usual, laundry and grocery shopping. I am also attempting to make and freeze my own marinara sauce.

[sweetchix]

It's been rainy all day. And cool too. We walked to the store and DDs got some Beanie Boos with their allowance money. Then they played while I watched the Bills game. My dad came over and watched the rest of the game (the Bills won!) and he grilled steaks for dinner. Winding down now and DDs will be in for showers soon and then early to bed tonight.

[katieido]

Cleaning, lazing, and I baked two apple pies.

[bl]

I made iced coffee concentrate today to use in my coffee/protein shakes in the mornings. I love drinking them, but I have been failing making and refrigerating a cup of coffee every night and they suck with warm coffee in the morning. I am hoping this is a good solution.

[abcdefu]

I've been cleaning out my filing cabinet all day. I wish I could go completely paper free, but I think it's impossible!

My boss isn't going to be in tomorrow due to the Jewish holiday. I am actually looking forward to catching up on a bunch of projects without interruption!

Yesterday I picked up my mini fridge and mini microwave for my new office. The kinda funny part is, since I can't take it out of my car it's going to have to stay in there until STBX Co-worker leaves. I covered it up with a blanket since you can see it from the outside of my car! I'm not pushing her out of the office or anything. LOL!

[abcdefu]

Sept 13, 2015 20:33:01 GMT -5 bl said:

I made iced coffee concentrate today to use in my coffee/protein shakes in the mornings. I love drinking them, but I have been failing making and refrigerating a cup of coffee every night and they suck with warm coffee in the morning. I am hoping this is a good solution.

What do you put in your protein shake with the coffee??

[abcdefu]

Sept 13, 2015 14:18:43 GMT -5 bl said:

I am sorry glitzyglow I hope your Sunday is much better.

I spent almost 3 hours organizing my makeup and bathroom yesterday and then cleaning. I woke up early today so I could finish cleaning before football started. I cleaned like a mad woman like bleaching the fan blades and everything and I am so happy it feels great in here.

I am now making beef and veggie soup, drinking a variety of pumpkin beers, and watching football.

I always thought I liked football so much because of my exh and wondered how much I would keep up with it when we split. While I definitely got into it because of him it has become something I absolutely love all on my own and maybe even more because I don't have to deal with his shitty mood when his team loses anymore. My team already played and won this week, but football will be on all day in this place and I wouldn't have it any other way!

Miami??

[Mrs.Rad888]

Rough sports day for me. My football team lost. My baseball team lost. My fantasy baseball team lost (and now I'm out of the playoffs).
DH and I went to the county fair with some friends. There is a Star Trek exhibition there that DH and our friend wanted to see. Other friend was mildly interested, and I could not have been less interested. I thought I was being thrifty by buying a Groupon for fair and Star Trek admission. When we got there, I pulled up the Groupon app on my phone, and showed it to the guy at the box office. He said that there was a set of instructions to follow to redeem the Groupon. Turns out, I was supposed to to to another completely different website, put in info, and print out my tickets. WhyTF tell me that I can redeem the Groupon using the mobile app when it's not true? So, we spend money on a Groupon we ended up not being able to use, then we had to buy fair admission PLUS admission to the lame-assed Star Trek exhibit. Of course, poor DH was so put-upon and inconvenienced, so he's decided that we're not using Groupon any more, because we've been screwed by them every time we used them. Except we haven't. We've actually gotten some really good deals. But, next time we're planning to go to Portland for the annual pirate-fest, he is more than welcome to pay full price for the hotel. I will continue to use Groupon myself, and he can piss up a rope.
I know most of his short temper is because he's 11 days into kicking a tobacco habit, but I don't think I should have to just sit back and let him run his mouth however he wants with no repercussions. Seriously, I want to disappear for  the next 3 weeks while he battles this, and he can cook his own damn dinner. Enjoy your ramen, DH!

[bl]

abcdefu I just do cold coffee (usually hazelnut flavored), MCT or coconut oil, a scoop of vanilla isopure, sometimes a teaspoon of cocoa powder, ice and blend. The protein powder is sweet enough that it sweetens the coffee and makes it kinda creamy. I am incredibly lazy in the mornings and need something fast and on weekdays prefer to drink my breakfast. I used to drink coffee and a protein shake, but it just felt like too much liquid so I combine them. I get fat, protein and caffeine which are the important food groups in the morning. Also, the Patriots are my team. I do like that they are in Miami's division though so I can catch a game every year now if I want!!

[Linie]

My Sunday sucked. I am fighting a cold and feel rather crappy.

But the worst is that I had been dating a lovely man over the last nine months (lots of fun, great sex, great circle of friends, handsome & Italian) and that he told me yesterday that he can no longer handle his personal issues (finding a new job), an ongoing horrendous battle for custody for his 6-year old girl and our relationship (only the weekends because he works out of the country during the week).

He tells me our relationship is magnificent, that he adores me, but that his priority right now is his child (who loves me very much but is very jealous of her father) and his job search.

We met yesterday evening, he tells me he does not want to be with anybody else, that we will continue to see each other, but that a relationship is too complicated, too soon.

I offered him a much lighter version of a relationship; I was never pushing for living together, get engaged or anything, but I'm not sure about what he is saying. I'd rather hear that he does not love me anymore than what he did tell me.

I want to send him a long message - but I know it is smarter to let him be and see what next weekend will bring. His daughter will certainly ask for me.

I know I will get over this, I had it much worse, but I feel lonely and have been in tears since yesterday.

We're not kids either (I'm almost 45, he's 49), but he made plans for upcoming parties, my birthday party etc... That's the part I don't understand. He tells me he feels guilty towards his daughter for having me in his life. She wants me to be her stepmom, but at the same time feels abandoned when we hold hands.

I don't know what I need ... stories of people solving issues like this or hair pats ...

[Mrs.Rad888]

Linie That's rough, on both of you. It sounds like he feels that changing the name of what you guys have together will make it easier to manage the other parts of his life. I can appreciate his wanting to prioritize his DD and his job hunt, but it kind of sounds like he wants you to just be in limbo until he gets his stuff straightened out, and that's not fair to you. Is his relationship with his DD new? It sounds like she's not sure where she fits into his life. I don't know what to say about your relationship; I keep hearing Ross (from Friends) yelling "We were on a break!" 
I can only recommend counseling for he and his DD; allowing her to set the terms for his relationships is setting a bad precedence.

ETA: I think I'd tell him to tell it to me straight. Are you together or aren't you? Then go from there. Don't put your life on hold while waiting for him to make up his mind.

[Linie]

Sept 14, 2015 21:19:07 GMT -5 Mrs.Rad888 said:

Linie That's rough, on both of you. It sounds like he feels that changing the name of what you guys have together will make it easier to manage the other parts of his life. I can appreciate his wanting to prioritize his DD and his job hunt, but it kind of sounds like he wants you to just be in limbo until he gets his stuff straightened out, and that's not fair to you. Is his relationship with his DD new? It sounds like she's not sure where she fits into his life. I don't know what to say about your relationship; I keep hearing Ross (from Friends) yelling "We were on a break!" 
I can only recommend counseling for he and his DD; allowing her to set the terms for his relationships is setting a bad precedence.

ETA: I think I'd tell him to tell it to me straight. Are you together or aren't you? Then go from there. Don't put your life on hold while waiting for him to make up his mind.

Thank you for this (I live in a different time zone, so please excuse the delay). He has been fighting for shared custody since she was born. Since last year he has her 5 days out of 14, which is difficult with his job I Paris and Geneva. DD is in Brussels (Belgium).

This morning I received a message like every day since we were together. I should probably just ignore it until we see each other, but it's difficult. I would be fine with a "lighter" version of a relationship. But I need to know if he wants a break or a break-up. He will be in the country tomorrow, picking his DD up from school. She will certainly want to see me - she told him she likes me more than her mother (who is very distant and cold with her), but she also wants her dad for herself.

I will try to keep myself busy until then. It's also the possible loss of his circle of friends that I'm afraid of losing. Weekends have been packed with "aperitivi italiani, late pasta dinners and great fun.

But I have had it worse and I know I will survive. But for now, my hope is that we can solve this with time and patience.

Thank you for your kind words and good advice.