Post by jojoandleo on Sept 18, 2015 9:08:56 GMT -5
WOOHOO! IT'S FRIDAY! I have to drive to freaking Nebraska after work. I want to leave work early to get on the road, but I can't since I took Monday off to go to the hospital with MH. This annoys me and that is stupid. H can't help what happened. Poor guy.
I'm getting really annoyed with people thinking I should want kids. The truth is, I don't really like kids. I don't want to spend time at parties in the kids room. I want to have adult conversations and drink my wine. And I used to get annoyed that people thought I was a baby hater because I don't want kids, but ya know what, I kind of am. I mean, I don't HATE babies, but I prefer to go to childfree locations. I love my niece and nephew, but that's about it. None of my close friends HAVE kids, so that may make a difference. But I just can't get it up to coo over a stranger's baby. It looks like a lumpy potato and doesn't do anything but eat and poop. Come back when the kid can talk. Better yet, come back when the kid is 21 and can drink. Or 16 and can be my DD.
The weird thing is, kids tend to LOVE me. Probably because I don't act like a kid around them, or dumb things down. And people tend to think it is ADORABLE and treat me like a free babysitter. Look, I will play with your kid and be nice, but SERIOUSLY!?! I want to hang out with adults. Hence why I don't have kids. I totally get why people have and love kids. I'm just not one of those people. And I am tired of feeling like I should be ashamed about it.
jojoandleo I am right there with you, I do not get the big fuss about babies, but I love toddlers in small doses. I don't really like babies and don't think there is anything great about them, if I love the parents I can totally appreciate the baby as being a piece of them and that's about it. I love playing with 3-5 yr olds for an hour or two, but then I am done. I do not plan on having children and people give me shit for it all the time and say they hope I get pregnant because then I will see what I am missing out on, umm what?!? Why would you wish an unwanted/unplanned pregnancy on anyone, I get that it happens and people love those kids and wouldn't change a thing, but don't wish for it to happen.
I am planning on hanging out with someone I probably shouldn't while I am in Dallas for my friends wedding. We are going to go to the Cowboys/Patriots game and I will likely stay at their place before I fly home the next morning. I am proceeding with caution, but I honestly think it will be a great time.
Post by pantsoffdanceoff on Sept 18, 2015 9:39:35 GMT -5
This has been a completely shitty week and all I want to do is go home tonight and just curl up with Bo (and my parent's dogs because I am watching them) and watch a movie or some Bravo. I'm mentally exhausted from this week.
jojoandleo what happened to your H? I must have missed it.
Earlier this week my manager informed my coworker and I that we will most likely be getting our layoff notice next month. My motivation dropped even lower that before! I am not surprised though and will just keep looking and applying. At least now I don't have to feel bad about applying for jobs while I'm at work.
Post by jojoandleo on Sept 18, 2015 10:00:22 GMT -5
calle28-Kidney stones. He woke up in excruciating pain on the ride side of his abdomen and vomiting. They thought it was his appendix and sent him to the ER (because Appendix is always emergent). He has since passed three freaking stones.
BF's dog got hit by a car this morning while they were walking. He was nearly hit, too. He says she's fine, but I'd have her under 100 machines being xrayed and checked out. He's just breezy about it. Of course, I wasn't there, so maybe the dog was just bumped or the lady wasn't going fast, but still. I wish I could tell him what to do with his dog and his money in this situation.
Post by jojoandleo on Sept 18, 2015 10:37:11 GMT -5
TR-H was all "How can I be in this much pain due to kidney stones!" And I just laughed because I thought of that episode and Joey's "sympathy pains." LOL. He did not appreciate my laughter.
I got back from my trip yesterday afternoon while DH was booking a flight to see his grandmother who is in the hospital. I feel like I should be bummed I didn't get to see him but in reality I'm glad to have a couple of additional days free of having to deal with him. I really hope the increase in meds is leveling out his moods.
I really, really dislike children as well for the most part. I love my niece, but even she after a while she starts to grate on me because she hasn't been taught how to behave. However I will say if all kids were as well behaved as thejen626 kids, I would love kids all the time. I really think for the most part it's bad parenting that I get annoyed with, which leads to terrible behavior by kids. So maybe i'm not giving kids a fair shake.
Flameful? The guy I've been dating spent two nights at my hosue this week. I feel like this might actually turn into something! I'm all like. WHO AM I?
Flameful? The guy I've been dating spent two nights at my hosue this week. I feel like this might actually turn into something! I'm all like. WHO AM I?
@pxd18 he's really cute! And you are cute together. I don't think having a relationship is flameful at all
I also don't like kids. I'll go one step further and say I can't think of any exceptions. I can't say I dislike my nephew or my friends' kids, but I usually would prefer they were not along for social events. It seems like the only kids I'm ever around are toddler age and they are a PITA to bring anywhere. Not because they are bad kids, but because they are kids. It's not their fault. But I miss adult conversation and the ability to do stuff at adult pace without being interrupted 500 times.
My friend is having a 40th birthday party tomorrow and part of the reason I'm not looking forward to it is because kids are invited. It's at a restaurant that isn't really made for kids, so I have a feeling it's just going to be annoying trying to have a conversation with anyone (including the guest of honor). At least some people don't have kids so I'll probably focus on them.
I'll do another flameful! I'm drunk and it's 1:45 here. But I'm on vacation so it's totes cool right? My flight got delayed so I bought myself a boardroom pass, did some work and set back with some wine.
I should probably post over here more - I hate kids! lol
I tried for years to deny it. Be like, "No, I love kids, I just don't want any." But, I have had too many parents be all "Ohhh, my kid loves you! Go play with Jojo!" and then go on having adult conversations while I play babysitter. And, it's fine, for like 10 minutes, but then I want a cocktail and someone who I can cuss around. So, it's probably parents I hate. But I also just prefer going to things adult only. I hate having to censor myself and act like I give a shit some stranger's child can say its ABCs. Like, cool, trying doing it backwards while drunk. Now THAT'S impressive.
I have a similar flameful as @pdx18. Me and my guy spend a ton of time together, like, see each other everyday. I'm going to his place tonight and we're going to spend all weekend together.
I should probably post over here more - I hate kids! lol
I tried for years to deny it. Be like, "No, I love kids, I just don't want any." But, I have had too many parents be all "Ohhh, my kid loves you! Go play with Jojo!" and then go on having adult conversations while I play babysitter. And, it's fine, for like 10 minutes, but then I want a cocktail and someone who I can cuss around. So, it's probably parents I hate. But I also just prefer going to things adult only. I hate having to censor myself and act like I give a shit some stranger's child can say its ABCs. Like, cool, trying doing it backwards while drunk. Now THAT'S impressive.
Lol, I've never denied it. When I tell people I'm never having kids and they're all "Oh, why not?!", I say "they're not my thing". Then they tell some long ass story about "I thought so too, but I changed my mind and they're they best thing ever!" and I say, "No, I don't like kids and don't want to take care of them. I also don't want a dog or a cat or even a fucking plant, TYVM." And I didn't act like a kid when I WAS one, so I'm not going to do that to relate to yours.
My brother and sister are 10 and 12 years younger than I am, and of course I always loved them, but I only started really liking them when they became "real people", which was at least high school. My parents have never given me shit for not wanting kids...probably because they saw how I interacted with those two. Also that I played fetch with my little cousin instead of...well, a game actually meant for children, I guess. (that was recently) LOL
I guess the good thing about living where I do is that at 34, my friends are just starting to have kids, and a lot of them intend to stay childfree. The one WTF moment I had with this since being single is that one of my gf's said it would be harder to set me up since I don't want kids (and don't think I'd get married again). Okay...I don't recall asking you to set me up so...no worries?
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Sept 18, 2015 21:19:14 GMT -5
PDx, you guys are so cute!!!!!
I don't want kids either. I'm honestly tired of people saying, "oh just wait," or "it'll happen anyways."
No!!!!!!! I haven't wanted kids since I was 17. I get it then but it's been years. My mind only gets stronger. My bf doesn't want kids either. I don't even like them. I dread my friends having kids because their lives are different once that happens. My dog is my kid and he's enough.
Post by alleinesein on Sept 19, 2015 2:24:43 GMT -5
I'm loving all my fellow crumb snatcher haters! I didn't even like kids when I was a kid. I've managed to get through 39 years on this planet and I have never had to change a diaper and I have no plans to start anytime soon.
I spent $75 on a concert ticket today and I'm pissed that I missed the chance to grab a better seat for just $50 more. AXS is a horrible website and they saved all the good seats for their premium ticket option. Just put that stuff in the general sale pool and charge a few dollars more for the better seats.
I missed this post yesterday so I'm gonna jump in now. Seems like a good opportunity to vent my shit. My mother made an asshole statement on the phone last night. She said she'd always thought I'd have a nice big wedding (I hate weddings), and things would have panned out differently --as in I'd be married with children already. And how all the girls I grew up with have that, but I don't. And how I'm not close with those girls anymore etc. And she feels bad that things went like this for me. Well, guess what...I married an asshole and got divorced. During that time most of my "friends" dropped me. The ones I still have are busy with kids and it's not what it was in the past. Somehow seeing all posts about not wanting kids and it makes me feel more normal. I'm going to be 34 and it's not that I don't want kids...I kind of maybe do eventually? But I'm not getting any younger and honestly if I were to have infertility issues if we do try, I don't think I'd go crazy pursuing options. My mother just upset the hell out of me. I'm a good person, I'm successful, I'm in a relationship that I'm happy in...maybe my path is different than others..but so what? On top of it, work has been ridiculously filled with stressful bullshit and I have PMS.
i had a total meltdown this morning when I made breakfast and my egg bake didn't turn out well. I was hysterically crying...and J just cuddled me and I let it all out. Sorry this was long. This week sucked ass.