Not ready to date yet

[frontbutt]

So, I got on Tinder for a hot minute and matched with a guy that seemed like he was nice. We met for coffee today and had a great conversation. He's invited me to dinner Saturday night, but I haven't replied yet - mostly because I have a ton of anxiety. I thought I might be ready to get out there are just meet people and not try for anything serious, but this guy and I have a lot in common and I think he's into me. It's just I don't think I am there yet. I realized today that I am not ready to date again, or even to meet people for drinks. I still feel married. Dhould I go and just see how it turns out? Or would that be leading him on when I really don't want a serious relationship?


Ugh I don't know what to do. 

[cuddlyevil]

It's okay if you're not ready to date yet. Please don't feel like you have to keep seeing him because you have a lot in common. If you're not ready, you're not ready.

Just be honest with him about where you are. Better to not waste your time or his.

[Deleted]

This happened to me as well when I tried to date too soon. Just text him back that you enjoyed meeting him but realized you aren't ready to date

[frontbutt]

Thanks I needed to hear that.

[doriswe]

There's no prize for being the fastest at getting back out there!

I give you a lot of credit for recognizing you're not ready. It speaks volumes about you!

[lemons]

If you're not ready, it's ok. I'm in no way ready to date. But I have been going out to meet people/groups to get out of the house. Maybe focus on friends right now instead of dating?

[brooke77]

I feel the same way! I was on tinder for a couple days and chatted with a few guys and it felt too weird. I'm not ready. Everyone thinks I should be and is asking, but I'm just really enjoying my peaceful me time at the moment. I think it'd be best to decline dinner and tell him you realized you are not ready to date yet (if you feel you want to give him an answer).