Monday Randoms

[glitzyglow]

It's a regular day off for me today. My niece sent me a Flat Stanley cutout I have to take to my "favorite places in my city" and photograph myself with it. I just did this for my nephew 2 weeks ago (they are in different classes with different teachers). I guess I'll go out and about today to get some pictures with Flat Stanley. I'll have to take him to some exciting places...well, exciting for 3rd graders, lol.

[calle28]

I thought traffic would be light today since it's a holiday. Nope! I was almost late to my meeting. It was my fault though, I should know to always expect traffic in LA.

[1confused1]

I couldn't sleep last night :-(

I have today off but my kids don't. I plan on taking a nap after I drop them off at school.

[bg]

Busy weekend capped off with a way too hot half marathon and then a comedy show. Now to get back into work mode.

[pantsoffdanceoff]

As per my usual Sunday night ritual I did not go to sleep until 12:30am and I woke up at 4:45am to go to the gym. Thankfully I get to leave early today to go to the DR.

[Deleted]

I have today off. I'm finally trying to get my ish together by working out, not spending a shit ton of money and keeping up on my house. I've gotten pretty lazy since working from home and that needs to end stat.

[Deleted]

(ex?)BF wants to talk tonight. I really don't know what more to say - I think he thinks this can still work out and I'm firmly in the NO camp. There are a multitude of wonderful things about our relationship, but the things that I dislike are big things. How do you change your whole personality and operating procedure? You don't.

[abcdefu]

I have off today, but I'm going into work to get some stuff done and enjoy the not being interrupted every five minutes.

I just got back from the vascular surgeon. I have been formally diagnosed with raynaud's. I knew it was going to happen, but just knowing I have yet another diagnosis is just overwhelming.

I got good news from my hand surgeon. I am no longer wearing a brace and I begin OT later this week. As of right now, surgery is not recommended unless OT fails.

After the wedding, I got to meet up with one of my friends from the SB clinic. We went out to lunch and discussed how difficult it is for us on two different levels. She is paralyzed and permanently in a chair. She was saying how people baby her and she just wants to be independent, whereas, I am having a hard time with people understanding my need for the use of the chair. We laughed, vented, and had a great time!

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Oct 12, 2015 10:31:23 GMT -5 TR said:

Oct 12, 2015 10:22:02 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

(ex?)BF wants to talk tonight. I really don't know what more to say - I think he thinks this can still work out and I'm firmly in the NO camp. There are a multitude of wonderful things about our relationship, but the things that I dislike are big things. How do you change your whole personality and operating procedure? You don't.

So you've told him that you want to break up? I remember you were going to, but then he wasn't there that night or something? I missed that you had the actual conversation.

If you don't mind me asking, what are the things that are causing you to want to break up?

Yes, I told him... but he said he had no idea I was upset or that these things were bothering me.  The next day, he went back to regular texting like nothing had been said.  I responded with a terse, "don't you get it???" text and now he's all worried we're splitting up.  WTF.

Reasons 1 - 394809: He is a manchild.  I typed a novel and deleted b/c it's just riling me up.  He's selfish and IDK that I want a future with a man who I have to remind of my existence.

[baa1981]

Such a lazy weekend! I actually had to set an alarm for the first time in 4 weeks today. While I'm not in love with being unemployed, getting up at 6:30 sucked too! I had a meeting with a job coach. It pushed me way outside my comfort zone, which I totally need right now. And this afternoon I have an interview at 1:30. I'm surprisingly not that nervous yet. I'm trying to decide if I should wear my black flats or black heels. I feel more confident and powerful in the heels so I'll probably go with those.

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Oct 12, 2015 10:43:59 GMT -5 TR said:

Oct 12, 2015 10:41:55 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Yes, I told him... but he said he had no idea I was upset or that these things were bothering me.  The next day, he went back to regular texting like nothing had been said.  I responded with a terse, "don't you get it???" text and now he's all worried we're splitting up.  WTF.

Reasons 1 - 394809: He is a manchild.  I typed a novel and deleted b/c it's just riling me up.  He's selfish and IDK that I want a future with a man who I have to remind of my existence.

LOL - NOW he's worried? Not when you first told him? Weird.

Re: the reasons, yeah, no, I would never want to be with someone I had to remind of my existence. Who only gets all worried when I say it's over. No, thank you, next please.

I felt like I was taking crazy pills.  So we'll see what kind of brilliant ideas come from him tonight.

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Oct 12, 2015 10:41:58 GMT -5 baa1981 said:

Such a lazy weekend! I actually had to set an alarm for the first time in 4 weeks today. While I'm not in love with being unemployed, getting up at 6:30 sucked too! I had a meeting with a job coach. It pushed me way outside my comfort zone, which I totally need right now. And this afternoon I have an interview at 1:30. I'm surprisingly not that nervous yet. I'm trying to decide if I should wear my black flats or black heels. I feel more confident and powerful in the heels so I'll probably go with those.

Godo luck! Wear the heels! I always think they look more professional anyway AND it gives you more confidence. 

[1confused1]

Stay strong bigtoe, you deserve better than that.

[jigsy]

I have a question I'd like to get some opinions on...
I had a phone interview for a job I am VERY interested in on Friday, 10/02. On the call, the HR rep said they were conducting some more interviews, but that she would be in contact sometime next week, she also stated that it was going to be very busy for her, so if I didn't hear from her, to feel free to follow-up.

I sent my thank you email deal, and she responded on Tuesday 10/6, that she appreciated the email, she reiterated that they were still in the interview process, and and that she would be in touch in the "next week or so"

So...should I follow-up again this week? If I should, when? I know that they have been hiring a bunch of new people, including an assistant for the HR rep, so I am sure she has her hands full, but I also don't want to appear disinterested or disengaged.

[1confused1]

jigsy yes, I would send another follow up this week. I would think tomorrow would be appropriate.

[lemons]

A widower in my grief group is crushing on me. He's ready to date and I'm so not, nor am I interested in him (only thing in common is we're young widows). I've told him not dating for a year....just want friends... He's not getting it or maybe thinks he can convince me otherwise? My new widow friends think it's hilarious that he's so into me :-(

[lemons]

Oct 12, 2015 13:11:44 GMT -5 TR said:

Oct 12, 2015 12:54:02 GMT -5 lemons said:

A widower in my grief group is crushing on me. He's ready to date and I'm so not, nor am I interested in him (only thing in common is we're young widows). I've told him not dating for a year....just want friends... He's not getting it or maybe thinks he can convince me otherwise? My new widow friends think it's hilarious that he's so into me

I'd have to give an icy, "I'm sorry, I'm not interested, I'm in this group for support, not to get hit on. Please stop."

I think he's lonely and I get that. He's over a year out so he's further out in his grief journey and maybe decided it was a good place to meet others. I don't know. But my new friends are going to help me get the message across becasue I'm not able to at this time. They know I've made an effort but it hasn't helped. I just want H right now and don't plan to date for a long time. I want to be selfish for a while and not do anything, since I was a caregiver for a few years. I am making an effort to get out and meet new friends, though.

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Oct 12, 2015 13:31:06 GMT -5 TR said:

Oct 12, 2015 13:27:41 GMT -5 lemons said:

I think he's lonely and I get that. He's over a year out so he's further out in his grief journey and maybe decided it was a good place to meet others. I don't know. But my new friends are going to help me get the message across becasue I'm not able to at this time. They know I've made an effort but it hasn't helped. I just want H right now and don't plan to date for a long time. I want to be selfish for a while and not do anything, since I was a caregiver for a few years. I am making an effort to get out and meet new friends, though.

Him being lonely doesn't give him the right to harass you. Ever, but especially while you're grieving. And doubly especially at a SUPPORT GROUP for Pete's sake. Sorry, this guy really pisses me off on your behalf.

^^^ ALL OF THAT.  Can we come to the group and bust some kneecaps?  What an insensitive ass.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 12, 2015 13:31:06 GMT -5 TR said:

Oct 12, 2015 13:27:41 GMT -5 lemons said:

I think he's lonely and I get that. He's over a year out so he's further out in his grief journey and maybe decided it was a good place to meet others. I don't know. But my new friends are going to help me get the message across becasue I'm not able to at this time. They know I've made an effort but it hasn't helped. I just want H right now and don't plan to date for a long time. I want to be selfish for a while and not do anything, since I was a caregiver for a few years. I am making an effort to get out and meet new friends, though.

Him being lonely doesn't give him the right to harass you. Ever, but especially while you're grieving. And doubly especially at a SUPPORT GROUP for Pete's sake. Sorry, this guy really pisses me off on your behalf.

YUP!  And he is totally playing on the sad, lonely widow thing.  He can't be that sad if he is trying to get in your pants.  lemons- I get that you are being nice, but this guy isn't responding to nice.  And his continued pursuit of you AFTER you have made it clear you do not have any interest is harassment.  It is NOT okay.  And your friends who find this "hilarious" kind of suck too.

[Eureka1984]

How long do you wait to friend people on Facebook?

I went to Octoberfest with a few friends and met 3 new people. We all hung out throughout the evening and had fun. I'd like to be friends with them and think about going to another event..

[jellymankelly]

Oct 12, 2015 15:04:38 GMT -5 Eureka1984 said:

How long do you wait to friend people on Facebook?

I went to Octoberfest with a few friends and met 3 new people. We all hung out throughout the evening and had fun. I'd like to be friends with them and think about going to another event..

Recently I met a girl through a mutual friend and she added me on FB while we were still sitting at the table together. I didn't realize it until later, after I had gotten back home, but I think that's the quickest I've ever been added!

[katieido]

Another week, more job searching. Had an HR screening interview this morning and followed up with a couple recruiters. My daughter is going to visit her dad Wednesday through Sunday so I'm trying to of social things to do. I'm planning on going to a fun sounding Meetup.org event Thursday (beer, art, and live music! )

[sweetchix]

It's absolutely beautiful out today! High in the mid 70's, which is almost unheard of this time of year. And, 9 years ago today was the October surprise storm which dumped about a foot of heavy snow on the area and 1000's of trees were damaged and/or destroyed because of the added weight of the snow on top of their leaves. I was 7 1/2 month pregnant at the time so I got to watch all the cleanup.

I am debating running or not tonight. It's the last run of the season for our running group, but it's in Buffalo, and I'm not digging the drive there. Even though it's a holiday, I still expect there to be plenty of traffic into the city. Ugh!

[liubot]

Hi everyone.

[jojoandleo]

liubot-how are you doing?

[liubot]

Oct 13, 2015 8:40:38 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

liubot-how are you doing?

Fine, just fine. School, baby, PT job... All good. I have a first date with an older man on Saturday. Should be interesting. I'm being kind to myself.

Hope you all are well!