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[jojoandleo]

PDQ-will delete-sensitive info here.

TL/DR-my friend is legit being stalked and I am freaked the fuck out. She isn't doing anything. Is there anything I can do?

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Thanks guys.  She texted back and of COURSE had not contacted her cop friend but promised to do it today.  I sent her some of glitzyglow's links (Thank you!) and am just going to harass her until she does something.  I told her I would go with her to get a PO, and I will offer to go with her to the police station.  Thanks for the advice.

[glitzyglow]

I would think that she would have to be the one to file and I don't think the police would come out to talk to her about her situation unless she called herself. Maybe text her some links about stalking and see if that helps her see that she is, indeed, being stalked and needs to immediately report him.

1is2many.okstate.edu/stalking
www.victimsofcrime.org/our-programs/stalking-resource-center
www.victimsofcrime.org/our-programs/stalking-resource-center/stalking-information

[stephreloaded]

I was stalked by my psycho boyfriend and what started being all innocent, ended up with him threatening me. I was young and naive and it took me a long while to go to the police. I hope she doesn't wait too long do do something about it before this escalates further.

[bl]

Wow, that definitely sounds like a scary situation. Can you call her and have an actual conversation tonight about why you are scared for her and its better to be safe than sorry. This guy does not sound stable and why wait until he actually does something (more) to at least have some record of it. I wouldn't think they will come out if she doesn't request it unfortunately.

[prettyinpearls]

Could you offer to go with her to make a police report or be there when she calls it in? This is a very serious situation and she can't wait until something worse happens before taking action. I'm scared FOR her! Please let us know what happens.

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That is SO scary. And how frustrating that she is just putting her head in the sand about this. Unfortunately there really isn't anything you can do. Maybe Bob can talk some sense into her? Because honestly I wonder how long he would stick around with her refusual to do anything about the situation. Also I wouldn't recommend blocking his number. That is some good evidence to get a restraining order honestly. I might set up a rule so his calls didn't ring or something. But I'm pretty sure blocking him isn't helping and he's totally escalating, but she doens't see it you know?

[jojoandleo]

@pdx18-I think I pretty much just guaranteed she will stop talking about this with me. I told her to call the non-emergency police to make a report as she apparently doesn't even have the phone number of this alleged "cop friend." And she told me she is fine and is always with Bob now if not at work and he's just annoying, but not dangerous! So, I sent her a bunch of statistics and was all "I bet you never thought he was capable of being a stalker before all this happened too, so, you have no way to know he isn't violent" and she just said "ok." I have to back away now. She will do what she wants and all I can do is be here for her when shit gets bad.

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jojoandleo that reall sucks. I'm so so sorry. I think you've done all you can.