Post by Chuppathingy on May 10, 2012 21:48:36 GMT -5
I just spent about 1.5 hours holding DD in something like a full nelson for toddlers while she screamed bloody murder about not wanting to go to bed now. She finally conked out.
Post by spiderspray on May 10, 2012 22:14:59 GMT -5
DS is about 16 months old. We already have: throws himself on the floor during tantrums, bites things that make him mad (he hit his head on the tv stand so he bit it in retaliation), freaks out if I take something away or don't let him do something himself, screams "No" as loud as humanly possible...
You're telling me it gets worse from here? Why don't they tell you these things ahead of time
DS is about 16 months old. We already have: throws himself on the floor during tantrums, bites things that make him mad (he hit his head on the tv stand so he bit it in retaliation), freaks out if I take something away or don't let him do something himself, screams "No" as loud as humanly possible...
You're telling me it gets worse from here? Why don't they tell you these things ahead of time
We are here right now but my DD is 20 months. Some days are enough to make me run away screaming!
3 has been worse for us. The emotions are all over the place and she can communicate much better now. Just keep your cool and let them work it out! Hang in there!
I just spent about 1.5 hours holding DD in something like a full nelson for toddlers while she screamed bloody murder about not wanting to go to bed now. She finally conked out.
I had the exact same night last week. The level of commitment to tantrums can be amazing. I was honestly afraid the neighbors were going to think I was abusing her (even though I was the one getting pummelled).
Post by DirtyMartini on May 11, 2012 7:19:04 GMT -5
Noooooo! Worse at age 3?! Mine is just over 2 1/2 and I don't know how I will handle "worse." I already drink copious amounts of wine at night. Maybe xanax? No, but seriously, between the not staying in bed for naps and bedtimes, the hitting and the talking back, the not listening, I don't know what to do anymore. DD can be a really good girl, so sweet, kind and compassionate...then out of nowhere she will be trying to rip someone's face off. When she gets yelled out she immediately says, "I sorry mama, I sorry." Errrr!
DS is about 16 months old. We already have: throws himself on the floor during tantrums, bites things that make him mad (he hit his head on the tv stand so he bit it in retaliation), freaks out if I take something away or don't let him do something himself, screams "No" as loud as humanly possible...
You're telling me it gets worse from here? Why don't they tell you these things ahead of time
We are here right now but my DD is 20 months. Some days are enough to make me run away screaming!
Same, and mine just turned one. I try to redirect him and ignore the tantrums as much as possible.
I'm sorry to say 3 was worse for us too. He has lots of awesome times but some days it is ridiculous. He never had crying tantrums until he was 3.
If a tantrum starts we either ignore it, re-direct, or put him in time out depending on how long it lasts and what it is for. He remembers getting in trouble though which is helpful.
DS is about 16 months old. We already have: throws himself on the floor during tantrums, bites things that make him mad (he hit his head on the tv stand so he bit it in retaliation), freaks out if I take something away or don't let him do something himself, screams "No" as loud as humanly possible...
You're telling me it gets worse from here? Why don't they tell you these things ahead of time
My kid has tantrums at this age, but they aren't this bad yet. She did, however, make herself throw up at dcp yesterday...
Post by tommygirl03 on May 11, 2012 8:58:13 GMT -5
DD1 is 4.5, and overall, wayyy better than 2. 2 sucks big time, I think, because they can do things, but don't always understand or remember not to do stuff. DD2 is 2, and has figured out how to do a crazy amount of stuff way earlier than DD1. She drives me bonkers - the amount of damage that kid can do in the time it takes me to pee is insane. She can open the front door!!! I hope we both make it to her 3rd bday.
Noooooo! Worse at age 3?! Mine is just over 2 1/2 and I don't know how I will handle "worse." I already drink copious amounts of wine at night. Maybe xanax? No, but seriously, between the not staying in bed for naps and bedtimes, the hitting and the talking back, the not listening, I don't know what to do anymore. DD can be a really good girl, so sweet, kind and compassionate...then out of nowhere she will be trying to rip someone's face off. When she gets yelled out she immediately says, "I sorry mama, I sorry." Errrr!
We get the, "I'm so sorry, momma!" with DD1 after she gets in trouble. I swear, there are some days where that's the only nice thing she says to me, LOL. I think she considers it her get out of jail free card.
My 2 year old can be kind of a nightmare these days. I cannot get him to go to bed to save my life, and he still doesn't sleep through the night more often than not.
With DS1, I thought things started to get a lot easier around 2.5, and I really loved 3 (though I hear a lot of people say they hate it). Four has been delightful as well. For me, the older they get the easier and more fun it gets. I like 2 better than 1, 3 better than 2, etc.
Post by Chuppathingy on May 11, 2012 10:23:10 GMT -5
Yeah, now I'm really hating DH too. Lucky bastard works in Philly during the week right now and only comes home on weekends (we live near DC). He gets to miss all these "fun" times. I know we need his job but damn I hate doing this by myself during the week.
Post by hilwithonelary on May 11, 2012 11:15:14 GMT -5
Please don't tell me it gets worse when they can communicate better. DS still doesn't talk a whole lot, and I thought it would get better once he could tell me what he's upset about. Sometimes he will scream and scream, and while I can tell he wants something, I can't figure it out.
Please don't tell me it gets worse when they can communicate better. DS still doesn't talk a whole lot, and I thought it would get better once he could tell me what he's upset about. Sometimes he will scream and scream, and while I can tell he wants something, I can't figure it out.
For us it got much, much better. Once we could have a conversation with our kids it changed everything. My 2 year old is getting more verbally adept by the day, and I definitely find myself enjoying him more as a result. But obviously that experience is not universal. I think it depends on personalities of the kids and the parents.
Please don't tell me it gets worse when they can communicate better. DS still doesn't talk a whole lot, and I thought it would get better once he could tell me what he's upset about. Sometimes he will scream and scream, and while I can tell he wants something, I can't figure it out.
I found that learning to talk really helped nip those seemingly random tantrums in the bud. So that was good. The thing that I really struggle with now though is the outright defiance, which I know is normal for this age. Since turning three it was like a flip switched and EVERY THING became a battle with him: clothes, meal times, going to school, going to activities he normally enjoys, getting him in the bathtub. I know he's just testing boundaries and limits but he knows how to push my buttons and it works! lol.
If the twos are that bad for you, maybe your kid is "advanced" and has hit the openly defiant stage early, but will be over it by 3. I think that is what happened with DS1. Everything--getting dressed, meals, bath, bedtime, etc.--was all about struggle and pushback at 2, but he was over it and generally pretty compliant by 3. And by 3 things like logical consequences and reward charts really started to really work with him. Some of the people I know who have thought 3 was much worse than 2 didn't get a lot of defiance at 2.
Post by mollybrown on May 11, 2012 11:53:58 GMT -5
My kid was easy at 2. 3 is killing us. It actually seems to be getting worse as his speech gets better. His tantrums usually start when we don't understand exactly what he says. He was okay with us not understanding him at 2. We're also dealing with potty training, so I'm ready to send him to a home for 3 year olds most days.