Let me in on the secret. My son sits on the potty every day, at home and DC, but never goes. We praise him like crazy. But for example, tonight, I *knew* he was about to poop. So I said (in crazy happy voice) "it's potty time, whoop!" and told him we'd read his favorite book. Typically this works but he's all "nooo! noo potty! I'm sitting nooo!" then proceeds to sit in a chair & poop in his pullup. Then he says "I pooped, let's go change!"
I don't get it. Is he not ready? I don't want him to start holding back poop!
Also, WHEN do you teach them to pee standing up? My H and I cannot figure this part out. We tried it the other day and DS was all freaked out about holding his penis while he peed, so I ended up holding it. I'm sure this isn't right.
Halp.
ETA - he is 2.5 years old exactly and in pull ups FT at daycare (diapers only at night, and we don't use the changing table anymore, all pullup changes happen in the bathroom)
Don't rush it. We had DS in pull ups ful time for 3 months. He would pee if we put him on, but never ask. At 2 months until he turned 3, we got serious and it clicked with him. The week he turned 3 he started pooping and telling us he had to go.
Give him time, 2.5 is young in boy years in terms of potty training. Let him continue to sit and get used to it and don't stress about when he actually pees in it.
Our son didn't stand til he was probably 3.5, so 6 or 7 month after being potty trained. Let your son watch his dad pee as much as possible, that would help.
And, fwiw, my son was potty trained about 6 months before he would poop in the potty. He would hold it til his 'relax' time, put on a pull up, poop, then get cleaned and changed back to underwear. One day he announced he was ready to poop on the toilet and that was it. We didn't push it.
DS's preschool teacher advises me that kids usually don't master the pooping on the potty until they are totally comfortable with peeing. They have to relax enough to make that happen, and it's so unnatural to them in the begining. We'll see - I trust her, and I'm waiting for that day!
We bought him a Lego space shuttle and told him when he pooped x number of times he would get it. We left it out for him to look at the box and reminded him what he needed to do to get it. Took less than 2 weeks.
Daycare started him with standing and we followed. He was tall enough to reach (usually) at that point. He doesn't usually hold it. It just aims well enough on its own. He only holds it if he is sitting to poop as well.
Daycare started him with standing and we followed. He was tall enough to reach (usually) at that point. He doesn't usually hold it. It just aims well enough on its own. He only holds it if he is sitting to poop as well.
This is a good point - ds doesn't hold it either, he just aims it and I would say 99% of the time he does a good job
Daycare started him with standing and we followed. He was tall enough to reach (usually) at that point. He doesn't usually hold it. It just aims well enough on its own. He only holds it if he is sitting to poop as well.
This is a good point - ds doesn't hold it either, he just aims it and I would say 99% of the time he does a good job
Obviously I am not a boy, and have not had this discussion with my husband ... I had no idea they could do it w/o holding it.
He spent the vast majority of last summer nekkid. What does your kid potty-wise if you let him run around in the buff? Without that pullup, will he poop on the floor or what? Might be worth it to find out if you haven't already.
My #2 secret boy PTing tip is....
let him follow idolized big sister around and she'll PT him.
I know, that one's kinda hard if boy is the oldest/only. But really, I let my 4yo do most of the work.
She told him it was time to potty when she had to go. He followed. She sat on the big potty, he sat next to her on a little potty chair. By the fall we were taking trips to the store diaper-free. By January he was in daycare diaper-free. He was 26mo when he went diaper free at daycare.
Oh, and he sits to pee. No idea when he'll start to stand. He's done it a couple times, mostly outside, but it doesn't seem to be a big deal for him.
Post by GailGoldie on Aug 24, 2012 17:34:41 GMT -5
we teach all our boys sitting down with pee early on- MUCH easier- just have him tuck his penis down. When tehy wanted to stand we taught them how daycare was teaching boys - to stand on a little stool, lean over and hold the top of the lid/seat --- it puts their body at the perfect angle and the penise aims right in the middle of the pot. DO NOT have him hold his penis!!
2.5 is still young for a boy - if he's not doing anything on the potty - you are either not doing a good method, or he's not ready.
we used the 3-day method and worked great for 2 of our boys. One of them (one of the twins) who has a speech/language delay is still having a hard time- he just wasn't ready at 3yo even- so we're waiting a few more months and doing it again.
Post by SusanBAnthony on Aug 24, 2012 20:03:25 GMT -5
We didn't start peeng standing until he was fully pt'ed unless we had an outdoor emergency.
Ds was totally uninterested, but we went pantsless for about a week. The minute I out pants on him, he would pee on them.m I basically followed him around with a potty, and as soon as he started Togo, I grabbed him, sat him down, and he finished in the potty. Then I made a fool of myself dancing around and singing about how he peed in the potty. It was exhausting.
2.5 is still early for boys. DS was over 3 before he got it, and that was with quite a bit of peer pressure when the little girls at daycare were in hard-core training mode.
DD still poops in pull ups 90% of the time. On occasion she will tell me she has to go, but not always. I'm not going to rush it. She's not even 3 yet.
Oh and she wears underwear most if the time, but either asks for a pull up or will poop her pants. I can tell when she needs to go so if she's farting a lot, I'll put the pull up on if she won't go to the potty. she doesn't poop every day either.