So I'm pretty in shook

[achase123]

BF just broke up with me. There was really no warning or signs. We were supposed to have plans for tomorrow night and I didn't have a ton of communication with him this week so I talked to him last night and he said everything was fine. Sometimes he's slammed at work but we weren't talking a lot after work either so I was checking.

Tonight he sent me a text, yes a TEXT saying that he was feeling like he wanted to really pull back. I immediately called him and inquired about what that meant. He said he just thought that things were going too fast and it overwhelmed him. I told him I was really upset with him. It seems so out of the blue and there was nothing in him that seemed like he wanted to fight for me. I just finally told him I had to go.

I'm just in shock and at a loss. We'd been together almost 11 months. There weren't any major issues at all and we'd even talked about possibly getting married in a year or so.

My roommate said maybe he's not wanting to break up just maybe take a break but i don't like waiting to see what someone will decide. The whole thing felt really impulsive and one sided. I feel like he could've done me the courtesy after that long to at least call me.

Anyways I thought I'd share/vent. I really feel like the rug has been ripped out from underneath me.

[jenstar]

Sorry achase, that really sucks. I agree with not wanting to hang around and see what he decides, you're worth more than that. x

[Eureka1984]

Sending hugs and hair pats. What a major jerk. I agree with the pp, you deserve so much better.

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry. With all you've described, it doesn't make sense. No warning signs, no major issues and you got a text?! Something is off with his behavior. Big hugs.

[achase123]

Sept 25, 2015 6:57:26 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

I'm so sorry. With all you've described, it doesn't make sense. No warning signs, no major issues and you got a text?! Something is off with his behavior. Big hugs.

Completely agree. Nothing is in alignment at all with who he is or anything he's done. I was so very careful and we know so many of the same people who praised him as one of the best people they know.

[pantsoffdanceoff]

Man, I'm sorry.

[bl]

I am so sorry, lots of hugs. I can't believe only a text after so much time.

[Deleted]

(hugs)

[jojoandleo]

A text? Hell to the no. Even if he wanted to step back, I would be done. You AT A MINIMUM call someone you have been with for almost a fucking year to deliver this news. What a coward. I would not want to date a coward.

[quietmind]

I'm so sorry

[achase123]

Sept 25, 2015 8:01:07 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

A text? Hell to the no. Even if he wanted to step back, I would be done. You AT A MINIMUM call someone you have been with for almost a fucking year to deliver this news. What a coward. I would not want to date a coward.

Thank you jojoandleo. Thank YOU!!!

[GilliC]

How weird! That really sucks.

[cuddlyevil]

I'm sorry

[Linie]

Hugs to you!

I had sort of the same situation 10 days ago with my BF of nine months. His reasons were related to his DD who is very jealous of women around her father. I'm still confused as he has been acting like nothing has changed since...

Take care of yourself

[Deleted]

I'm so so sorry. I knew it had been a long time but didn't realize it had been 11 months. Not that a text is ever okay. But seriously WTF? Especially all of the marriage talk and what not. But I totally agree with jojoandleo. Take care of yourself and big hugs!

[1confused1]

Oh wow, I'm so sorry!

[doriswe]

That's super shitty of him. I'm sorry achase.

[jojoandleo]

Sept 25, 2015 8:28:04 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 25, 2015 8:01:07 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

A text? Hell to the no. Even if he wanted to step back, I would be done. You AT A MINIMUM call someone you have been with for almost a fucking year to deliver this news. What a coward. I would not want to date a coward.

Thank you jojoandleo. Thank YOU!!!

I am mad r you. You deserve better. I'd be tempted to sign him up for porn texts, or cat facts since he likes texts so much. Buuuut, I'm not mature. And I don't do well with the whole "be a better person" thing.

[mommadukes]

oh man I'm sorry!!

[kanga1]

Wow, a text? Really? That was really uncalled for after so long. What an ass, I'm sorry

[bg]

A text? I'm so sorry.

[Mrs.Rad888]

I hate to disparage any part of the female anatomy, but what a fucking pussy. If you need to take a break, fine, but be a goddamn man and do it face to face.

I was broken up with over e-mail, then the guy deactivated that e-mail address. 3 months later, he called to tell me he missed me. FUCK YOU!!!! I put his phone # on the block list.

Hugs

[jigsy]

What to the what!? The suddenness is crazy, the texting is crazy, the weird "everything's fine" convo but apparently not is crazy.
All crazy!
I'm sorry you're hurting right now.

[achase123]

Sept 25, 2015 9:19:26 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Sept 25, 2015 8:28:04 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Thank you jojoandleo. Thank YOU!!!

I am mad r you. You deserve better. I'd be tempted to sign him up for porn texts, or cat facts since he likes texts so much. Buuuut, I'm not mature. And I don't do well with the whole "be a better person" thing.

I am.....LIVID.

just talked to my lawyer because the supervisor can't track Xh down and j was telling him I better not call HER because there's no reason SHE should be tracking HIM down. Then I let him know what happened and said I was sorry I'm just in a horrible mood and everyone better watch out lol. So I don't want to be a "kill the messenger" so he's calling the sup.

[winecat]

Holy shit! I'm so sorry. I'm in shock and I have no part in any of this other your posts. I was so happy for you. Damn. I agree, what a coward.

[achase123]

Sept 25, 2015 10:54:27 GMT -5 jigsy said:

What to the what!? The suddenness is crazy, the texting is crazy, the weird "everything's fine" convo but apparently not is crazy.
All crazy!
I'm sorry you're hurting right now.

All of this. None of it makes sense right? I'm just trying not to get too worked up although I really am. I'm trying to make myself eat something because I'm starving but have no appetite.

[LoveBug]

Omg, I am shocked. That behavior is inexcusable. His feelings are obviously his own and therefore valid, but the way he conducted himself is awful. Hugs to you.

[boing]

Wtf! I am so sorry achase, that's such bulllshit.

[glynn]

Sept 25, 2015 8:28:04 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 25, 2015 8:01:07 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

A text? Hell to the no. Even if he wanted to step back, I would be done. You AT A MINIMUM call someone you have been with for almost a fucking year to deliver this news. What a coward. I would not want to date a coward.

Thank you jojoandleo. Thank YOU!!!

First I am sorry. My DH told me the 9 years marriage was over by text so I feel you....

[redredwine]

I'm shocked for you!! I'm SO SORRY!! That's awful. WTF?!?!? You guys seemed to be a in good place (and clearly, you thought so, too!) so WTH?!?!?!?
Hugs lady.