How would you handle this - toddler discipline

[cherry1111]

DS didn't want to leave daycare and was running away from me and rolling on the floor refusing to walk. He had many chances to walk with me and didn't so I told him I would have to carry him out. When I picked him up he started throwing a tantrum. Right when we walked into the lobby of daycare he slapped me right across the face super hard. People were already watching because they heard him crying and they all gasped when he did it. I was in shock and didn't know what to do. I felt like everyone was watching me to see how I would handle it.

What would you have done?

[chickens987]

I would have kept walking, strapped her in her carseat and shut the door while I composed myself. Essentially a time out in the car.

Sorry I had to carry DD out of daycare today too. Fortunately she wasn't crying, she just refused to leave when I told her it was time.

[cherry1111]

He has never done this before so I was shocked and it fucking hurt. I took him to the cafeteria right behind the lobby and put him in timeout. He was still throwing a fit after a few minutes so I grabbed him under my arm so he couldn't hit me again and walked out. Then we both cried the whole way home.

[rex]

I would block any subsequent hits and walk as fast as possible to the car, probably without saying anything.

[cherry1111]

Sept 25, 2015 20:08:34 GMT -5 @mrsbecky said:

Sept 25, 2015 18:22:11 GMT -5 chickens987 said:

I would have kept walking, strapped her in her carseat and shut the door while I composed myself. Essentially a time out in the car.

Sorry I had to carry DD out of daycare today too. Fortunately she wasn't crying, she just refused to leave when I told her it was time.

Pretty much this. Once a few weeks ago DS had a tantrum as we were leaving and I cried on the way home lol. I felt like people were judging me.

In retrospect of course no one was judging me. They were sympathizing with me lol. For moms of daycare kids, in that situation, we are with our own. We have all been there.

Yes, my emotions got to me too. Between being bitch slapped by my not yet 3 year old and feeling judged I had to get out of daycare before I cried in front of everyone.

Thanks for the solidarity everyone.

[pinkpeony08]

I've been there with my daughter... carried her to the car kicking and screaming and buckling in her seat. It has actually been a relief at times to see other parents with kids melting down at pick up as well. We've started trying to use some of Janet Lansbury's recommendations and it seems to be working for us- here is a part about hitting - www.janetlansbury.com/2015/05/be-the-grown-up-your-child-needs/

My husband and his sister both have anxiety as adults, and my husband and I both think it is related to his parents' use of shame as punishment when they were children. We've tried really hard to figure out ways to help with behavior that don't use shaming at all.

[dulcemariamar]

Sept 25, 2015 18:22:11 GMT -5 chickens987 said:

I would have kept walking, strapped her in her carseat and shut the door while I composed myself. Essentially a time out in the car.

Sorry I had to carry DD out of daycare today too. Fortunately she wasn't crying, she just refused to leave when I told her it was time.

This. I would do TO in the car because that is the place where she didnt want to go in the first place. I dont have an issue about discipline in public but my kid might like the attention from the other people in the lobby.

[Cicero]

Sept 25, 2015 20:08:34 GMT -5 @mrsbecky said:

Sept 25, 2015 18:22:11 GMT -5 chickens987 said:

I would have kept walking, strapped her in her carseat and shut the door while I composed myself. Essentially a time out in the car.

Sorry I had to carry DD out of daycare today too. Fortunately she wasn't crying, she just refused to leave when I told her it was time.

Pretty much this. Once a few weeks ago DS had a tantrum as we were leaving and I cried on the way home lol. I felt like people were judging me.

In retrospect of course no one was judging me. They were sympathizing with me lol. For moms of daycare kids, in that situation, we are with our own. We have all been there.

I tell myself that daycare is the best possible place for public tantrums to occur because all the adults in your immediate vicinity currently have to deal with small kids on a daily basis and know what it's like.