Wednesday Pre-Turkey Day Randoms

[glitzyglow]

Good morning! Hope everyone is safe during their travels!

The Ghoster I went out with last year and have been out with 2x this past week came over last night for a very late hook-up. I have no idea what this is or may/may not become, but I am just having fun and enjoying this for whatever it is in the moment.

I'm running a 5k on Thanksgiving! I'm oddly really looking forward to it.

[sweetchix]

We made it! The drive was perfect! Great weather all the way down and my dad only almost fell asleep once (kidding- that part was not great). We did stop around 4 to rest for about an hour. The DVD players stopped working after I turned them off when DDs fell asleep, grumble, grumble... Now I'm sure my dad will go take a nap, but I'll be up through tonight, which means I'll be up for like 36 hours (aside from a short 20 minute "rest").

[Eureka1984]

Safe travels to those traveling!

Good Luck @glitzy for your run tomorrow!

Today I am going to dye my hair darker and add purple highlights to it. I've been saying I was going to do this for a while and I haven't so I'm taking the plunge today and doing it. (Pics will follow)

Tomorrow, I am spending the day with family and on Black Friday I am not shopping early but my bestfriend and I are going to one of the those paint and drink wine classes and I am going to do a holiday scene with lights being put in the back of it! I am excited for that!!

[cuddlyevil]

I need to hit the store after work. I may need reinforcements.

[GilliC]

It was 18° on Monday, and it heated up to almost 40 yesterday. The freezing point hit on Tuesday morning while it was raining, and almost every road in the city was completely covered in ice. During rush-hour alone, over 250 people went to the hospital after falling on the ice.

I foolishly ran for a bus because the sidewalk outside the station is heated and ice-free. Unfortunately, there was construction in one area, and foot traffic is redirected onto what turns out to be an unheated portion. I put one foot on the ice, fell flat on the ground, and kept sliding for another yard!

Luckily I'm not too bruised, but I over-tensed my shoulder as I fell, and it still hurts when I raise my arm.

[1confused1]

I lost it last night. I got an email from xh's therapist and she said he's sorry for everything and is going to pay all the money owed to me.

After 4 years of a nightmare divorce and all he put me through, he doesn't get to just say he's sorry and expect everything to be ok.

As far as the money, I have no idea where he's getting it from. He hasn't had a job in over 3 years.

[doriswe]

1confused1, how did it go with the therapist yesterday?

[doglove]

Nov 25, 2015 10:55:07 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

I lost it last night. I got an email from xh's therapist and she said he's sorry for everything and is going to pay all the money owed to me.

After 4 years of a nightmare divorce and all he put me through, he doesn't get to just say he's sorry and expect everything to be ok.

As far as the money, I have no idea where he's getting it from. He hasn't had a job in over 3 years.

That is incredibly frustrating and infuriating! 

[1confused1]

Nov 25, 2015 11:01:22 GMT -5 doriswe said:

1confused1 , how did it go with the therapist yesterday?

Thanks for asking.  It actually went very well, I basically just told her the history of him and I and some of the stuff his family has been through.  He has been surprisingly honest with her but I helped fill in with some information he left out.

She asked if I would consider removing the RO, he claims he can't get a job because of it.  I told her no, I don't trust him and that the RO is in place to protect me.  I told her he should consider looking for different jobs, perhaps starting at the bottom again since he has been out of the work force since 2012.

I also told her I don't consider him a parent, he is a guy who my kids have a lot of fun with every other weekend, but he has never taken on any parental responsibilities (homework, discipline, hygiene, etc.) .

We also went over in detail how much money he owes me.

She asked me if he made a complete turn around, would I consider getting back together with him.  I said absolutely not, I do not have any feelings for him except being sympathetic for the situation he has put himself in.  :^)

And, see my post above, they obviously met yesterday (which I didn't know was going to happen), a simple "I'm sorry" isn't going to undo all he has done to my kids and I.

[1confused1]

Thanks doglove It just goes to show me, he doesn't know or acknowledge what he has done.

[1confused1]

Nov 25, 2015 8:42:54 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

I need to hit the store after work. I may need reinforcements.

I've been every day this week (poor planning on my part!) and every day has been crowded.  Good luck!

[doriswe]

Whuuuttt? 1confused1...that sounds like a really odd conversation, well the "would you get back with him" part. Where in the hell is that coming from?

[1confused1]

Nov 25, 2015 12:40:15 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Whuuuttt? 1confused1...that sounds like a really odd conversation, well the "would you get back with him" part. Where in the hell is that coming from?

She told me he still has very strong feelings for me. I said, I understand because he has never accepted the fact that we are divorced.

He clearly has many, many issues to work through.

[doriswe]

Nov 25, 2015 12:49:54 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Nov 25, 2015 12:40:15 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Whuuuttt? 1confused1 ...that sounds like a really odd conversation, well the "would you get back with him" part. Where in the hell is that coming from?

She told me he still has very strong feelings for me. I said, I understand because he has never accepted the fact that we are divorced.

He clearly has many, many issues to work through.

Clearly! Hopefully she can help him move on now that she's heard you say you're not interested

[LoveBug]

I took the day off and I'm getting my hair done as I type. DD left to spend the next few days with her dad. I miss her already but I'm trying to enjoy my time. I'm spending TDay with my BF tomorrow.

[idahome]

I'm listening to Christmas music in my office. It's helping to keep me calms as I deal with the emails from people who "forgot about open enrollment" and now want to make changes. They are wearing me out, I tell ya.

I had an M&M blizzard from Dairy Queen today for lunch. It was so good. I'm freezing now, but it tasted delicious.

Work is almost done until Friday. Yay!

[doglove]

Nov 25, 2015 12:19:26 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Nov 25, 2015 11:01:22 GMT -5 doriswe said:

1confused1 , how did it go with the therapist yesterday?

Thanks for asking.  It actually went very well, I basically just told her the history of him and I and some of the stuff his family has been through.  He has been surprisingly honest with her but I helped fill in with some information he left out.

She asked if I would consider removing the RO, he claims he can't get a job because of it.  I told her no, I don't trust him and that the RO is in place to protect me.  I told her he should consider looking for different jobs, perhaps starting at the bottom again since he has been out of the work force since 2012.

I also told her I don't consider him a parent, he is a guy who my kids have a lot of fun with every other weekend, but he has never taken on any parental responsibilities (homework, discipline, hygiene, etc.) .

We also went over in detail how much money he owes me.

She asked me if he made a complete turn around, would I consider getting back together with him.  I said absolutely not, I do not have any feelings for him except being sympathetic for the situation he has put himself in.  :^)

And, see my post above, they obviously met yesterday (which I didn't know was going to happen), a simple "I'm sorry" isn't going to undo all he has done to my kids and I.

Wow he and she has some balls to even suggest or talk about this. 

[glitzyglow]

1confused1 I am so sorry you have to put up with such bullshit. Big hugs!

[1confused1]

Thanks all. I had a good cry last night and a vent session with my parents.

I'm just tired of his head games.

[bg]

holy crap 1confused1 that's crazy!

After stbxdh signing the divorce papers on monday (without telling me he was going to), today I woke up to the gas not working. Yeah, so when I first moved into the (our) apartment back in July, he was in charge of transferring/turning on all of the utilities so he'd feel some responsibility. He didn't do the gas. So now I have to wait until Dec 7 to have hot water, stove etc. Great timing. Even after he decides to end the relationship the hits just keep on coming...

ETA: he also didn't pay the electric this month. Awesome.

[1confused1]

Damn bg I'm sorry!

[Eureka1984]

here is my hair! It turned out so nice!

[winecat]

I'm sorry 1confused1 and bg.