Embarrassed annoyed take your pick

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We had swimming lessons today. My kid started last year. She did level 1, level 2 three times. Level 3 twice and now I moved her to level 4. For the record, she passed every level the first time but I held her back because she didn't really pass.
Today level 4. The coaches/ teenagers tell me that she shousknt be in level 4. They are not wrong. The other 2 kids were doing front crawl. (They are 4!) and the other boy was kicked out too. Lol.
It took everything in my power not to cry. But I teared up a bit. Do you know how impossible it is to sign up for swimming? You wake up at 7am and sign in online and refresh every 30seconds like you are buying concert tix. And now they say 'just move her to preschool 3'. And then I'm annoyed because when she was in level 3, she was the best one. Where was the teacher there holding those kids back so she could advance?

Mostly annoyed because I was tearing up because I am a grown ass woman and I should be able to handle this. My god. How will I deal with her school teacher?
I am a super sensitive person. How do I fix that? coping mechanisms. Drugs? Drink more?
It doesn't help that I'm still sick and therefore, totally exhausted.
But crying over swimming lessons? People have kids in the hospital.

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Wall of text. Sorry.

Basically teared up in front of teen life guards when my kid wasn't good enough for swimming

[ribollita]

I am guessing you wouldn't have teared up if it wouldn't be so difficult to move her to 3. It's really annoying when it's so hard to sign kids up for lessons. My son loves his tennis lessons and I can't get him into the next session at the same time with his current teacher, even though I called the first day they opened registration! So, I get it.

[cricketwife]

I have done the whole 8 an online registration thing for a ONE YEAR OLD and thought, "my God, I cant believe this is one year old swimming!" What will it be like when he applies to college?! At least I won't have to do that for him, lol. But can they really kick her out? I say if she made it to that level and you've registered, just leave her in it.

[Pilsy]

You're stressed out/tired, so please be kind to yourself. We all handle things differently. Some people get more worked up about the small stuff than others; sometimes, those same people are the rocks when horrible things happen.



And you teared up, you didn't flip out. Try to cut yourself some slack.

[ilikedonuts]

Do you feel she has completed all the skills for level 3? Just because the kids are better doesn't mean she doesn't be in 4

Don't feel embarrassed. I know I've cried over things like this. things that fill up super fast and early are stressful to deal with.

[bbonanza]

Sept 26, 2015 13:41:43 GMT -5 ilikedonuts said:

Do you feel she has completed all the skills for level 3? Just because the kids are better doesn't mean she doesn't be in 4

Don't feel embarrassed. I know I've cried over things like this. things that fill up super fast and early are stressful to deal with.

I'm curious, then, why they wouldn't suggest the other kids be moved up? 

I get it, though, it's stressful and you're not feeling well.  I'm sorry, ((hugs))

[curbsideprophet]

So did she pass level three or not? You say yes, then no. If she passed three and you think she should be in four talk to someone about it.

If she did not pass three I would just accept that and do three again.

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Sept 26, 2015 13:53:41 GMT -5 bbonanza said:

Sept 26, 2015 13:41:43 GMT -5 ilikedonuts said:

Do you feel she has completed all the skills for level 3? Just because the kids are better doesn't mean she doesn't be in 4

Don't feel embarrassed. I know I've cried over things like this. things that fill up super fast and early are stressful to deal with.

I'm curious, then, why they wouldn't suggest the other kids be moved up? 

I get it, though, it's stressful and you're not feeling well.  I'm sorry, ((hugs))

There is nothing after level 4 for preschool. Age 5 for the next level

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Sept 26, 2015 13:54:32 GMT -5 curbsideprophet said:

So did she pass level three or not? You say yes, then no. If she passed three and you think she should be in four talk to someone about it.

If she did not pass three I would just accept that and do three again.

On the end of class page, they ticked all the skills. However she could not do some of them. So I chose not to put her forward. Some of the skills they barely did because not all the kids start the same.
So the whole system is dumb.
I think I am going to drop parks and recreation and go to $$$ swimming. However when I said I might want my money back, they looked terrified.

[rxbeth]

I feel your pain. DD "passed" level 1 but we are repeating on advice of the teenager. She doesn't like doing "big kid jumps" into the pool and will cry and say she has to pee to avoid it.
It does sound like those other kids are way advanced and that's not your fault.

[whereintheworld]

Torontonian checking in - you can get your money back from parks and rec programs within the first 2 classes. There's a form online you fill out then email it in, they refund you the cost of the class minus a $10 admin fee.

We do Jack of Sports swim, it's an hour long and fantastic. You should see if they have one in your area of the city (I'm in the west end of TO). Small class sizes and really good teachers plus they learn so much in an hour.

[whereintheworld]

This is the link to the form: www1.toronto.ca/city_of_toronto/parks_forestry__recreation/toronto_fun/files/pdf/waiver.pdf

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Sept 26, 2015 14:51:35 GMT -5 whereintheworld said:

This is the link to the form: www1.toronto.ca/city_of_toronto/parks_forestry__recreation/toronto_fun/files/pdf/waiver.pdf

Thanks. We actually already cancelled something else.

I know it's only $10 but I almost feel like I shouldn't even have to pay that.
And we have a swimming school that I planned to move to for next 'term' but now we've missed 3 weeks and it's $$$

[karinothing]

I feel you. DS was in level 2 and when sign up time came (which is BEFORE level 2 is over) the teacher told us he was not going to pass, which was fine. Then on the last day of class kid magically knows how to swim on his back and tread water so the teacher moves him to level 3. Except every single level 3 class is closed except for morning classes on a Tuesday. I call and they are not able to get him into a closed class but told me to sign up on the waitlist. Except I cant sign up on the waitlist because he has to be 4 to get into level 3 (and he turns 4 next month, classes started last week). I just gave up and figured he could be in Level 2 for 2 sessions and it wouldn't hurt, but it is the most annoying
process ever. We also have to sign up exactly at 730am and classes are full by 735am.

[rxbeth]

The place that we swim at doesn't even have on line registration! It's ridiculous. You try to call and just have to leave a message and then hopefully they call you back and you get what you want. I don't even see how they can keep track of any order that way. Since I'm on maternity leave, I just picked two classes I was okay with and drove to the complex the afternoon on the first day of sign up and did it in person.

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Sept 26, 2015 15:19:53 GMT -5 karinothing said:

I feel you. DS was in level 2 and when sign up time came (which is BEFORE level 2 is over) the teacher told us he was not going to pass, which was fine. Then on the last day of class kid magically knows how to swim on his back and tread water so the teacher moves him to level 3. Except every single level 3 class is closed except for morning classes on a Tuesday. I call and they are not able to get him into a closed class but told me to sign up on the waitlist. Except I cant sign up on the waitlist because he has to be 4 to get into level 3 (and he turns 4 next month, classes started last week). I just gave up and figured he could be in Level 2 for 2 sessions and it wouldn't hurt, but it is the most annoying
process ever. We also have to sign up exactly at 730am and classes are full by 735am.

That was the issue last year. The birthday stupidity.
And then I try to remind myself that she loves swimming and it doesn't matter. She will not be Michael phelps.