We agree completely on social issues. He is more fiscally conservative than I am.
We watched the debate last night on CNBC and agreed they were all chucklefucks. He especially dislikes Ted Cruz and was incredulous that Mike Huckabee could be considered a candidate..
Post by estrellita on Oct 29, 2015 15:28:27 GMT -5
Yes, we have very similar views. I don't think I could be with someone with drastically different views, especially on social issues. I have friends on all areas of the spectrum but for a SO, it matters more to me.
No. I am a very liberal democrat. H claims to be an independent, but really he's arepublican (except on a few issues, like abortion and gay marriage). It's best for our relationship if we just don't talk politics at all.
I am sure your husband is a wonderful person.
the "I'm a Republican, just not without all the Jesus stuff" thing drives me up the f***ing wall. Like maybe if someone lives somewhere like Massachusetts and votes D for federal elections and R for statewide elections, sure. But in Texas or Ohio or anywhere where "all the Jesus stuff" is still a BFD? It's a total cop-out for Republicans who would like to sleep with liberal women.
MM has a couple of people who fit this description. I don't know what to make of it other than roll my eyes.
I don't know who you're referring to on MM, but they're probably using it as a shorthand for saying they support gay marriage and abortion rights but don't see Big government as the answer to every problem. Unfortunately for Reps of this stripe, the GOP is no longer consistent along these lines. They could vote Libertarian but a lot of Americans don't want to vote third party. Plus the last national Libertarian candidate was pro life wasn't he? So it's not like people who think this way have many good options.
Post by penguingrrl on Oct 29, 2015 15:51:47 GMT -5
Yes. My political beliefs are such a fundamental part of me that I couldn't be married to someone who didn't share the same values. I'll admit I can't imagine how people can have the same fundamental values and end up on different ends of the political spectrum. It seems like so much is a core part of who you are as a person.
Post by steamboat185 on Oct 29, 2015 16:07:38 GMT -5
Generally. I couldn't stay married to someone who was a right wing conservative. I'd still like him to be more of a socialist, but we agree on most topics.
No. I am a very liberal democrat. H claims to be an independent, but really he's arepublican (except on a few issues, like abortion and gay marriage). It's best for our relationship if we just don't talk politics at all.
I am sure your husband is a wonderful person.
the "I'm a Republican, just not without all the Jesus stuff" thing drives me up the f***ing wall. Like maybe if someone lives somewhere like Massachusetts and votes D for federal elections and R for statewide elections, sure. But in Texas or Ohio or anywhere where "all the Jesus stuff" is still a BFD? It's a total cop-out for Republicans who would like to sleep with liberal women.
MM has a couple of people who fit this description. I don't know what to make of it other than roll my eyes.
I appreciate the disclaimer about my H
While I get what you're saying, I think at the heart of it, it comes down to priorities. Obviously not everyone's priorities will be the same. And while H may have some liberal leanings, his priorities align more with the republican side. I would prefer it if his priorities aligned more with mine (because I'm right, of course ), but I'm not going to fault him for not putting as much an emphasis on social issues as I do.
We're pretty opposite. I'm incredibly liberal, and he's pretty conservative.
We agreed long ago not to talk about abortion, but generally we can discuss all other issues like rational human beings. We are respectful of each other's opinions and know when to walk away.
We're similar enough that things often align. Although in reality, he's more of a "keep your hands off my money, bitch" Libertarian. I'm more of a moderate Republican.
Who do you like? I feel like you are a normal person and there must be other normal people Republicans. But this group is kind of out there. So who would you vote for?
Post by karinothing on Oct 29, 2015 19:57:17 GMT -5
@mrsbecky how did I not know this?!
Husband and I met on the 2003 presidental, so same politics here. I actually don't think I could be married to someone with different political views. I feel like it reaches all aspects of life.
Husband and I met on the 2003 presidental, so same politics here. I actually don't think I could be married to someone with different political views. I feel like it reaches all aspects of life.
I am sure I have told you! Or maybe I was afraid you would shame me hahaha
Point being NOW I SEE THE SWEET LIBERAL LIGHT lol.
I voted for Bush in 2004. I was in the College Republicans FFS.
AND LOOK AT ME NOW. LOLOLOL
People change, parties change. The Repbulican party CERTAINLY has since 2004 and even 2008. Just because a couple is a match now doesn't mean they always will be.
Post by Queen Mamadala on Oct 29, 2015 22:16:10 GMT -5
Oh yeah. We're both super liberal. It was at the top of my list for compatible matches back when I reentered the dating scene. Politics/ideology issues fell in deal-breaker category.
H was raised by conservatives, but after 16 years together he has seen the light.
We don't always see eye to eye on some issues, but he votes liberal and like to watch the GOP debates with me so we can complain about the candidates together.
He tries to avoid political conversations with is parents because he just gets upset with some of their positions on things.
I'm more political than he is, so I'm the one doing the most of the talking when we talk about issues in the news or whatever. Sometimes I hear him parroting some of my talking points to other people when he doesn't think I'm paying attention.
This may get me flamed, but I find it very difficult to imagine being married to someone who identified as a conservative. I could not see being married to someone who actively supported political parties that promote anti-choice, anti-feminist policies. That would make me feel that they do not respect me or my daughters.
That being said, I live in Canada, where young, educated conservatives are quite few and far between, so it is harder for me to imagine this.
I'm sorry for the offense this may cause anyone.
I don't see what the issue is with finding opposing political views incompatible. People have all sorts of preferences and what makes for a compatible partner. This can be a big one for certain people. I don't see how it's any different than wanting to date/marry someone of the same religion or personal ideology/lack of religion. Politics, or the ideologies that influence them, can really impact a relationship, how the individual interacts with the world and perceives other people.
At the time I married my first husband we were uber conservative right-wing Republicans. I voted for Bush Jr. in '04. Then years later we become Libertarians and were big Ron Paul supporters, and since then I've become far more liberal, and I think he is, too. Politics were a big thing for me back then. I was very vocal and wasn't the type to avoid important issues or "agree to disagree" and that still exists today. I knew that whoever I dated after we split would have to be compatible when it comes to politics (and philosophical views), because there are many issues or ideologies, like social issues, I don't respect and openly challenge.
I couldn't be married to a conservative, and I've been varying flavors of conservative. It wouldn't work for either of us.
Absolutely. I could never be married to someone who didn't share similar beliefs. We are both extremely liberal and have nothing but loathing for the GOP.
I was briefly talking to a guy via online dating and I coincidentally found out he was pro guns and anti-abortion and I was immediately like NOPE!
One of my favorite aspects of OLD. I could sort based on match %, and based on how I answered the questions (OKC), I didn't come across these types of profiles unless the % dropped below 65%. But I tended to stick with 90+%. I'd get messages from these types and once I saw their profile, read their details, it was an immediate "hell no."
@this, I was Trump bad, or worse, in another life. Like Trump + Carson. I eventually saw the light.
For the most part yes. We mostly vote the same but there have been a few elections where we have voted differently. Neither of us are loyal to any party, we just vote based on what current issues are priority for us.
He is more socially liberal than I and more fiscally conservative. He is not very into politics though and has only voted once. Whereas I get absentee ballots for local school board elections lol
We dont talk politics. It gets ugly. I'm a Democrat and he is a pretty conservative republican. It's mostly social issues we disagree on. I always say had I met him when I was 25 and not 17 we would never have gotten married or even dated Good thing we get along otherwise.
Post by gibbinator on Oct 30, 2015 16:54:55 GMT -5
Recently yes, but previously no. Dh leans conservative and I'm just short of socialist (which, as you can imagine from my Hill to die on post, has caused heated debate). We both have voted liberal in our last few elections because dh hasn't been impressed with how our Conservatives are transforming into republicans.