We didn't use any birth control after ds1 was born so technically we started right away. But my periods didn't come back until 14 months (due to breastfeeding) and then I got pregnant when ds1 was 18months iirc. The kids are 2 years and a couple months apart and it's a great spacing for us.
Lol, I also wanted a #2 like still in the hospital. That feeling went away for awhile, but DD is now 16 months and I want to try and conceive ASAP, but my cycles haven't returned yet and we are not ready to wean.
I would prefer a larger age gap, but since we had TTTC and I'm already 38, if we decide to go for #2, we'll probably start TTC when DS is around 13 or 14 months. DS is not an easy baby though, so I'm nervous to go for a second.
I wasn't ready at all until dd was 11 months. We started trying then but I was still breastfeeding 4-8 times a day until she was 17 months. I got pregnant the first month I cut the feeding a down to one a day.
She will be 2y2m when baby is born and I'm happy with that gap. It took us 18 months and 4 Iuis to get pregnant with her so I was surprised this time was so easy.
11 months. I wanted to wait until DS was 1, DH had been nagging for months. I gave in assuming it would take a few cycles, but that didn't happen. They are 20 months apart.
6 months is a little insane. I wish we could have started when he was around 9 months old. We couldn't for a number of reasons. We're looking at probably starting around when he turns 3, so in a little over a year.
It's irrational, I suppose, but I kind of feel Bad for first kids whose parents choose to TTC early (which to me is arbitrary, like one year). I feel like it's not fair to that first kid. I know this will piss off some people.
Post by ilikedonuts on Nov 6, 2015 20:54:59 GMT -5
I was thinking about it too right away, but we had a vacation planned for when DD1 was 11 months old so we started on vacation. I would have immediately started TTC a 3rd if DH would have been on board. Still working on him though and DD2 just turned 2
A little over a year... but we had a rough first 2.5 years for prematurity/health issues/surgeries so i would have liked to wait longer but knew my age was a big factor. Took 2 full years for #2 and only a couple months to conceive #1.
It's irrational, I suppose, but I kind of feel Bad for first kids whose parents choose to TTC early (which to me is arbitrary, like one year). I feel like it's not fair to that first kid. I know this will piss off some people.
I know what you mean because I felt like I wanted dd to have her moment in the sun or whatever before there was a new kid in town. If I were 5 years younger and had not had tttc, I would have waited a few more years but such is life. I do understand what you are saying though.
It's irrational, I suppose, but I kind of feel Bad for first kids whose parents choose to TTC early (which to me is arbitrary, like one year). I feel like it's not fair to that first kid. I know this will piss off some people.
Its not fair that they would get a sibling so soon? I mean either way the 2nd kid never even get to be an only child so I'm not sure what it really takes away from the first.
It's irrational, I suppose, but I kind of feel Bad for first kids whose parents choose to TTC early (which to me is arbitrary, like one year). I feel like it's not fair to that first kid. I know this will piss off some people.
I know what you mean because I felt like I wanted dd to have her moment in the sun or whatever before there was a new kid in town. If I were 5 years younger and had not had tttc, I would have waited a few more years but such is life. I do understand what you are saying though.
And I was rattling off my thoughts quickly, but yes, exceptions for health and age concerns. But I cannot relate to chosen super-close spacing otherwise.
I think we waited (& I use that term loosely) until DD1 was like 6-7mo old.
I wanted 2 close together, then a big gap, then 2 more. It was my plan we were sticking to though I didn't feel "ready" so I wasn't dying to get pg quickly again. Unfortunately my plan did not work out anyway. It took almost a year to conceive again...I really was starting to think I may not be able to have any more children because it took so long. But it finally happened a couple months before DD1 turned 2. Then I accidentally got pg with DD3 at the same spacing. So much for my "plan". Lol
It took us 18 months to get pregnant with DD. We got pregnant the first month with DS. Just something to think about. Our babies are like a day apart and I was talking to my husband tonight about baby #3, but in a year from now.
It's irrational, I suppose, but I kind of feel Bad for first kids whose parents choose to TTC early (which to me is arbitrary, like one year). I feel like it's not fair to that first kid. I know this will piss off some people.
I feel bad for DD3 because she doesn't have a sibling 2yrs younger (like DD1 & 2 do) AND I feel bad for DD4 because her nearest sibling is 4yrs older AND she never gets to have a baby sibling to dote on. It sucked for me but my girls (especially the oldest 2) are so close and such best friends. But....I can't keep on having kids. Someone has to be the youngest. Lol.
DD and DS1 are 18 months apart. DD was such an easy baby, I was at home, we figured, let's do this. We knew a third was going to happen but thought we'd wait a bit longer. DS1 and DS2 are just 19 months apart. So three babies in 37 months.
It was crazy but now that the oldest is in kindergarten and the baby is two, it's pretty great. Wouldn't want to do it again but glad we did it.