Tuesday Randoms

[glitzyglow]

Good morning! I am sitting in my car in my work parking lot. Maintenance needed my keys this weekend and forgot to bring them this morning, so they had to go get them back at their offices. The positive is that I heard Chris Stapleton live on the radio...love his voice.

I feel really good today and that makes me nervous that something will happen to take this feeling away. Anxiety sucks. I just keep trying to focus on the right now instead instead of worrying about what could go wrong.

[Deleted]

Good morning. It's my birthday!! Getting older is getting weirder as time goes on! LOL Birthdays used to be all crazy and exciting and now I'm like, wait, how old am I? Holy crap..entering mid 30's..me??? I don't feel that "old". (I know I'm not old, but KWIM?)
Anyway, I'm off so I'm spending day with my mom who's acting wacky lately. Then J and I will grab dinner later.

[bg]

My relationship crashed and burned last night based on a ridiculous turn of events so I'm kind of in survival mode today. We're supposed to do a 'closure' couples counseling session today. I'm trying to figure out if I need time to wallow or if I should force myself out into the world.

Happy birthday @blueyes623!

[jigsy]

Happy birthday @blueyes623!

bg - I am sorry, but you can do this. If you need to wallow, wallow. The world will be there tomorrow. Just do what feels right. It sounds like this may be a good thing overall, but it is also okay to mourn everything. It is okay to still be sad.

I was going to work three days this week, then yesterday, I decided I didn't want to, so I am taking tomorrow off as well. 5 full days of freedom!!! I'm going to go watch the Hunger Games tomorrow with Vegas, have a lovely thanksgiving with mp, and enjoy the other 3 days doing whatever the heck I want. I love long weekends.

I while I love my family, and I do miss them, it is kind of nice not having the obligation. Traveling and all that is just so exhausting. I think I am also going to bug out for Christmas, but I'll see how I feel as it gets closer. I think my family will be mostly sad because it will mark the 1 year anniversary of my Dad's passing...and I just don't know that I want to feel like that. I still miss him terribly, but I have tried to not dwell on the sadness and instead focus on the good memories. I think I just cope better like that. <---Random family thoughts brought to you by the holidays.

[1confused1]

Happy birthday blueyes!

I meet with xh's therapist today. I'll update later for those interested.

[idahome]

Today is a random Qdoba day at work...yay for queso!

I'm making a list of my work plans for the rest of this week. Rumor has it the office will be pretty quiet so I'm thinking it will be the perfect time to get a few projects marked off my list.

I'm looking forward to rearranging my place this weekend. Time to purge and organize on a big scale. I think I'll also put up my holiday decorations. I need some pretty multi-colored lights in my life.

[stephreloaded]

Nov 24, 2015 10:27:44 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Good morning. It's my birthday!! Getting older is getting weirder as time goes on! LOL Birthdays used to be all crazy and exciting and now I'm like, wait, how old am I? Holy crap..entering mid 30's..me??? I don't feel that "old". (I know I'm not old, but KWIM?)
Anyway, I'm off so I'm spending day with my mom who's acting wacky lately. Then J and I will grab dinner later.

Feliz Cumpleaños!!

[stephreloaded]

Remember the guy who told me last year that I needed to lose weight if I wanted to date him? He called me last week to see how I was.

I didn't know who he was at first because I got a call from a number I didn't know. Then he just said, oh well, I don't remember you that much either lol. I just didn't even know what to say so I just said, I was busy and couldn't talk. He then asked me to unblock his phone number so we could keep talking lol. You barely remember me but do remember that I blocked you?

[Eureka1984]

Happy birthday Blueeyes!!

I'm hating dating at the moment. I've been seeing. This guy for more than 5 dates and we've been doing pretty well. Then last night he asked me to hang out and also said I could stay over. Well later that night he passed out on the couch and so I was like let's go to the bedroom. He was like I think you should leave. I was stunned. I told him it was not okay to treat me like shit but ultimately I just left. He hasn't contacted me today not that I think he would but sometimes I wish guys would just be more upfront with their feelings or. Lack there of

[glitzyglow]

Eureka1984, he told you to leave when you offered to go the bedroom?

[jojoandleo]

So, my little brother got married two years ago. Then was deployed ten months, and when he came back, he was already separated. She was crazy. He only saw her once since being back to get his stuff from their place. So, they have pretty much been separated a while and the divorce is almost finalized.

Anyway, I guess he is now dating someone new. Probably too early to be seriously dating, but he is 24. Plus, he hasn't seen his wife in over year. Finally, if I have learned ANYTHING from this board-it's that people are going to do what they want no matter what anyone says.

Well, my sister, who is getting married for the THIRD TIME in December AND who started dating her second husband before she even separated from her first, was all, "It's too early for him to date." My family never says anything to this sister because she is the type to cling to her man's family and ditch us, but I am tired of that. So, I just said, "Oh, hi pot!" She went off on me. And completely revised her history. Suddenly claiming she was single for two years after her last divorce. Which is not true. AT ALL!

Oh family.

[glitzyglow]

Happy birthday @blueyes623!

[Eureka1984]

Nov 24, 2015 14:22:26 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

Eureka1984, he told you to leave when you offered to go the bedroom?

Yes. And we've 'Netflix and chilled' a few times. So I was stunned and he was like I'm really exhausted and I'm going to bed and you need to leave.

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Nov 24, 2015 14:27:09 GMT -5 Eureka1984 said:

Nov 24, 2015 14:22:26 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

Eureka1984 , he told you to leave when you offered to go the bedroom?

Yes. And we've 'Netflix and chilled' a few times. So I was stunned and he was like I'm really exhausted and I'm going to bed and you need to leave.

He's the one that invited you to stay the night.  How weird and, as you pointed out, rude.

[glitzyglow]

Nov 24, 2015 14:27:09 GMT -5 Eureka1984 said:

Nov 24, 2015 14:22:26 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

Eureka1984, he told you to leave when you offered to go the bedroom?

Yes. And we've 'Netflix and chilled' a few times. So I was stunned and he was like I'm really exhausted and I'm going to bed and you need to leave.

How odd. A guy invited me over once and then suggested we lay down and I didn't think we'd do actual sleeping, but he passed out with full blown snoring. I just got up and left.

[abcdefu]

Happy birthday @blueeyes623!!!

I am dragging this afternoon! I'm trying to decide if it's too late for coffee!

My landlord sent me a text message that he is putting our duplex up for sale. Life is just so hilarious sometimes. Like sure I really want to move/ look for a new apartment between working full time and two surgeries! I keep telling. Myself that next year will be better but that never seems to happen! Ughhhh and sigh!

[Deleted]

Nov 24, 2015 10:46:35 GMT -5 bg said:

My relationship crashed and burned last night based on a ridiculous turn of events so I'm kind of in survival mode today. We're supposed to do a 'closure' couples counseling session today. I'm trying to figure out if I need time to wallow or if I should force myself out into the world.

Happy birthday @blueyes623!

((bg)) I'm sorry. I liked the post because you wished me a happy bday. Definitely not the rest.

[Eureka1984]

Nov 24, 2015 15:01:24 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

Nov 24, 2015 14:27:09 GMT -5 Eureka1984 said:

Yes. And we've 'Netflix and chilled' a few times. So I was stunned and he was like I'm really exhausted and I'm going to bed and you need to leave.

How odd. A guy invited me over once and then suggested we lay down and I didn't think we'd do actual sleeping, but he passed out with full blown snoring. I just got up and left.

I don't get it either. It sucked. And I was starting to like him. He is in the military but seriously that had no bearing on us talking.

[glitzyglow]

Nov 24, 2015 16:27:37 GMT -5 Eureka1984 said:

Nov 24, 2015 15:01:24 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

How odd. A guy invited me over once and then suggested we lay down and I didn't think we'd do actual sleeping, but he passed out with full blown snoring. I just got up and left.

I don't get it either. It sucked. And I was starting to like him. He is in the military but seriously that had no bearing on us talking.

I get it. Rejection is the worst and it sounds like he wasn't very sensitive, either. Hugs to you! Dating is hard.

[Deleted]

Nov 24, 2015 15:29:05 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Happy birthday @blueeyes623!!!

I am dragging this afternoon! I'm trying to decide if it's too late for coffee!

My landlord sent me a text message that he is putting our duplex up for sale. Life is just so hilarious sometimes. Like sure I really want to move/ look for a new apartment between working full time and two surgeries! I keep telling. Myself that next year will be better but that never seems to happen! Ughhhh and sigh!

Shit, I'm sorry.  Maybe this will give you an opportunity to live somewhere else or explore different options.  I know it sucks. We've lived in our apt a bit over one year and maybe 6-8 months in, the LL told me he'd be putting the house up for sale.  So back around March/April we started looking at condos and by the summer we decided it'd be best to relocate altogether.  The house is still not actually on the market, but whatever...we don't want any surprises and def don't want to be showing the place.  
What I'm trying to say is that maybe this will bring you to a new chapter.  Things have to get better for you!!! I demand it! 

[Deleted]

Eureka1984, seriously wtf is wrong with that dude? Are you going to speak to him about his odd/rude behavior?

[Eureka1984]

Nov 24, 2015 16:48:15 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Eureka1984, seriously wtf is wrong with that dude? Are you going to speak to him about his odd/rude behavior?

Thank you. I told him as I was leaving how upset I was by his behavior. I want to text him and let him know that he sucks but I can't bring myself to do it.

Rejection sucks! I'm feeling pretty hurt.

[sweetchix]

We are on our way to Charlotte. My dad is already pissy because Tim Hortons was slow and put too much creamer in his coffee. He came out with his teeth all clenched and then gave me the one mug and walked back in. Oh, this should be a great drive!

We're stopping at Chic-Fil-A in Erie on the way. I'm so excited! It is the closest one to us so I only eat there during this trip.

[alleinesein]

I got officially dumped last night. My relationship with FWB slowly developed into a real relationship in the past few months but his new job has now fucked everything up. He can't handle a long distance relationship because of his own issues and therefore I'm getting screwed. He claims that if he wasn't moving to Portland that we would still be fine and our relationship would still continue.  Whatever!  If he really thought that there was something between us he would be willing to give it a try but obviously I am not good enough to devote any energy to.  

[Deleted]

Nov 24, 2015 19:09:36 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

We are on our way to Charlotte. My dad is already pissy because Tim Hortons was slow and put too much creamer in his coffee. He came out with his teeth all clenched and then gave me the one mug and walked back in. Oh, this should be a great drive!

We're stopping at Chic-Fil-A in Erie on the way. I'm so excited! It is the closest one to us so I only eat there during this trip.

Have a safe trip!!!

[Eureka1984]

Nov 24, 2015 19:51:13 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

I got officially dumped last night. My relationship with FWB slowly developed into a real relationship in the past few months but his new job has now fucked everything up. He can't handle a long distance relationship because of his own issues and therefore I'm getting screwed. He claims that if he wasn't moving to Portland that we would still be fine and our relationship would still continue.  Whatever!  If he really thought that there was something between us he would be willing to give it a try but obviously I am not good enough to devote any energy to.  

I'm so sorry. Sending hugs and hair pats

[MyName]

Happy birthday, @blueyes623! I'm turning 35 on Sunday, so I feel you.

I was going to drive to my parents' house in CT tonight, but I decided to stay here tonight and leave at the crack of dawn instead. So I made bread dough and cornbread for one of the stuffings (I already made pie crusts and toffee), and now I'm drinking a beer and watching TV. Tomorrow I'll leave at 6am, drive straight to Stop & Shop up there, hopefully get out unscathed, and start the rest of my cooking. I love Thanksgiving!

[starburst604]

Happy Birthday @blueeyes623! Hope it's fabulous.

I'm turning 40 in a few weeks and my H has been planning something. He's about as slick as sandpaper with surprises though. First tells me he needs to tell me what he bought me because I'll see it on the cc bill. Noooo he just WANTS to tell me because he's excited! So I told him no, I won't look at the bill and he should keep it a surprise. He keeps saying I'm going to be so excited on my bday. Then tonight he went out to his car and then into the kitchen to his laptop. Told me I couldn't come in there for a half hour. Ooookkkkk. I really don't know what he's bought or planned but I wish he'd stop talking about it and let me be a little surprised!

I do feel bad because he turned 40 last month and I totally phoned it in. Didn't even think about what to get for a gift till 2 days before. Ordered him Ray Bans that didn't arrive in time, and got a cake and card. I'm usually very thoughtful with stuff but I'm so damn busy now. He loved the gift though. He knows I'm a big birthday person and he really isn't so he's easy to please. I think being the youngest of 4 made him set the bar low for these things lol.

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Nov 24, 2015 21:30:40 GMT -5 MyName said:

Happy birthday, @blueyes623! I'm turning 35 on Sunday, so I feel you.

I was going to drive to my parents' house in CT tonight, but I decided to stay here tonight and leave at the crack of dawn instead. So I made bread dough and cornbread for one of the stuffings (I already made pie crusts and toffee), and now I'm drinking a beer and watching TV. Tomorrow I'll leave at 6am, drive straight to Stop & Shop up there, hopefully get out unscathed, and start the rest of my cooking. I love Thanksgiving!

I didn't t realize that you're a fellow sag!! Happy (early) Birthday.

[abcdefu]

Nov 24, 2015 16:46:20 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Nov 24, 2015 15:29:05 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Happy birthday @blueeyes623!!!

I am dragging this afternoon! I'm trying to decide if it's too late for coffee!

My landlord sent me a text message that he is putting our duplex up for sale. Life is just so hilarious sometimes. Like sure I really want to move/ look for a new apartment between working full time and two surgeries! I keep telling. Myself that next year will be better but that never seems to happen! Ughhhh and sigh!

Shit, I'm sorry.  Maybe this will give you an opportunity to live somewhere else or explore different options.  I know it sucks. We've lived in our apt a bit over one year and maybe 6-8 months in, the LL told me he'd be putting the house up for sale.  So back around March/April we started looking at condos and by the summer we decided it'd be best to relocate altogether.  The house is still not actually on the market, but whatever...we don't want any surprises and def don't want to be showing the place.  
What I'm trying to say is that maybe this will bring you to a new chapter.  Things have to get better for you!!! I demand it! 

Yesss!! I am hoping this is just an opportunity for me to relocate! I have been trying to move for a while now. I go back and forth on moving to Florida or Virginia, where I can get a job in DC and take the train. Plus I have two really close friends that live in VA.  I just feel like I am being tested. It just seems like it is one thing after another. Like you said, I kinda want to beat the LL to the punch. I don't want to be forced out on his terms. I want to have a plan in place.