Mediation Update

[glynn]

We were there for 4 1/2 hours..... The only thing that got resolved was a parenting plan which we already had agreed on. I feel like the day was a costly waste. He still does not admit the girlfriend and refuses to leave the house. I now have to get all my retirement info going back 9 years and nine years of bank statements from 4 accounts. I had a lot of the info yesterday and he did not want to look at it then.

Our biggest problem is that he has 2 sisters pushing him saying that I am hiding money in my retirement which I am not. My company pays 10% into my account and this is the only benefit I receive. I put $24 a month in. He is retired Navy before we married and carries all of our healthcare which I will have to pay for once this is final for myself. My company does not have a health plan. He get a pension check from the Navy which is $1,500 that they are saying I can't get any part of. If I have to cash out my retirement I will have nothing to retire on but he will still have the $1,500 plus his from the state he now has. He only has $9,000 in his at the state because he has not worked FT but 2 years of the 9 year marriage.

Today I am really struggling.

[calle28]

I'm sorry glynn. I agree with TR. Sounds like it's time for a lawyer.

[jojoandleo]

Ugh, I am so sorry! Want me to take out the meddling sisters?

[1confused1]

I agree, time to get an attorney.

I'm really sorry

[brooke77]

Sorry glynn It sounds like maybe mediation may no longer be an option for you two. Meddling family is the worst!

[jigsy]

It sounds like mediation is not in the best interest for you. You really need a professional who will get you what you deserve and preserve what you have built. All the things you mentioned are very real concerns. It sucks that it costs so much up front, but I think in the long run, it will turn out much better for you.

[kanga1]

That really sucks. The *only* good thing about this is the courts want you to try mediation first so you already have this part done.

[achase123]

Yuck why did they keep you there so long??? How exhausting. I agree. Time to get a lawyer

[glynn]

Oct 8, 2015 9:22:32 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Ugh, I am so sorry! Want me to take out the meddling sisters?

Yes please and the girlfriend while you are at it. We both have lawyers that were there. So much for the one lawyers divorce and he was going to give me the kid and a 20% down payment on a house.

[bg]

Augh, how frustrating. I hope you can find a lawyer to help get you the resolution you deserve.

[glynn]

We both have lawyers that is part of the problem. The 3 extra women that do not have a dog in the race are another problem.

[1confused1]

Oct 8, 2015 15:24:34 GMT -5 glynn said:

We both have lawyers that is part of the problem. The 3 extra women that do not have a dog in the race are another problem.

If that's the case you need an attorney who is going to be a better advocate for you.