I don't know how I would react in such a situation.
What could Emilie have done to make this more palatable for you?
How long would she need to be on her own to make this less salacious?
Do you have a definitive timeline?
What would be an "acceptable" initial living situation?
I don't have answers to these questions. Maybe you do.
I'm not sure there is anything she could have done that wouldn't result in mass ML judgment.
Who gives a shit about any of it? I type here because I can. That's the entire truth. You can't get blood from a stone, and all that.
Why are we all pretending that we just stumbled upon the internet? Stop wasting our time (tongue-in-cheek here; that horse left the barn 10 years ago for me) with this bogus line of questioning. And I don't even mean that, really. Lol. The only expectation I really have is that the reasonable among us will skim over my nonsense and KOKO.
Ok, carry on, all!
I understand this is the Internet.
I save my behavior exceptions for friends, and I do not pretend to be impartial when it comes to people I care about.
You've got me all flustered that I'm ending sentences with prepositions now.
I don't expect you to flame EM. What I said was that you and she would both flame anyone else who did this.
well, I would deny that blanket statement. But regardless, it's ridiculous not to see the difference in how I will understand and treat my real life friend when we're discussing this on the board.
Trust that I have been completely honest with Emilie about my opinions on everything. I have not been a gushy romantic like many of y'all. Lol.
I do see the difference. Which is why I said that I don't expect you to flame her.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
We need a Venn Diagram comparing people who think Em's story is romantic and people who own this movie:
(I am deeply depressed I couldn't find a pic w/ the mummy sign. lol)
H and I watch that movie every Christmas Eve. The viewing got so much better after I read the Jezebel review a few years ago.
I've also never understood why she ran out and kissed him. Is there going to be a sequel where they run off together? Is he going to live decades holding onto hope from that one kiss that he might have a chance? Lol
I've never posted before, but I wanted to add my perspective to this because this is almost exactly what happened with my divorce. I chose to end my marriage (not for someone else but because of issues within the relationship). ExH went from begging me to stay because I was the love of his life, to getting back together with an ex-GF working a couple weeks. She moved into his house with a month or two, engaged after 4 months & married 20 days after the divorce was final. At 2yo that was a lot of changes suddenly for DD. Esp since she was told to call (now) step mom "momma name" from the first couple weeks they were dating. And though I don't believe ExH was cheating on me, it makes you question everything. We all get along well & are civil, but it's been a challenge because of how it unfolded. And although DD doesn't have any memory of us together, she's still grappling with the effects of having two homes, etc. Coming from the perspective of the (now) ExH in this case, I can tell you first hand moving this fast does cause some problems, even if they don't present right away. But I absolutely hope things work out wonderfully in this case.
We need a Venn Diagram comparing people who think Em's story is romantic and people who own this movie:
(I am deeply depressed I couldn't find a pic w/ the mummy sign. lol)
H and I watch that movie every Christmas Eve. The viewing got so much better after I read the Jezebel review a few years ago.
I've also never understood why she ran out and kissed him. Is there going to be a sequel where they run off together? Is he going to live decades holding onto hope from that one kiss that he might have a chance? Lol
No! In the closing scene he comes to the airport with Juliet and Peter to meet Jamie and Aurelia so we can all presume that they moved past it. I mean, duh. Lol.
Who gives a shit about any of it? I type here because I can. That's the entire truth. You can't get blood from a stone, and all that.
Why are we all pretending that we just stumbled upon the internet? Stop wasting our time (tongue-in-cheek here; that horse left the barn 10 years ago for me) with this bogus line of questioning. And I don't even mean that, really. Lol. The only expectation I really have is that the reasonable among us will skim over my nonsense and KOKO.
Ok, carry on, all!
I understand this is the Internet.
I save my behavior exceptions for friends, and I do not pretend to be impartial when it comes to people I care about.
You've got me all flustered that I'm ending sentences with prepositions now.
I certainly don't either, and I've demonstrated that many times on this board. Yet I still don't act all bewildered when other people take a different approach, because that's annoying.
Well.. yeah, but she's my friend, too. I'm defensive in that I think the comments on Facebook were incredibly weird and mean, but I'm not going to pretend I don't kind of get where they came from. I like Emilie and I support her; but I don't think that precludes some gentle prodding about how this all shakes out. And Emilie is neither naive nor stupid -- she knows how these posts go, and she seems to be holding her own pretty well among the trolling.
In the end, it turns out I'm not all about tough love for my friends.
I'm finally caught up! And I'm in the camp with people who say that I very much hope this is a happily ever after, but it also has all the ingredients of a disaster.
The end of a marriage is always an emotionally difficult time. Moving in with a significant other is also emotionally difficult. No matter how well you know someone, when you first move in with them, there are always some tough adjustments you have to make and decisions about whether you're going to accept certain incompatibilities that you discover, or whether those incompatibilities are deal-breakers. I can't imagine going through those two phases at the same time. As well as helping the kids adjust to all this change. I think I would want to take it much slower so that I didn't end up an emotionally-stressed-out basket-case, second-guessing all of my decisions.
In the post-divorce period, my emotions were all over the place, and I absolutely made some decisions that I would not make now. I think it would be worth it to pay the extra $250/month rent to let the dust settle - to let the emotions settle and make sure that they are not driving this decision.
Post by LeggsBenedict on Nov 2, 2015 14:03:45 GMT -5
man, not reading these facebook comments is like missing last week's explosive episode and then trying to talk about this week's boring episode with people who saw both.
EYEROLL. Some of us like it. You can't ruin my fun like you and your compatriots try to do every year over this film. The driver singing Good King Wenceslas is the best and you and other haters can go curl up with Gremlins or something equally cynical this holiday and leave me alone.
EYEROLL. Some of us like it. You can't ruin my fun like you and your compatriots try to do every year over this film. The driver singing Good King Wenceslas is the best and you and other haters can go curl up with Gremlins or something equally cynical this holiday and leave me alone.
man, not reading these facebook comments is like missing last week's explosive episode and then trying to talk about this week's boring episode with people who saw both.
EYEROLL. Some of us like it. You can't ruin my fun like you and your compatriots try to do every year over this film. The driver singing Good King Wenceslas is the best and you and other haters can go curl up with Gremlins or something equally cynical this holiday and leave me alone.
LEAVE ME ALONE
/Disney cry
No.
NO!
We cannot be at odds on this!
cville! My love! Say it ain't so!
I also sometimes watch terrible Lifetime movies where people magically get trapped in snow globes and shit and decide after temporarily living an alternative life to chuck city living for that hunky lumberjack in small town New Hampshire. I DO.
I don't expect you to flame EM. What I said was that you and she would both flame anyone else who did this.
well, I would deny that blanket statement. But regardless, it's ridiculous not to see the difference in how I will understand and treat my real life friend when we're discussing this on the board.
Trust that I have been completely honest with Emilie about my opinions on everything. I have not been a gushy romantic like many of y'all. Lol.
This went through my mind a few times. LOL. How lame am I?
I was like... "I am sure Toledo spoke to her at length about all of this foolishness and if she approves I am guessing everything is just fine. Rushed, but fine."
I also sometimes watch terrible Lifetime movies where people magically get trapped in snow globes and shit and decide after temporarily living an alternative life to chuck city living for that hunky lumberjack in small town New Hampshire. I DO.
This is going to have to be the one thing about which we disagree. LOL. (heart)
H and I watch that movie every Christmas Eve. The viewing got so much better after I read the Jezebel review a few years ago.
I've also never understood why she ran out and kissed him. Is there going to be a sequel where they run off together? Is he going to live decades holding onto hope from that one kiss that he might have a chance? Lol
lol
We own the movie. That scene bugs me though! Which I guess means I should evaluate myself in this thread.
I hate that whole storyline. Him confessing his love for her is just so damn selfish. If I could cut those parts out of the movie I'd enjoy it a lot more.
EYEROLL. Some of us like it. You can't ruin my fun like you and your compatriots try to do every year over this film. The driver singing Good King Wenceslas is the best and you and other haters can go curl up with Gremlins or something equally cynical this holiday and leave me alone.
LEAVE ME ALONE
/Disney cry
Oh whatever. It's SO SHITTY of that guy to ruin the friendship and that girls Christmas just because he couldn't deal with his unrequited crush. Lol. And gremlins is a GREAT MOVIE.
Oh whatever. It's SO SHITTY of that guy to ruin the friendship and that girls Christmas just because he couldn't deal with his unrequited crush. Lol. And gremlins is a GREAT MOVIE.
I hate that whole storyline. Him confessing his love for her is just so damn selfish. If I could cut those parts out of the movie I'd enjoy it a lot more.
I also sometimes watch terrible Lifetime movies where people magically get trapped in snow globes and shit and decide after temporarily living an alternative life to chuck city living for that hunky lumberjack in small town New Hampshire. I DO.
I hate that whole storyline. Him confessing his love for her is just so damn selfish. If I could cut those parts out of the movie I'd enjoy it a lot more.
I am SO READY to cry at the end of Home Alone again this year. When Kevin won't walk to his mom and she chokes up while apologizing for leaving him to die at home...
I hate that whole storyline. Him confessing his love for her is just so damn selfish. If I could cut those parts out of the movie I'd enjoy it a lot more.
Is this about the movie or this thread?
To be fair, if he had waited until they were divorcing to reveal his true feelings, I'd probably be less annoyed by those scenes. Still, timing.
I am SO READY to cry at the end of Home Alone again this year. When Kevin won't walk to his mom and she chokes up while apologizing for leaving him to die at home...
The scenes after that line are always blurry.
oh hush.
we know the only crying you do is from laughter.
Not true, my brand new archenemy and person I wish to throttle.
I've confessed to being a total softie MULTIPLE times. In any case, I would never lie about Home Alone, or any movie starring Sinbad. Those are my lines.