So I'm pretty in shook

[glynn]

Some men just cannot man up and speak their truth. I kills me......

[calle28]

I'm sorry achase123. What a coward to do it over text message!

[MauMau]

I'm sorry. what a dick.

[jojoandleo]

Sept 25, 2015 13:13:04 GMT -5 glynn said:

Sept 25, 2015 8:28:04 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Thank you jojoandleo. Thank YOU!!!

First I am sorry. My DH told me the 9 years marriage was over by text so I feel you....

OH HELL NO. Cat Facts. Sign that motherfucker up for CAT FACTS!

[makncheez]

AChase - I am so so sorry!! You deserve better than this! A real man would never break up with someone over a text!! Sending you big hugs - and I may be up in your area soon...coffee or drinks on me!

[achase123]

Thanks ladies. I'm seriously oscillating between being really mad and crying. My friends here are so so wonderful. My coworker who doesn't work on Fridays just stopped by to give me a hug and talk. Another bought me coffee.

I just feel really blindsided but it'll be ok.

[stephreloaded]

I am really sorry!!! He didn't tell you what made him feel this way?

That is very very shitty of him.

[achase123]

Sept 25, 2015 14:48:36 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

I am really sorry!!! He didn't tell you what made him feel this way?

That is very very shitty of him.

Nope he said he feels like we were moving too quickly.

[cuddlyevil]

Sept 25, 2015 14:49:38 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 25, 2015 14:48:36 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

I am really sorry!!! He didn't tell you what made him feel this way?

That is very very shitty of him.

Nope he said he feels like we were moving too quickly.

After 11 months? Had he mentioned this or needing space before?

I feel like there's something that is missing here.

[achase123]

Sept 25, 2015 14:53:18 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Sept 25, 2015 14:49:38 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Nope he said he feels like we were moving too quickly.

After 11 months? Had he mentioned this or needing space before?

I feel like there's something that is missing here.

No this was the first he'd mentioned of ever needing space.

[achase123]

Sept 25, 2015 15:06:08 GMT -5 mp said:

I'm so sorry. I wouldn't be surprised if he came back and admits he just freaked out. Sometimes men are dumb. But you deserve better then the way he handled this. Big hugs.

Thank you so much. I really appreciate everyone's support.

[Deleted]

Doesn't he live in your neighborhood?  I would not be above doing something like this:

[achase123]

Sept 25, 2015 15:14:42 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Doesn't he live in your neighborhood?  I would not be above doing something like this:

No he lives 30 min from me.

[sweetchix]

Oh wow. I'm so sorry. Lots of (((hugs))) coming your way.

[hazel]

Wow. I'm so sorry. I'd be very upset, especially how he communicated this with you.

[abcdefu]

I'm so sorry achase! HUGS!

[starburst604]

Wtf?!?! I'm so sorry A, I was so happy things were going so well for you. I'm blindsided on your behalf!!

[Deleted]

That's awful, I'm sorry. It says a lot about the kind of person he really is, though. It really sucks to find out that someone isn't what we thought they were, but he clearly isn't. He sounds immature. And I'm fed up with guys claiming to be "scared" or "overwhelmed" in a relationship. Nut up, commit and be responsible! I wouldn't accept a break, either, that's just not a healthy position to be in. You don't need to be with someone who needs to figure out if they want to be in the relationship. You're worth much more. Hugs.

[achase123]

Sept 26, 2015 11:05:29 GMT -5 @leftie22 said:

That's awful, I'm sorry. It says a lot about the kind of person he really is, though. It really sucks to find out that someone isn't what we thought they were, but he clearly isn't. He sounds immature. And I'm fed up with guys claiming to be "scared" or "overwhelmed" in a relationship. Nut up, commit and be responsible! I wouldn't accept a break, either, that's just not a healthy position to be in. You don't need to be with someone who needs to figure out if they want to be in the relationship. You're worth much more. Hugs.

Thank you. This is definitely solid advice. I'm sad but kind of reflecting on somethings in the relationship that I wasn't ok with that I had overlooked such as him kind of discounting my feelings or brushing over them. Not a fan of confrontation. Since I'm such a communicator that's tough for me. I also felt like he really wanted things on his terms.

[pandora]

I honestly think you just dodged a bullet. What he did is not OK and it shows that he doesn't have the basic skill of communication needed for any successful relationship. He's also lacking maturity and a spine...which you deserve. I am sorry.

[LoveBug]

Sept 26, 2015 12:32:50 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 26, 2015 11:05:29 GMT -5 @leftie22 said:

That's awful, I'm sorry. It says a lot about the kind of person he really is, though. It really sucks to find out that someone isn't what we thought they were, but he clearly isn't. He sounds immature. And I'm fed up with guys claiming to be "scared" or "overwhelmed" in a relationship. Nut up, commit and be responsible! I wouldn't accept a break, either, that's just not a healthy position to be in. You don't need to be with someone who needs to figure out if they want to be in the relationship. You're worth much more. Hugs.

Thank you. This is definitely solid advice. I'm sad but kind of reflecting on somethings in the relationship that I wasn't ok with that I had overlooked such as him kind of discounting my feelings or brushing over them. Not a fan of confrontation. Since I'm such a communicator that's tough for me. I also felt like he really wanted things on his terms.

Don't be hard on yourself. You were likely compromising and finding a balance with him. I'm sorry this happened this way.

[cam13]

Just adding my hugs and hair pats. He did a shitty thing and I'm sorry.

[Deleted]

Sept 26, 2015 12:32:50 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 26, 2015 11:05:29 GMT -5 @leftie22 said:

That's awful, I'm sorry. It says a lot about the kind of person he really is, though. It really sucks to find out that someone isn't what we thought they were, but he clearly isn't. He sounds immature. And I'm fed up with guys claiming to be "scared" or "overwhelmed" in a relationship. Nut up, commit and be responsible! I wouldn't accept a break, either, that's just not a healthy position to be in. You don't need to be with someone who needs to figure out if they want to be in the relationship. You're worth much more. Hugs.

Thank you. This is definitely solid advice. I'm sad but kind of reflecting on somethings in the relationship that I wasn't ok with that I had overlooked such as him kind of discounting my feelings or brushing over them. Not a fan of confrontation. Since I'm such a communicator that's tough for me. I also felt like he really wanted things on his terms.

I've been there before too, so I know that accepting that someone isn't what we thought is hard. It'll take time, sadness and anger, of course. But in the long run, it's for the best. I just don't think that someone who can act that way is capable of having a real, supportive, direct and honest relationship. I'm really sorry that happened to you.

[somersault72]

I'm sorry. He handled that terribly.

[bullygirl979]

Late to the party but I agree with everyone else, achase123. If he needs space, that is fine, but he should have told you that in person, or at least over the phone. Texting someone that after 11 months is cowardly.

[pandora]

How did it go with arranging to pick up or actually picking up your things? achase123

[achase123]

Sept 28, 2015 17:21:03 GMT -5 pandora said:

How did it go with arranging to pick up or actually picking up your things? achase123

Pretty good actually. We did get a chance to talk which was good. I posted an update in Monday ransoms.

[pandora]

Sept 28, 2015 17:23:12 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 28, 2015 17:21:03 GMT -5 pandora said:

How did it go with arranging to pick up or actually picking up your things? achase123

Pretty good actually. We did get a chance to talk which was good. I posted an update in Monday ransoms.

So glad to hear that it went well ::Off to read the randoms::