Monday Randoms

[jojoandleo]

Happy Monday!  How was everyone's weekend?

Mine was okay, but I learned some of MH's friends (FEMALE friends, BTW) thought my profile pic with my GAY BEST FRIEND was weird. Because apparently having a male best friend as a woman is nefarious, but them being friends with MH is just fine. It hurt my feelings. A LOT. And I now feel like these women aren't friends of our marriage. Which sucks since our marriage is having major issues. So, I deactivated FB. Because I feel like being passive aggressive and I don't want to be that person.

[achase123]

Ugh it was a pretty low key weekend and it's continuing because P has the flu. Poor guy got sick in his bed last night

[calle28]

I had a good weekend, it was pretty low key as well. My BF met my parents yesterday and it went well! He was a bit nervous, but I was excited because I knew they'd like him.

Last night I was so tired. I took a nap at 7, woke up at 8:30 and was useless and groggy the rest of the night. So I went to bed at 10.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 26, 2015 9:23:54 GMT -5 calle28 said:

I had a good weekend, it was pretty low key as well. My BF met my parents yesterday and it went well! He was a bit nervous, but I was excited because I knew they'd like him.

Yay! Meeting the parents is always nerve wracking.

I had a guy I was casually dating accidentally meet my parents and it was the WORST THING EVER. He got tanked, was super inappropriate, then THREW MY PHONE when I got a text from my GAY BEST FRIEND. IN FRONT OF MY PARENTS. I continued to sleep with him because, well, it was good, but never ever ever went out in public with him EVER AGAIN.

[pantsoffdanceoff]

I was fully prepared on Saturday to clean my whole house and I was standing on a step stool and fell completely backwards right onto my ass onto a concrete floor. I don't know yet if I broke my tailbone or just bruised it. Unfortunately the treatment for both is basically to ice it (which I have been doing), sitting on a donut (which I am) and taking Advil (also doing). I'm still in a lot of pain.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 26, 2015 9:34:31 GMT -5 pantsoffdanceoff said:

I was fully prepared on Saturday to clean my whole house and I was standing on a step stool and fell completely backwards right onto my ass onto a concrete floor. I don't know yet if I broke my tailbone or just bruised it. Unfortunately the treatment for both is basically to ice it (which I have been doing), sitting on a donut (which I am) and taking Advil (also doing). I'm still in a lot of pain.

I am so sorry! I have done something similar (fell flat on my ass during dance. I was doing a toe touch and didn't get the height I needed. it was not good) and it was AWFUL.  I stood a lot.

[pantsoffdanceoff]

Oct 26, 2015 9:36:22 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oct 26, 2015 9:34:31 GMT -5 pantsoffdanceoff said:

I was fully prepared on Saturday to clean my whole house and I was standing on a step stool and fell completely backwards right onto my ass onto a concrete floor. I don't know yet if I broke my tailbone or just bruised it. Unfortunately the treatment for both is basically to ice it (which I have been doing), sitting on a donut (which I am) and taking Advil (also doing). I'm still in a lot of pain.

I am so sorry! I have done something similar (fell flat on my ass during dance. I was doing a toe touch and didn't get the height I needed. it was not good) and it was AWFUL.  I stood a lot.

Yeah, I'm kind of surprised as to what feels the best. Sitting straight up is okay, slouching hurts, standing is okay but walking hurts and lying down REALLY hurts. This is what I get for trying to clean!

[calle28]

Oct 26, 2015 9:33:43 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oct 26, 2015 9:23:54 GMT -5 calle28 said:

I had a good weekend, it was pretty low key as well. My BF met my parents yesterday and it went well! He was a bit nervous, but I was excited because I knew they'd like him.

Yay! Meeting the parents is always nerve wracking.

I had a guy I was casually dating accidentally meet my parents and it was the WORST THING EVER. He got tanked, was super inappropriate, then THREW MY PHONE when I got a text from my GAY BEST FRIEND. IN FRONT OF MY PARENTS. I continued to sleep with him because, well, it was good, but never ever ever went out in public with him EVER AGAIN.

LOL! So bad, but so funny.

[1confused1]

Had way too much fun on my adult only weekend trip. At this rate I may not recover until Thursday. I'm certainly not in my 20s anymore! !

[bl]

jojoandleo I am sorry, that would upset me too and I would have such a hard time understanding their logic .

I had a really low key weekend, like there should be an imprint of my body on the couch because I spent 90% of my time there. It's good for my ankle, but I felt bad being so lazy. I still haven't even finished unpacking from Dallas at the beginning of the month.

I am mentally preparing myself for a difficult conversation I need to have later this week and hoping it doesn't end too bad.

I was SO upset about TWD last night.

[jojoandleo]

bl-A part of me gets it. They are HIS friends and my profile pic was me and another guy. I mean, if they were like me, they would have gone to his FB profile and seen he is gay, but I guess they didn't? It's just, I hang out with them too and thought they knew me better than that. I thought they were friends of our marriage. But now I feel like they are looking for ways I screw up. I go back and forth between "maybe they had a point" to "fuck those bitches." Really, I am more upset with MH. I don't feel like he had my back. He knows the guy is gay. He KNOWS he is one of my best friends. I guess the picture was construed as sexually suggestive? He was holding my hips and I was bent a bit at an angle pretending to machete people (it was a Halloween party photo). So... but really? Like, how stupid would I be if I posted a pic like that and made it my profile pic of a dude I was boning!?! Like, they either think I am dumb, or were being catty.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Spent Sunday at church, then Trunk or Treat/Farmers Market then handed DD my phone so I could watch SNF in peace and quiet ! It was GLORIOUS !!

* SNF = Sunday Night Football

[Eureka1984]

The weekend went by so fast and it's hard to believe that November is almost here.

I went out on a date with tinder guy and it was fun. We sat downtown by the water for happy hour and it was nice. Saturday I went out with my bestie and Sunday I just relaxed.

I have therapy apt tomorrow and I'm feeling pretty good.

[brooke77]

This weekend went by so quickly. I need to get my spending in check next month. I have been doing way too much retail therapy. BUT, I got some really cute dresses.

[bg]

I had a half fun half productive weekend. I saw three friends and still got a draft of an article done.

brooke77 where are the dresses from??

[bl]

Oct 26, 2015 10:05:18 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

bl-A part of me gets it. They are HIS friends and my profile pic was me and another guy. I mean, if they were like me, they would have gone to his FB profile and seen he is gay, but I guess they didn't? It's just, I hang out with them too and thought they knew me better than that. I thought they were friends of our marriage. But now I feel like they are looking for ways I screw up. I go back and forth between "maybe they had a point" to "fuck those bitches." Really, I am more upset with MH. I don't feel like he had my back. He knows the guy is gay. He KNOWS he is one of my best friends. I guess the picture was construed as sexually suggestive? He was holding my hips and I was bent a bit at an angle pretending to machete people (it was a Halloween party photo). So... but really? Like, how stupid would I be if I posted a pic like that and made it my profile pic of a dude I was boning!?! Like, they either think I am dumb, or were being catty.

I get that they are HIS friends, but they are his female friends.  Have they never taken a selfie with your husband? I mean sure maybe they thought it was slightly odd that it was maybe a bit suggestive, but he is gay and they know you.  I don't find any of this out of character for you and I don't even know you in real life.  This is just an example of when people need to mind their own damn business.  Now if you H was complaining to them that he was uncomfortable I could maybe see them chatting through it with him or agreeing (even though I don't), but that wasn't the case. 

[MauMau]

I had a nice weekend.

Friday we went to my cousin's football game. It rained the whole time and I had to wear a poncho. :/

Saturday I went shopping with my mom and grandma. I spent way too much money at Lush. The store had some of the Christmas stuff but not all of it. So I will have to go again and spend more. $$$

Sunday. I had brunch with a friend. We went to the pumpkin patch with her baby after. I ran errands and came home to binge watch Fargo.

[brooke77]

Oct 26, 2015 11:36:43 GMT -5 bg said:

I had a half fun half productive weekend. I saw three friends and still got a draft of an article done.

brooke77 where are the dresses from??

Express Outlet.  They regularly have 40% or 50% off sales, which is great... except that I don't really neeeeed to go shopping.

[brooke77]

jojoandleo I see why you're upset. I don't think his sexuality has anything to do with it. It shouldn't matter if he was your straight best friend. Your H shouldn't let his friends speculate about his wife.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 26, 2015 11:44:37 GMT -5 bl said:

Oct 26, 2015 10:05:18 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

bl-A part of me gets it. They are HIS friends and my profile pic was me and another guy. I mean, if they were like me, they would have gone to his FB profile and seen he is gay, but I guess they didn't? It's just, I hang out with them too and thought they knew me better than that. I thought they were friends of our marriage. But now I feel like they are looking for ways I screw up. I go back and forth between "maybe they had a point" to "fuck those bitches." Really, I am more upset with MH. I don't feel like he had my back. He knows the guy is gay. He KNOWS he is one of my best friends. I guess the picture was construed as sexually suggestive? He was holding my hips and I was bent a bit at an angle pretending to machete people (it was a Halloween party photo). So... but really? Like, how stupid would I be if I posted a pic like that and made it my profile pic of a dude I was boning!?! Like, they either think I am dumb, or were being catty.

I get that they are HIS friends, but they are his female friends.  Have they never taken a selfie with your husband? I mean sure maybe they thought it was slightly odd that it was maybe a bit suggestive, but he is gay and they know you.  I don't find any of this out of character for you and I don't even know you in real life.  This is just an example of when people need to mind their own damn business.  Now if you H was complaining to them that he was uncomfortable I could maybe see them chatting through it with him or agreeing (even though I don't), but that wasn't the case. 

It's not out of character for me!  LOL!  Thank you.  You pretty much got what was upsetting me most.  It was like they were TRYING to cause problems.  Like, if MH didn't mention it, why bring it up?  Why make it an issue?  It wasn't a picture I was HIDING they happened to find, ya know?

[jojoandleo]

Oct 26, 2015 12:10:10 GMT -5 brooke77 said:

jojoandleo I see why you're upset. I don't think his sexuality has anything to do with it. It shouldn't matter if he was your straight best friend. Your H shouldn't let his friends speculate about his wife.

I agree, his sexuality doesn't even matter. Even if he was my straight friend, they should mind their own business.  And I agree, H should have shut that shit down.  I am most upset that I feel he didn't have my back. 

[jojoandleo]

Oct 26, 2015 12:41:36 GMT -5 mp said:

Oct 26, 2015 12:36:40 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I agree, his sexuality doesn't even matter. Even if he was my straight friend, they should mind their own business.  And I agree, H should have shut that shit down.  I am most upset that I feel he didn't have my back. 

My concern would be that he's shared about your marital issues. And now they're using this to drive a wedge further between you. Like, why did he even tell you this?

I don't remember how the convo started. I don't know why he told me, either.  I did explain to him my feelings were hurt and I was upset he didn't have my back. But, he just said, "Okay." So, I don't know.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 26, 2015 13:02:31 GMT -5 mp said:

Oct 26, 2015 12:57:36 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I don't remember how the convo started. I don't know why he told me, either.  I did explain to him my feelings were hurt and I was upset he didn't have my back. But, he just said, "Okay." So, I don't know.

Basically id irrationally throw down for you, so I'm all defensive on your behalf.

Oh no, trust me, everything you are thinking, I have thought too. I'm much more upset with MH than his friends.  But I also used to think his female friends were friends of us being together.  Now, I don't feel that way.  I'm just struggling.

[Serenity9]

Sorry things are rough, jojoandleo. 


My weekend was pretty good. I went out again with Cute/Shy Guy and we totally hit it off this time! We ended up staying out talking and canoodling until 2 a.m. and we had no idea what time it was until the bar shut off the music, LOL!

I also went on a 2nd date with a guy I had dubbed Immature Guy to my friends, LOL! The thing was, the first date was really fun in a strange, immature way. We were making all kinds of crude jokes and cracking ourselves up. Funny, but not exactly what I was looking for in a date. His suggestion for a 2nd date was brunch and an art museum, though, so I thought I'd try it again and see if maybe we were just in a weird, immature mood that first night. But no. Even though it was his suggestion, he didn't seem interested in the art at all until the crude jokes started. Again, it was funny, and I'd totally be friends with him, but I don't want to date that. So I called it off. 

[Deleted]

jojoandleo I actually saw the picture and they are being RIDICULOUS! If you post it on Facebook, uhhh pretty sure you aren't hiding it. I'm sorry. This is such bullshit.

[cuddlyevil]

Oct 26, 2015 12:57:36 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oct 26, 2015 12:41:36 GMT -5 mp said:

My concern would be that he's shared about your marital issues. And now they're using this to drive a wedge further between you. Like, why did he even tell you this?

I don't remember how the convo started. I don't know why he told me, either.  I did explain to him my feelings were hurt and I was upset he didn't have my back. But, he just said, "Okay." So, I don't know.

Girl, this made alarm bells go off in my head. I don't like it.

[Deleted]

jojoandleo, sorry things are rough.  People can be shitty and many are not trustworthy. sometimes I think social media causes more harm than good. 

[winecat]

I'm sorry, jojo.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 26, 2015 21:05:40 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Oct 26, 2015 12:57:36 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I don't remember how the convo started. I don't know why he told me, either.  I did explain to him my feelings were hurt and I was upset he didn't have my back. But, he just said, "Okay." So, I don't know.

Girl, this made alarm bells go off in my head. I don't like it.

Mine too. Trust me. Not ignoring all the Orange flags waving around lately. I'm just trying to figure out what *I* want before I make my move, YA know? I should say, this is NOT MH. When we got engaged, his mom was shitty to me and he told her she didn't have to come to the wedding of she didn't knock it off. One of his friends made a comment early in our marriage when I was in school about me not working and he told the guy school WAS MY JOB. He used to have my back. He's been depressed, and dealing with stuff. It's not an excuse for how he has been acting, but it makes me understand it. I just have to figure out my shit before I figure out our shit.