It's going to be a long 9 months

[sophie223]

This is a list of everything so far that I've consumed as my incredulous husband gasped at me and said "Can you have that? Are you sure?"

-mushrooms
-half-caf coffee
-a bratwurst
-1 oz of apple cider
-pasteurized blue cheese
-pasteurized goat cheese
-prosciutto, cooked on a pizza
-an avocado
-San Pellegrino

It hasn't even been two full weeks yet. I've got a long road ahead of me.

Do your H's do this, too, or is mine just overly neurotic? 

[dellabear]

No he pays no attention, thankfully. I don't even want to ask what's supposed to be wrong with half those things. I would remind him that the body craves what it needs and if that didn't work I would pregnant mood swing all over his ass.

[cactuscookie]

Ha, that sounds fun, sophie223! My husband thankfully pretty much lets me do what I want, because I'm very loose with all the restrictions. He mostly trusts that I've done the research and he hasn't, so I know what I'm doing.

We did have a little tiff over tuna though. That's the one restriction I've been pretty solid with, since it does actually have a documented effect. But I had a can of tuna from Whole Foods that claimed to be low mercury and high omega-3, so I figured it would be fine. His response was, "Can't you follow at least one of the rules?" Ha. I didn't eat the tuna. (Which is kind of funny, because I'm pretty sure the "official" rule with tuna is that you can have a limited amount, but I haven't had any. Unlike, say, alcohol, which I have a limited amount of regularly.)

[sophie223]

omg cactuscookie, I took a SIP of H's beer last weekend and he shook his head at me and sighed like he was sooo disappointed.

The day we found out I was pg, we spent the night at my MIL's house. When I woke up the next morning and walked into the kitchen, she said, "Hey! There's some juice in the fridge. Mr. Sophie told me you don't drink coffee in the mornings." After spending an 8-hour day with my MIL--SOBER--the day before, I wanted to murder him. lol.

[EllenGriswold]

Yikes! I honestly would be pretty mad, I feel like there is a fine line between neurotic but well-meaning, and overbearing and patronizing and he has probably crossed it a few times. Hopefully he is just nervous and this tapers off after a while.

[callmehales]

Mine won't let me carry anything over 5 lbs. It's hilarious.

[ivy]

Aww, he sounds well meaning. There's so little dads can do in pregnancy, maybe this is how he's trying to participate? Either way, I'd be pretty annoyed if I felt like I was educated and making the right choices. Maybe hearing more about food restrictions from a dr at your next appointment would calm him down?

[ivy]

Nov 6, 2015 16:18:51 GMT -5 callmehales said:

Mine won't let me carry anything over 5 lbs. It's hilarious.

There was a point in early pregnancy that my H wouldn't let me do anything (in a very sweet way). He even apologized when I did the dishes one day. Those days are looong gone now, haha. 

[callmehales]

Nov 6, 2015 16:25:58 GMT -5 ivy said:

Nov 6, 2015 16:18:51 GMT -5 callmehales said:

Mine won't let me carry anything over 5 lbs. It's hilarious.

There was a point in early pregnancy that my H wouldn't let me do anything (in a very sweet way). He even apologized when I did the dishes one day. Those days are looong gone now, haha. 

Oh I'm milking it for all its worth!!  I get the grocery bags with like...toilet paper and bread.

[sophie223]

He's usually laughing when he says this stuff, so he's not being a jerk about it or anything. But sometimes he makes me second-guess myself, like, "Oh man, CAN I have this apple cider?" And then I smack myself and think, "It's ONE OUNCE of apple cider! Of course I can!"

It took us a long time to get here, relatively speaking, so I think he's just being cautious. It is, however, annoying. Especially because, if roles were reversed, I don't think he would be able to give up anything--especially coffee and bourbon--for 9 months!

[jessnpaul]

My husband is wise enough to keep his thoughts to himself if he wants to live ;-)

[cactuscookie]

Make him read Expecting Better - it's all about the research that goes into the various pregnancy restrictions. It made me comfortable doing...pretty much everything (except eating tuna and binge drinking).

Also, some of those things aren't even restrictions! What the heck is wrong with mushrooms, avocado, and mineral water?! He's expecting you to give up things that are actually good for you!

[loira]

Mine doesn't care at all what I consume. In fact, he encourages me to drink my NHS approved weekly glass of wine (though I didn't for the first 17 weeks because of nausea). He's more concerned with me lifting things or overexerting myself. I'm fussier now about what I eat since I moved back to Canada. There seem to be more outbreaks of listeria and salmonella here than in the UK.

[sophie223]

Nov 6, 2015 17:01:45 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Make him read Expecting Better - it's all about the research that goes into the various pregnancy restrictions. It made me comfortable doing...pretty much everything (except eating tuna and binge drinking).

Also, some of those things aren't even restrictions! What the heck is wrong with mushrooms, avocado, and mineral water?! He's expecting you to give up things that are actually good for you!

In his defense, "can you have that?" was a genuine question in those instances. He is totally clueless. I'll definitely reserve that book at the library--thanks for the suggestion! 

[boiler717]

I feel that I have enough of an invasion in my body with sharing it with another person I would seriously flip my shit if my husband tried to micromanage my food or other habits.
When you have an out of utero kid I think it's important to trust your spouse to parent and not micromanage him or her. That trust should also extend while pregnant.

[G22]

No my H rarely said anything about restrictions to me. I doubt he knows about most of the restrictions anyways. The only thing he was really watchful of was how much I lifted. He even offered to let me have sips of his wine or beer along the way, but I always passed because it never sounded good.

[sophie223]

So, I set him straight this weekend. So much so that he brought me coffee in bed yesterday. Granted, it was a very SMALL cup of coffee, but still...victory.