When did you tell people? Or when will you?

[ursulabuffay]

My first pregnancy I was young and completely clueless and we told the world immediately. My second pregnancy after I saw the heartbeat two times The RE said it was probably safe to announce. we told some people but didn't go crazy and then I lost it

So now I am 12 weeks tomorrow which my doctor considers to be the end of the first trimester. This is when all of my coworkers usually announce But they don't have my history Part of me wants to tell now and another part of me will never feel safe telling

Disclaimer: our immediate family and closest friends know. I'm referring to extended family, friends, coworkers.

So what did you all do or what will you do?

[callmehales]

I plan on telling my cousins/grandma at thanksgiving, which will be 12w1d. As for going FB public, I'm not sure yet...I kind of want to wait until our dating anniversary a few weeks after that, but we'll see.

[ouokie]

DH and I were actually just talking about this tonight. When I was pregnant with my DD I was 24 so I announced it even before the stick was dry. Now that I have had 3 miscarriages (and am much older) I'm a little more apprehensive on who I tell. With this pregnancy we have only told our parents and siblings. We will probably become FB public before we go down for Thanksgiving because I will most likely be showing. I'll be in my second trimester by then.

[tarajane]

With #1 we told my family at 8 weeks, H's family at 9 weeks and the world/FB at about 12 weeks.

With this one, we are telling H's family at 7 weeks since they are all in town and mine soon after. Telling the world after the first OB appt which I think is 12 weeks (depends what RE says). That's assuming all goes well.

[dollyllama]

I told my mom the day we found out. We were on vacation with them and she was bugging me about not driving go-karts. MIL found out about a week later while she was going through our vacation pictures and I forgot that there was a picture of my pee stick. We told our dads and siblings after the u/s where we saw the hb which was 7.5 weeks. Told extended family at about 11 weeks after another u/s and locked down our social media so no one could post about it. We waited to announce on social media until like 18 weeks.

[cactuscookie]

We told my family immediately, because we weren't able to keep the treatments from them.

We told DH's family at 10 weeks - actually a little sooner that I was comfortable with, but we were traveling with our nephews on that side and figured we wouldn't be able to keep it a secret. DH's mom would not have been pleased to find out from her teenaged grandsons instead of us.

I told my boss at 13 weeks, because there were a lot of appointments at that point.

We told the rest of work at 14 weeks, the day after we got the chromosome screening results.

[loira]

I just told my client today. And by told, I mean I showed up at our meeting and he saw I was quite pregnant. I'm 26 weeks, LOL.

I told my mum and dad immediately. Told a couple of really, really close friends at about 7 weeks. Waited until 16 weeks to tell my ILs. Still haven't announced anything to friends I haven't seen yet, though at this point it's also not a secret. H has told a couple of his friends, but not many. Not sure if he's told his brother and sister even.

[belovedbride07]

I told my mom and brother the day I got a positive test, and my dad after a positive beta. We told the ILs, GMIL, and BIL/SIL after our first ultrasound.

I told my boss and the daycare director sometime around 8 weeks, for logistical reasons.

We slowly told other people we trusted, finally telling the rest of the grandparents around 12w and announcing at work and on Facebook around 14w.

[bcarp30]

Most people I see day to day know already. With DD I didn't announce on FB until 20 weeks. I'm 21 weeks with #2 and haven't announced yet. I may do it if we get cute pictures for our next trip, but we will see.

[dellabear]

We will tell after the first trimester screening. I'm already sporting a bit of a belly at 9 weeks so I'm guessing it will be a challenge to hide it for much longer than that anyway. But that will be family, DDs daycare and work, as our close friends and my mom already know. As for the broader world, I probably won't mention it on Facebook for awhile yet, we'll see how I feel about it.

[boiler717]

We told the people who knew we were cycling in the first tri. We didn't tell anyone else until after our cffDNA came back okay and we were in the second tri. Then we told DH's family and some close extended family. I started showing really early so people who saw us knew.
Otherwise, I kept putting it off -- after the anatomy scan, then after viability. I told my coworkers after the a/s (work remotely). Now I'm 30.5 weeks and I'm like "eh, might as well wait until the baby is here." It's like I'm keeping it a secret, I just feel weird "announcing" it to others. Partly because of anxiety I still have, partly because pregnancy announcements were so hard for me to see.

[Bumblebee]

We didn't plan it out beforehand but this is how it worked out -


Inner circle (those who knew about IF treatments): right away

Close family & friends: after 1st ultrasound

Extended family & friends: between 9 and 14 weeks

Work: after 14 weeks

Facebook: after 20 weeks

[lms]

My boss knew what was going on so I ended up telling her after the 2nd beta. We told DD at about 6 weeks because it was summer and she had been with her dad otherwise we would have told her sooner. My parents and MIL found out at about 8 weeks and shortly after that I announced at work to everyone. We didn't put anything on Facebook until I was 16 weeks. I think H has only told a handful of people at his work.

[ivy]

We told our parents around 10-11 weeks, extended family after the Harmony results around 13 weeks, and work around 15 weeks.

[shoeless]

I told my family and close friends immediately. I told co-workers around 16 weeks, I still haven't told extended family (I'll do that with a Christmas Card, we are not particularly close)

[swiftlyirun]

I told my best friend about 5 weeks (she had this weird dream that detailed EXACTLY how I found out, I HAD to tell her!). After that, we told our other good friends at 9 weeks. Family at 13 weeks and work not long after that. We slowly told friends as we saw them after we told work.

We're not FB people so we're not putting anything on FB/IG etc.

[shanwalk]

With DD we told our parents and my sister as soon as we got a positive. I told my boss around 9 weeks bc birth was going to be a scheduling conflict for a big event. We told FB, friends and, coworkers,
and extended family at 13 weeks.

With our second pregnancy I told our parents immediately, and slowly started telling close friends from weeks 7-9. I lost that pregnancy at 9.5 weeks. It was honestly more strange to tell work I needed 5 days off for my d&c when they didn't even know I was pregnant. I am so thankful we didn't tell DD.

With this pregnancy, my parents know and DH's mom knows. My sister knows. His dad and siblings don't bc they couldn't bother to be supportive last time. I told my closest friends after a few good betas. Everyone else will be informed after panorama results come in at 12-13 weeks. I'm not sure we will even do a FB announcement. If so, it will be after 14 weeks.

I'm the most nervous to tell DD. I guess that will happen around 13 weeks bc everyone else will know and talk about it - but it makes me anxious.

[jessnpaul]

I'm telling coworkers today. I'm wearing a shirt that says "Boo!" on it with little feet on my belly. But I'm 13.5 weeks. I wanted to wait for my Panorama test results back before I spread the news.

My family doesn't even know yet though! I kinda feel bad about that, but i haven't seen them. I'll either try to see them this weekend or call them before it hits Facebook, because at this point all my close friends (minus one) already know and now my coworkers too (I'm friends with a lot of them on FB).

[EllenGriswold]

I've already told my mom (I guess she told my dad) and told H we could tell his parents whenever, so we will likely do that soon. As of now we are thinking we will announce to the rest of the family (siblings/extended family) at Christmas as I'll be 13 weeks at that point. I wont tell work until after the new year, and I'm not sure we will do any kind of "official" fb announcement or anything.

At this point I simultaneously want to tell everyone, and also want to tell no one ever, and just show up with a baby one day.

[sophie223]

We are considering telling our family at Thanksgiving, since we are hosting. I will only be 9 weeks at that point, which makes me a little nervous, but I think they're going to know something's up when I'm not drinking, and it's the only time both of our families will be under one roof. I am kind of dreading the "big reveal"--I don't like to be fussed over--so if we can just minimize that to ONE reveal instead of two separate ones for each family, I'll be satisfied.

[dellabear]

That's super cute jessnpaul, I kind of wanted to get one of those skeleton shirts with the baby skeleton on the belly but it's just a little too soon for me.

[azurely]

I told my boss and a few coworkers at 16 weeks and let the news spread.

We announced on Facebook and told the world at 19 weeks, after the anatomy scan.

[KaraOrNot]

We told our parents right away and other family after 12 weeks. I think I told my coworkers and boss a few weeks after that.