Can I also give the unsolicited advice that I would tread VERY carefully with your spending over the next few months in light of the gofundme? If people were giving you money their hard-earned money in August to bail your car out of repo, they may not be that excited to see you frolicking on the beach in Miami the next month and chasing 5k medals or taking classes in Paris for funsies the months after that. It's one thing to burn bridges here -- quite another to burn real life bridges.
I can't imagine how quickly my head would explode if I donated to a GFM to stop someone's car from getting repossessed and then saw them fucking around in Paris a couple months later. RAGE. mofongo did anyone donate to the GFM? CURIOUS.
ZOMBIEMUSE, LUCKYAE13, BLISSANITY, BLISSOFF, BLISS, I mean FINDYOURBLISS if YOUR car was really repo'd, it's prolly the best financial decision made for YOU. That car payment was astronomical.
Yes, in 2014 my car payment was astronomical. It is now 2015, things change.
Oh so you financed another car bicycle you couldn't pay for? :Y:
I don't really actually think this is worth me bothering, but I'm going to take my final stab at it even though I feel certain it will fall on deaf ears. Do you understand that the last post had happened yesterday and this thread may well have died if you had left it alone? Do you really and truly get that the number of people on this board who have disdain for you, flat out dislike you or worse outnumber those feel some sort of compassion for you or even indifference toward you? You are never, ever going to get the acceptance from this board that you are seeking--and regardless of what you say, you clearly crave it. It is painful to watch, tbh.
I don't really get involved in one-on-one messaging off the board, the number of people who can say, even after all these years, that I've initiated some of kind of off the board contact with them are so few and far in between, I can't even tell you. I like being anonymous and I keep to myself for the most part because I don't like mess. Even *I* received a message about your GFM. I didn't even really want to know and I said as much, but I will admit that I was baffled why you would, knowing that people from this board have access to your social media, continue to talk as if that entire saga wasn't happening. Everyone has bad times, bliss. Many people have bad financial times and sometimes, those things happen as a result of poor decision making (this is NOT judgment, most of us are doing little more than what we were taught), but it's how you handle those things that determine how other people will react to you. When you come on here and act like things are grand when probably 50% of the board or more knows that you are literally asking everyone you know for money, it only fuels the fire. You say things you don't even have to say to make people think things about you that are not true. What you say is not believable to any adult with common sense. It's not about a lie from 8 years ago, we are talking about lies from less than 8 weeks ago! It's like you think if you just keep spinning enough, we will get confused or forget and that's not going to happen. People lying to me doesn't piss me off, I don't even take it personally, because I'm old enough and wise enough to know that a lie you tell me doesn't have a damn thing to do with me, but everyone is not there.
In spite of your sometimes nasty attitude and in spite of the lies, I still believe you are actually a good person who is just lost and trying to find her way, but MM is not the way. This board does not lift you up more than it brings you down. Have the courage to walk away from here. Love yourself enough to be kind to yourself and stop begging people who would not spit on you if you were on fire to accept you. I'm not that much older than you but I feel compelled to give you a lesson I have shared with my own child many times. True freedom in life comes when you stop worrying about things that do not matter, and what other people think of you doesn't matter. I love MM, but if this board treated me 1/10 as bad as your are treated here regularly, I'd tell everyone and their mama to raise their glass and kiss my ass. Tears? No. Not worth it. Be better to yourself than that.
Did you have a gofundme? Was your car repossessed? Where you recently looking for more income? How are you going to afford all of this international travel and/or race traveling? Do you have a work visa? Do you have a dog?
Let me guess, again, you don't owe strangers details (that don't exist).
Yup! I've been on the receiving end of a bitchy PM that told me that I was not a good enough friend to be privy to details. My offense was that I asked on the SO board if she was going to a certain concert in town after she posted about having VIP tickets for that evening. I guess talking about music and carrying on a non threatening conversation is also off limits for her!
I don't really actually think this is worth me bothering, but I'm going to take my final stab at it even though I feel certain it will fall on deaf ears. Do you understand that the last post had happened yesterday and this thread may well have died if you had left it alone? Do you really and truly get that the number of people on this board who have disdain for you, flat out dislike you or worst outnumber those feel some sort of compassion for you or even indifference toward you? You are never, ever going to get the acceptance from this board that you are seeking--and regardless of what you say, you clearly crave it. It is painful to watch, tbh.
I don't really get involved in one-on-one messaging off the board, the number of people who can say, even after all these years, that I've initiated some of kind of off the board contact with them are so few and far in between, I can't even tell you. I like being anonymous and I keep to myself for the most part because I don't like mess. Even *I* received a message about your GFM. I didn't even really want to know and I said as much, but I will admit that I was baffled why you would, knowing that people from this board have access to your social media, continue to talk as if that entire saga wasn't happening. Everyone has bad times, bliss. Many people have bad financial times and sometimes, those things happen as a result of poor decision making (this is NOT judgment, most of us are doing little more than what we were taught), but it's how you handle those things that determine how other people will react to you. When you come on here and act like things are grand when probably 50% of the board or more knows that you are literally asking everyone you know for money, it only fuels the fire. You say things you don't even have to say to make people think things about you that are not true. What you say is not believable to any adult with common sense. It's not about a lie from 8 years ago, we are talking about lies from less than 8 weeks ago! It's like you think if you just keep spinning enough, we will get confused or forget and that's not going to happen. People lying to me doesn't piss me off, I don't even take it personally, because I'm old enough and wise enough to know that a lie you tell me doesn't have a damn thing to do with me, but everyone is not there.
In spite of your sometimes nasty attitude and in spite of the lies, I still believe you are actually a good person who is just lost and trying to find her way, but MM is not the way. This board does not lift you up more than it brings you down. Have the courage to walk away from here. Love yourself enough to be kind to yourself and stop begging people who would not spit on you if you were on fire to accept you. I'm not that much older than you but I feel compelled to give you a lesson I have shared with my own child many times. True freedom in life comes when you stop worrying about things that do not matter, and what other people think of you doesn't matter. I love MM, but if this board treated me 1/10 as bad as your are treated here regularly, I'd tell everyone and their mama to raise their glass and kiss my ass. Tears? No. Not worth it. Be better to yourself than that.
Yes, I know it could have died. I just, I just felt compelled to say something. And now, I'm kicking myself for doing so. I'm not seeking acceptance from this board. I used to seek input, advice, and feedback from a diverse pool of people because until recently it was the most diverse group of women I've interacted with. What I crave is more knowledge. I crave to know if a silly idea is possible, I crave to know more about IRAs, I crave to understand why people get married.
It's a saga that doesn't need to be discussed here. End of story. I don't understand why people can't respect that.
Things are grand, bad financial decisions or not, things are peaching fucking keen. I'm not lost, I'm just going through life on my own path and in a way to makes sense to me and my life goals. I read old threads that people post and I'm amazed at how far I've come and how happy I am now.
And yes, I'm walking away from here. I wanted to an opportunity to say that I was hurt. And it just keeps spewing. But I already love myself too much to continue to deal with the negativity.
Did you have a gofundme? Was your car repossessed? Where you recently looking for more income? How are you going to afford all of this international travel and/or race traveling? Do you have a work visa? Do you have a dog?
Let me guess, again, you don't owe strangers details (that don't exist).
Yup! I've been on the receiving end of a bitchy PM that told me that I was not a good enough friend to be privy to details. My offense was that I asked on the SO board if she was going to a certain concert in town after she posted about having VIP tickets for that evening. I guess talking about music and carrying on a non threatening conversation is also off limits for her!
It was a little close for comfort. And I expressed that in my PM. I was a little weirded out, honestly. Apologies of I was offensive, I was honestly just a little weirded out by it.
I would argue that you do indeed owe the board something. You owe it to the people in this community to answer questions in a straightforward manner relating to information you have previously shared. We ALL do it. That's how a community works. Flouncing in here to gain information and brainstorm and then leaving for a few more weeks until you need something else is not how a community develops.
Might I suggest that some people here are feeling some kind of way about your "none of your business" responses because many of us have shared both ups and downs in this forum? Many of us have both asked for advice and given advice freely, with no strings attached.
I would argue that you do indeed owe the board something. You owe it to the people in this community to answer questions in a straightforward manner relating to information you have previously shared. We ALL do it. That's how a community works. Flouncing in here to gain information and brainstorm and then leaving for a few more weeks until you need something else is not how a community develops.
Might I suggest that some people here are feeling some kind of way about your "none of your business" responses because many of us have shared both ups and downs in this forum? Many of us have both asked for advice and given advice freely, with no strings attached.
True. However, I'm treated differently because of the history here and it's hard to share details when you're worried that something is going to be thrown in your face later. Ya know? It makes it hard to share when I'm treated poorly. Which then frustrates other people and suddenly it's like the circle of screams.
Yup! I've been on the receiving end of a bitchy PM that told me that I was not a good enough friend to be privy to details. My offense was that I asked on the SO board if she was going to a certain concert in town after she posted about having VIP tickets for that evening. I guess talking about music and carrying on a non threatening conversation is also off limits for her!
It was a little close for comfort. And I expressed that in my PM. I was a little weirded out, honestly. Apologies of I was offensive, I was honestly just a little weirded out by it.
I'm not against it. I've seen therapists multiple times since I was in high school. I was on meds for a short period last summer.
The issue is being told I need mental help because I don't share all the details with strangers.
If my friends and family were urging me to seek mental help (which has happened in the past), I'd listen. When it comes from strangers on a forum, I'm not going to listen. It has nothing to do with the stigma behind seeking help, but rather the "insult" that because I don't share something I'm a liar and basket case.
No. This is not about keeping some information private. This is bragging to the board about how you have more work than you can handle, your career is amaaaazing, etc. while at the very same moment posting a video asking for help because your car was repoed and your clients have dried up. And you do this knowing that people here have access to your social media accounts.
This leads to one of two conclusions:
--You are purposefully trolling and trying to wind people up
--You really believe what you're selling here, which means you do need some help
You are a person and don't deserve to be treated like shit. I agree with that 100%. But everyone else here is also a person. You only seem to view this board in terms of what YOU get out of it (entertainment, help, etc.) You are not someone who has given to this community in anyway beyond yourself. So it's kind of mind boggling to see you get so pissed when called on your lies by people who have largely gone out of their way to help you and be supportive.
I'd truly love nothing more for you than for you to find peace, happiness and success. But you're not going to get it by creating some false reality on the internet.
You're right, I haven't given to this community. And when I do try, I'm dismissed. So, I gave up long ago and have focused on what I can get from it. And it's a lot. So thank you, collective GBCN.
Did you have a gofundme? Was your car repossessed? Where you recently looking for more income? How are you going to afford all of this international travel and/or race traveling? Do you have a work visa? Do you have a dog?
Let me guess, again, you don't owe strangers details (that don't exist).
So you needed money to get your car back, but now you magically have money for international travel, travel for races, etc? OK. I'm sure those who donated will love that. OH and you'll be able to work while overseas. These are the things that don't add up, and that you skirt and talk in circles around.
I was very transparent about how I got to that position, how I was getting out, and what I need from friends & family + what I was able to give in exchange. It is not something I shared here because I didn't feel it was necessary. Nor was it my target audience. And yes those who supported me during a trying time are fully supportive of me traveling to become better in my craft + career and encourage me to continue to travel to learn. Yes, I'll be attending classes while aboard and in the process of getting all required documents completed.
There you have it. And I know it won't be enough for you.
WTF. You're soliciting money for a repo'd car yet have enough magical income to do all your traveling. Ok. I got it now.
My income fluctuates and I've put larger safe guards into place so that I'm not in the same position again. It sucks to have been so vulnerable with family / friends. It's not my proudest moment. However, it did show me the amazing support system I have around me and I'm eternally grateful for that.