Thursday!

[1confused1]

I was knocked out by the flu for the last two days, now my son has it. I haven't been to work all week (luckily I have been able to do things from home) and I am so worried my daughter is going to get it.

Being a single parent is so hard.

[jojoandleo]

I dealt with friend drama last night. My friend, we will call her Jen, posted that STUPID FB copy and paste all "I am picky about who I add as a friend, if you care about me, post one word about how we met, blah blah blah." Basically, FB chain mail. So, I just posted "no." thinking it was funny and Jen would chuckle because we are similar in our smartassness. She went off on me about how it was inappropriate and she posted it to support a friend who posted it to support a friend whose dad died and I should have posted NOTHING. I was all, WTF? Just said Okay. THEN she sent me a text obviously meant to be talking ABOUT me and not to me. THEN went off about how I am not the "end all be all" of our group. And insinuating they have all been talking about this. Telling me I have been acting like I am the only one with shit going on? Keep in mind- I get messages from my mom threatening suicide, had a job that tore me down daily, and things with MH were not good all at the same time. So, yeah, I had some shit that I talked about with my friends. She basically told me I need to shut the fuck up and listen. Buuut, I had no idea she needed to talk. She hasn't called me. She hasn't texted me to hang out and talk. When we are out, she has never said she is going through shit. I ask how she is. I ask about her life. She chooses not to share. She has NEVER said anything like this to me before. EVER. This was the first I heard it. And she tells me our friendship is at a crossroads because of it.

Okay, why THE FUCK can't grown fucking adults TALK to people, NOT FUCKING TEXT about issues before they become a crossroads situation? Through out this text convo I told her I didn't know she needed to talk, I would try and be more cognizant in the future and she just kept on lashing out at me. Telling me I need to "shut the fuck up." The all I think about is myself. That I need to learn to shut my mouth.

It really sucks because I am loving my new job. Things with H are getting better. I was finally feeling like maybe I am not a fuckup and then someone who is supposed to love me and be there for this shit is basically telling me I can't talk to her about my shit because it makes me self involved. She only knows MAYBE 1/2 the shit that went on with my mom and H. I honestly rarely talk about it because One of our mutual friends is going through a divorce and I felt her needs take precedence.

So, I have no idea what to make of all this today. I can promise I will never confide in her again about anything. Especially now that I know she has been talking shit about me behind my back with mutual friends. I am too old for this crap. I have no idea how to react. I told her I would work on it and she just kept tearing into me. So, I don't know what she wanted out of me?

And allllll this over a facebook C&P...

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jojoandleo it sounds like she just wanted to lash out at someone and you were that person. She sounds pretty horrible honestly and I'm sorry you had to be on the receiving end of that. That really sucks

[bg]

jojoandleo sorry you have to deal with that.

1confused1 I hope your household is on the mend quickly!

I'm on my last day of my solo writing retreat. I've been hanging out and writing at one of the coffee shops and this morning when I walked in 'one is the loneliest number' was playing. Gee, thanks, music.

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I'm getting ready to head out for a weekend away to cali. I'm so excited! T

he guy I've been seeing is so nice and seems to be really into me. Like we hung out on Tuesday and he wants to see me tonight before I leave. I'm excited to see him, but I'm just not used to someone actually, proactively wanting to see me rather than me feeling like I'm doing all of the work. It's been really nice!

[bl]

jojoandleo I am sorry that sounds pretty awful and hopefully your other friends will step up to the plate and not be shitty like her.

[calle28]

She sounds really immature jojoandleo. Good idea on not confiding in her anymore. She doesn't deserve it.

I'm at the DMV on my lunch break. I had to come in and renew my license before my birthday next Saturday. I have to take another picture and I forgot to wear makeup.

Things with the new guy are going great. I'm so glad I gave it a chance despite my hesitations due to his height and weight.

[jojoandleo]

Sept 17, 2015 10:00:36 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

jojoandleo it sounds like she just wanted to lash out at someone and you were that person. She sounds pretty horrible honestly and I'm sorry you had to be on the receiving end of that. That really sucks

I absolutely think this was it.  There is a bit more to this. We have a group of five of us that all hang out. Jen and another girl, Barb, are closer and the three others (including me) are closer. Barb is married to a guy I dislike and You all know me, I am pretty vocal about my opinions. But, I have pretty much stepped back and am all "not my life" about it. Well, Jen's C&P status was copied from Barb's H. Barb's H was allegedly posting it to support his friend whose dad recently died, or some shit. So, they took my post of "No" as a dig on Barb's H.  (The fuck!?!)  It was very clear Jen and Barb were texting about this (as she sent me a text meant for Barb at one point talking shit ABOUT me). So, I am 99% sure Jen was drunk and "defending" Barb's H (AKA-Barb). Then, when she found out I had no clue about this BIZARRE backstory (which, how the fuck would I!?!) and realized she was being a bitch, flipped it into something new so I would still be at fault.

I think she and Barb have been feeling left out.  The other three of us have been doing a lot together.  We are the three who went to Vegas, are going to Dallas, doing Halloween in Arizona.  Those two were invited to all that as well (except Halloween.  The third girl lives in Arizona and she invited only us two as we will be staying at her house).  Buuuut, they can't afford it/don't want to go.  So, I think they have been foaming at the mouth to get onto us about SOMETHING.  (Jen also attacked the other local girl and called her selfish too.)

It was the weirdest text exchange ever. And I told her multiple times I would rather do this in person at a later date than over text, but she just kept going. 

[jojoandleo]

Sept 17, 2015 13:09:53 GMT -5 bl said:

jojoandleo I am sorry that sounds pretty awful and hopefully your other friends will step up to the plate and not be shitty like her.

I've already talked to the other two to make sure they weren't all talking shit behind my back and both were like "WTF!?!"

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jojoandleo first of all if I die can someone please alert my friends and family not to use Facebook spam chain mail as a post in "my honor"? Secondly I'm glad that the other girls aren't involved. Sounds like Barb and Jen need to go by the wayside. On another funny note I call any women I don't like "Barbs." Because of this scene in bridesmaids:

Annie’s Mom: Oh, don’t talk to me about being by yourself. I go everywhere by myself. Well, you know, thanks to that new whore, Barb. You know?
Annie: Mom! Come on!
Annie’s Mom: I don’t like to say it. But, you know, that’s what…
Annie: They’ve been married twelve years.
Annie’s Mom: Oh, okay. But she’s still a whore.
Annie: Yes.
Annie’s Mom: You know, I’m sure she greets him in the evening, beaver first.
Annie: I don’t want to think about that.

So I'm always like 'god she's such a barb!" Anyways it cracked me up that one of the assholes in your story was named "Barb." hahah.

[bl]

jojoandleo glad the other two are good and it sounds like they are better friends anyways. What are you doing in Dallas?

[jojoandleo]

Sept 17, 2015 14:50:41 GMT -5 bl said:

jojoandleo glad the other two are good and it sounds like they are better friends anyways. What are you doing in Dallas?

Skydiving! WOOHOO! And yeah, the other two are much better friends.

@pdx18- I agree.  I may need a break from Barb and Jen. I actually rarely see Barb and am totally okay with that. Jen and I used to be really close, but she absolutely has a drinking problem (I have actually picked her up from jail after a DUI, but, I'm selfish).  And I tried to talk to her about it, "Hey, would you go to rehab if it was suggested to keep you out of jail with your DUI?"  her: "No, I don't have a drinking problem.  I can handle jail."  uhhhhhhh, okay then.

[glitzyglow]

I tried Not Your Father's Root Beer tonight. I was disappointed. It's too sweet yet savory for me.

[sweetchix]

Sept 17, 2015 23:04:02 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I tried Not Your Father's Root Beer tonight. I was disappointed. It's too sweet yet savory for me.

Agreed. I had some on Labor Day and, although I was warned that it was really sweet, I was surprised that it was actually too sweet for me. Nope, not a fan.