Choosing to not date

[whatnext]

I know a few of you have done this on and off for various reasons but I feel like I need to justify it with myself!

I never seem to get too many hits or many dates and I think it's because guys can tell I don't care, so why waste their time. And I don't care about finding someone at the moment. Dating stresses me and can affect my self esteem so I've deleted all dating apps etc.

Tell me this is normal!

[Deleted]

Totally normal. I typically would try dating for a month or two then take an extended break. The longest one was almost a year. I've been divorced for over 5 years and only about six months ago did I truly feel ready and open to dating someone. If this guy doesn't work out I probably would take another extended break.

[bl]

Totally normal. I always tell myself that when dating is no longer fun I will take a break. I don't take long breaks usually a month or two, but no reason why you couldn't go longer. Do whatever feels right for you.

[cuddlyevil]

Totally normal. If it's not fun or becomes too much of an stressor I take a break from online dating and just be.

[MyName]

Normal!! I'm one of the non-daters. I just have no motivation at the moment, so when I'm ready or get bored or something, I'll actually put in some effort. Probably. Maybe.

[stephreloaded]

I go on very long periods when I just don't want to date. I do have to admit that some of those have been very very long. Right now I am not interested in seeing anyone or making an effort. I'm sure I will change my mind at some point.

[1confused1]

Dittoing everyone, totally normal. I've had 2 relationships in the almost 4 years since I separated from xh and am now in a place where I'm not interested. I might be at some point, but I'm enjoying being single and spending time with my kids, friends and family.

[jigsy]

I'm not not dating...but I'm not actively seeking out dates. If I meet someone and they ask me out, I won't say no. I just don't care for online dating.

[glitzyglow]

Normal. I've deleted the online dating apps far more times than I can count and then go back when I'm ready.

[alleinesein]

For me its not a choice of whether or not I want to date. Its really hard to date when no one wants to date you! I get forced into non-dating because there isn't anyone to date. It's the same guys online for the past 2 years so the options are very limited.

[somersault72]

It took me a long time after my divorce to feel ready to date. Even once I was ready I took breaks every so often. I would get discouraged, and so I focused on what was going well in my life at the time. Then after awhile I'd try again.

[abcdefu]

Totally normal, I hope, since I am in the same boat! I actually went on more dates while my divorce was pending than after it was final. I'm just so blah about dating. If someone asked me out, I would go if I was interested, but there is no way I'm seeking it.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Having 24/7 custody w no free family to babysit forces me into no date mode. It's not that I don't want to date, it's cost prohibitive (@ $10+\hr for a sitter) for me to date. Exceptions can and will be made but he BETTER be worth it ! So until then there's lots of texting lol

[achase123]

Nov 11, 2015 16:27:58 GMT -5 jigsy said:

I'm not not dating...but I'm not actively seeking out dates. If I meet someone and they ask me out, I won't say no. I just don't care for online dating.

This.  I got out of a pretty LTR about 1.5 months ago.  Dating isn't something that's at all on my priority list right now.  I'm buried in work (which is great) and studying for the series 9/10.  Other than that just spending time with P and the roomie and her son.  And house hunting!