s/o politics: are you and your SO a match?

[Deleted]

Do you generally have the same views on the issues/vote for the same people? 

[glitzy07]

Nope. We don't talk politics often in our house because it becomes heated. There are certain important issues we agree on, but party wise we are complete opposites almost always.

[rootbeerfloat]

We prioritize different issues, but yes, we are both super liberal.

[osulori]

Yep.

[SJ]

Yes.

[mlt]

Yes, and it was very important to both of us to find a partner who agreed on at least 90% of issues. I have some relatives and friends in mixed-party marriages and I don't understand how it works. I vent too much about current events to have a happy relationship with someone who doesn't agree. 

[redheadbaker]

For the most part, yes. He's even more liberal than me, but on some issues, he tends to take a more libertarian point of view.

[Ashley&Scott]

Yes.

Although he keeps teasing me that he's flipped & will be supporting a presidential candidate I can't stand.

[justjen]

Yes. Also super liberal.

[h]

Yes, basically. We have supported different candidates in primary elections in the past, but we are both basically on the same page. I don't think we have ever voted for different candidates in a general election.

I have zero problem having close friends with different political views, but since my political views are reflective of my core values in many ways, I think I would struggle with co-parenting with someone who is on the opposite side of the aisle.

[pinotgrig]

Sort of. We're far off on the current spectrum based on the candidates, but I feel like we have a lot of the same general ideals. We've found it's best to currently not discuss. Lol

[dcn]

Yes for the most part.

[Marmee]

Yes

[cincodemayo]

For the most part-we will vote for the same candidates typically.

However, individual issues? We disagree on some.

[undecidedowl]

We mostly align, although there are a few topics we disagree on.

[zarapipe]

No

We dont talk politics. It gets ugly. I'm a Democrat and he is a pretty conservative republican. It's mostly social issues we disagree on. I always say had I met him when I was 25 and not 17 we would never have gotten married or even dated Good thing we get along otherwise.

[Deleted]

Yes, we're very similar. We are both Libertarians. I lean a little further to the left than he does and he cares more about politics than I do.

[Deleted]

My husband is a low taxes/small government type of Republican. Ideologically, he is probably more of a libertarian though he usually votes a straight ticket Republican. (Although I did get him to concede recently that he will abstain from voting if Carson or Trump win the nomination, lol). I am more of a (moderate) Democrat. We have a lot of heated political debates in our house. It's not serious but sometimes our kids will worry that we are fighting and tell us to be quiet, lol.

We live in NY so I always tease him that his vote doesn't count in national elections.

[holly116]

We both have similar viewpoints on most issues and none of it lines up with a single party.

[h]

Oct 29, 2015 14:08:50 GMT -5 CheeringCharm said:

My husband is a low taxes/small government type of Republican. Ideologically, he is probably more of a libertarian though he usually votes a straight ticket Republican. (Although I did get him to concede recently that he will abstain from voting if Carson or Trump win the nomination, lol).

This is a total tangent, but try to get him to write someone in rather than just abstaining. Abstaining runs the risk of sending the message "I don't care" or "I couldn't be bothered to vote." A write in vote says, "I care, but you picked a terrible candidate. Consider this my protest vote."

[bowies]

My H wasn't remotely dialed into politics when I met him. That has, thankfully, changed. He won't vote unless he's clued in on the candidates and their stances so he typically only shows up for Presidential and Governor elections. It's a start.

And yes we match.

[VillainV]

Yes, but by dumb luck. We didn't really discuss politics before we got married (honestly it didn't matter that much to either of us what the other's political views are, and neither of us are super-political anyway). As we've been watching the debates we've realize how similar our views are.

[brooklyn]

Nope. I'm way more liberal than him. He used to be a registered republican, but now just doesn't vote. He agrees with me on social issues like abortion and gay marriage thankfully, but is way more conservative with money related things.

Eta: he is definitely more bootstrappy than me. If it was up to me, we'd fund all social service programs.

[timorousbeastie]

No. I am a very liberal democrat. H claims to be an independent, but really he's a republican (except on a few issues, like abortion and gay marriage). It's best for our relationship if we just don't talk politics at all.

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Oct 29, 2015 14:14:28 GMT -5 h said:

Oct 29, 2015 14:08:50 GMT -5 CheeringCharm said:

My husband is a low taxes/small government type of Republican. Ideologically, he is probably more of a libertarian though he usually votes a straight ticket Republican. (Although I did get him to concede recently that he will abstain from voting if Carson or Trump win the nomination, lol).

This is a total tangent, but try to get him to write someone in rather than just abstaining. Abstaining runs the risk of sending the message "I don't care" or "I couldn't be bothered to vote." A write in vote says, "I care, but you picked a terrible candidate. Consider this my protest vote."

Hopefully this won't be necessary and we can stop talking about either of these yahoos as the possible nominee in three months  

[bowies]

Just to be honest here, I don't think I could be sexually attracted to a man who voted for a person who didn't agree with equal pay laws or reproductive freedom for women.

I know everyone is different, but it's a deal breaker for me. It was in my Match profile lol.

[5kcandlesinthewind]

Yes, we mostly agree. Like @this's husband, he's probably a little more bootstrappy than I am, but I'm getting him there.

(I think I've mentioned this here somewhere before, but we met on Match, and one of the reasons I even bothered to write him back was because he included the line "you are absolutely nothing like Ann Coulter" in his profile.)

[pizzapizza]

Yes, otherwise we would have divorced. I have probably made him more liberal but he was pretty liberal to start.

[pizzapizza]

Oct 29, 2015 14:22:13 GMT -5 @this said:

I voted for Bush in 2004. (I was a dumb kid.) I was in the College Republicans FFS.

AND LOOK AT ME NOW. LOLOLOL

People change, parties change. The Repbulican party CERTAINLY has since 2004 and even 2008. Just because a couple is a match now doesn't mean they always will be.

We have a very good friend that had the same sort of conversion.

I am always fascinated but what makes people change political parties.   Do you mind sharing what brought you to the light ?  

[5kcandlesinthewind]

Oct 29, 2015 14:24:33 GMT -5 pizzapizza said:

Yes, otherwise we would have divorced. I have probably made him more liberal but he was pretty liberal to start.

Seriously. I am too stubborn and set in my ways to understand how mixed-politics couples can be together. Like Mary Matalin and James Carville make NO SENSE to me at all.